My mam died very suddenly last week. We are all still in shock and to top it all off we very nearly lost my dad this week too. He's now very ill in hospital.
My husband has not been particularly supportive but we had a chat the other night and he seemed to be a bit better.
He has a horrible big beard that is grown out (through laziness as he mostly works from home) and is overdue a haircut. I asked him to him to book in at the barbers and get a haircut and beard trim for when my mams funeral is (which we haven't even had chance to sort yet due to how sudden her death was).
Anyway he told me "I don't need a haircut and my beard is fine". It isn't because he even said the other week "I'll have to sort this beard out". I said "please have a haircut and trim your beard, it's my mams funeral" and he got really annoyed and told me I couldn't tell him what to do.
I don't know why he's being like this, it's not like I'm asking him to totally change his look it's a usual thing he does to have a trimmed beard and smart haircut and I just can't understand how he doesn't see how disrespectful this is that he's refusing to do it now of all times.
I'm hurting so much and worried sick about my dad and grieving for my mam and he's been working so I've had to try and be strong for the kids and I just feel like he's not there when I need him more than ever.