To not want to stay with partner's friends?

[Ididnthityouharold]

Nothing at all against them, I mean I've only ever met them twice in nearly 3 years, but they seem nice. The man is a long-term friend of my partner's. They have offered us an open invitation to stay in their spare room for a couple of days.
Honestly I couldn't think of anything worse, it's nothing to do with them. But I'm terribly introverted and quiet and the thought of having to spend all that time with people I barely know makes me feel sick.
I don't really like staying at other people's houses (it's different when I stay at my family's as I can be myself) so generally I don't stay anywhere else apart from there or my partner's parents', I'd much rather get a hotel. I am so glad we don't have a spare room as I hate having people to stay too.
I probably sound really miserable but that's how I am.
Anyway aibu to decline this invitation? Not really sure what excuse I could give? don't want to lie, but what can I say except, I don't want to really?
Obviously my partner should still go by himself.
Maybe I could arrive in the evening late, sleep and leave early in the morning, but no more than that.

Hi, as a fellow introvert I completely empathise with your reasoning. I wouldn’t enjoy staying at someone’s house that I barely know either.

you are not obliged to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. For what reason are you being invited there?

I don't like staying at people's houses. Im not an introvert ajd have done it but i never feel comfortable

Suggest you book a hotel and hang out with them but then retreat to your own
Space to sleep/shower/crap etc

YANBU. Decline. Sounds like hell on earth (introvert here).
Excuse: Can't get time off work.

I am an extrovert but don’t enjoy staying anywhere apart from my own house or a nice hotel! I love socialising but am glad our friends are local so we never have to sleep over!

In your situation I guess I would do a night or two but no more.

For what it's worth @Ididnthityouharold, I completely understand where you're coming from. I know a lot of posters on Mumsnet get sick of people saying they are introverted, as if they're making it up or they are just antisocial and intransigent. I am introverted and, in all honesty, I find that I am the one trying hard to fit in with everyone else, rather than anyone making any sort of accommodation for me. A forum like this is probably the only place I feel comfortable saying I am introverted, because most people don't get it. I imagine Internet forums are probably a safe space for quite a lot of introverted people, so perhaps we are over represented there!

I am a bit socially awkward, but I can overcome it and get along perfectly well with people, however afterwards I need to decompress and that involves getting time on my own. I also seem to have a deep need to mull over conversations and reassure myself that I haven't said anything too ridiculous! Staying overnight with people is therefore difficult. I have done it, but not with anyone I don't know very well. I honestly think getting to know people by staying in their house and being in their company from dawn til dusk is not the norm, no matter what some posters are saying here.

Wow, people actually suggesting that the OPs partner should consider whether he wants to spend a lifetime with he OP because she doesn't like staying at other people's houses.

Of all the things I would split fir, thus firs by even appear on the list.

OP this is a non issue. We all have lines in the sand. Yours isn't that you only eat foods he doesn't or that you are politically opposite or that you have different plans for having or not having dc. It's that you don't like staying at other people's houses. Good God some of the replies here are mental

The idea that introvert is weak and extrovert is the desired state is a problem. In fact, OP is showing the opposite by being able to say ‘I don’t like doing that and I don’t want to.’ It’s boundaries. Staying at people’s houses isn’t obligatory just because they like it. She’s showing willing to compromise.

I'm with you Op, I never stay in people's houses. (Well, I have stayed with friends who have bloody huge places, but that doesn't feel the same at all and you get your own bathroom!). I'm completely honest - I'd/We'd love to come and spend some time with you. You'll think I'm mad, but I'm really not comfortable staying with friends. I don't sleep well, I like to roam about at all hours making tea... I just don't feel right doing that in someone else's home. Please don't be offended, can we come visit but stay nearby?

As an intense introvert, I understand you. Can you suggest you have work commitments meaning you can only stay 1 night?

If you’re really just wanting to know what to say, your husband can explain that you’ll only be joining for a night because you have other obligations, but he’d love the additional time with them. That obligation may be your mental health but why would that be less important than, say, work? As long as your husband understands and you aren’t plain rude about it, there’s no issue.

@TheseThree since the thread is from JANUARY the situation has probably been resolved

How did you actuality find this to resurrect it

@Kinneddar

Totally blanked on checking the date when it showed up recommended from a different thread 🤦🏽‍♀️

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