I'm early 30s and have been in a relationship for 5 months with a friend i've known for 3 years prior. We met through mutual friends, but I wasn't ready for a relationship at the time. In the meantime, we struck up a good friendship and he became one of my closest friends. He expressed interest sometime last year and we've been together since then.
Now we're considering getting married later this year (probably around November) and will probably be moving in together around this period, though he spends half his time at my place already. He isn't british, so there are visas and applications to worry about, but we'll get to that bridge closer to the time.
The few people i've told have mostly expressed concern about the speed we are moving at, though some are very excited for me. They think we're not taking enough time to get to know each other romantically and are skipping some steps. I think getting to know him as a friend first has cut out a lot of the "introduction time" and has allowed us to focus on the more practical things like where we're going to live, when we want to have kids, finances, long term goals, parenting styles etc
So i'd like to know what you guys think?
YABU - yes, you're moving too fast, slow down and smell the roses
YANBU - older relationships don't need years before deciding to tie the knot.