To put tracking app on (daughter's) mobile

[Liz1tummypain]

I'm asking for information and your experience with these. What is the name of a good app? How have you used them?

My daughter is off travelling soon for 6- 9 months approx. Going to Bangkok to start with, Vietnam and so on. She's mid- twenties 27? hard to remember. So yesterday I mentioned a tracker app, as a friend had suggested it to me, and she just laughed. Think I may be able to persuade her. You suggestions on how to convince her would be fab please. Why would she be likely to resent it? I can't imagine the issue with it.

Any info would be helpful. Many thanks.

She's an adult. You need to let her be independent. There is absolutely no way in hell that I'd let anyone track me like that and it will just feed you anxiety.

She’s an adult. I don’t understand why you would want to do this.

She's an adult. You cant do this unless it's at her own suggestion.

You find it hard to remember your daughter's age?

Also 27 isn't mid twenties she's nearly 30. When do you intend to let go?

Are you serious? You have no right to do this.

You can't remember her age how would you remember to check the app? What is your fear as a app tracker won't help, as she's too far away.

My dd is currently travelling abroad she's on find my phone and Snapchat. I love being able to check where she is

She is an adult, indeed. She also has had problems with drink that have got her in quite a few pickles. I know Bangkok isn't the end of the earth and there are communications/ wifi in most places. I just feel it might reassure me if she doesn't respond to any messages for a number of days. She sometimes doesn't reply at the mo and I have learned to live with it. I suppose it's just something I've heard about so wanted to ask.

She's quite sensible I suppose. I don't know. Just seeking people's experiences as she's going to be on her own and I am a bit of a worrier.

I don’t believe this is real. Sorry but you need to do better

Unless she’s completely happy to have it on her phone, I agree with everyone else, you need to let her be an adult.
Find My Friends on iPhone is great, my family and I use it so we can see each other’s whereabouts - so for example before I call my sister for a chat I would check to make sure she’s home and not out and about, and it does away with the need to text to say you got home safe etc. But we don’t use it for ‘tracking’.
Just because you can track her phone doesn’t tell you if she’s OK or not. If you are so anxious it will drive you mad.

Unless she suggested it , no.

It won't reassure you. It will just give you something to fixate on. Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

Why would she be likely to resent it? I can't imagine the issue with it.

The issue is that she is mid- twenties 27? hard to remember and doesn't want her mum tracking her every move as if she was 12.

Why do you think it's a good idea? And why on earth can't you remember how old your daughter is??

She wants her privacy and she's a grown adult. You should respect that.

I understand that you'll worry or spend time wondering about where she is but she's not a pre-teen who is new to going out alone so don't pressure her into it.

Thanks, @autienotnaughty .I've never even used Snap chat! Is it simple to use? And did you always have your daughter on that or did you just do it when you knew she was about to go travelling?

Yes, that's a goo point. I could indeed start to fixate. Thanks @mynameiscalypso

If the app gives you the wrong location or doesn't work because she's in a rural location, will you be ok or would you spend days obsessing ? Could you ask her to contact you once a week so you know she's ok?

Realistically, what's the point? If she's out getting drunk in Bangkok, you aren't going to be able to go pick her up. This,won't do anything besides stoke your anxiety.

Thanks, @PeekAtYou that is a nice idea , ask her to message me once a week. I like that. Going to consider this :)

I think it a brilliant idea to set it up and let her manage it
so if there was reason she felt she needed it she could just enable it

the key thing is she’s in control of when she’s tracked
i know it kind of defeats to object but it’s a good compromise

No don't go there

of course she laughed she's a grown woman, also don't try and convince her either, it's not your choice

If you do track her what are you going to do with the information?

Erm how do you not remember your daughters age lol. But anyway, I actually don’t think it’s a bad idea to have a tracker on her phone but obviously she would need to be in total agreement with it. I’d agree to it if it was my mum and I’m in my 30s. I don’t have a problem her knowing where I am ect