Sister "lectures" my son

[Jollofrice]

Sister has son similar age to mine who we visit twice a year or so. Everyone gets on well. When her son does something "wrong" whether major or minor and on every instance he will get a long talk about why he had to say please/not run/how he was careless for dropping his good...Her voice is not raised,generally fair though the talks get repetitive. She does the same to my son and generally I let it pass whether I think fair or not however yesterday it just got to a point where I thought it's just sucking the fun out of the day/visit and the talks should be reserved for unsafe/important issues.

I see her son unhappy with these talks but not my place to comment on style of parenting.

I guess my tolerance for letting certain things go are higher than hers.

Example: My son was getting the last pizza slice from a box and asked if he could have it. He did lift it out of the box and Sister from halfway across the room said "No, that is John's" and walked towards him so being startled he tries to pass the slice to her and dropped it. Instantly she said "you dropped it because you were rushing. Stop rushing so much!".

I knew John already had a slice and my son also only had once slice. So I asked why was it John's as they both had a slice so maybe they could have shared it? She said I don't who had what and that is irrelevant here. He was rushing so dropped it which is strictly true.

AIBU - Sister is doing me a favour so that my son learns?

AIBNU - Sister has over reached her boundaries?

Bloody hell some posters here sound like absolutely horrible people. Seriously unpleasant. A young child was still hungry after only one slice of pizza and took another. Only a ridiculous person would consider this greedy. The adults should have made sure enough food was provided. Even a very polite child is very unlikely to be keeping an inventory of how much food each person has eaten, they're likely to assume that enough food was provided and since they've only had one piece they can have another.

No it's greedy to eat more than everyone else and take the last slice without really asking

That's not greedy. You making nasty comments about a young child for behaving in a developmentally normal way is deeply unpleasant though. If I was going to cast around nasty aspersions I'd be questioning who ate the rest of the pizza and who failed to provide enough lunch for the kids. Really that's not necessary though. You don't have to go round insulting people. The feeling of superiority it gives you is very hollow.

Okay calling someone greedy isn't nasty. It's factual. Some people are greedier than others. Kids tend to be greedier than adults because they haven't been taught how to not be. It is greedy to take the food off the plate without checking to see if everyone has had their fair share.

Also, I'm not superior in the slightest. I am also greedy. I have an excessive desire for food and always want more, I've just learned how to control it.

I don't think it's 'greedy' to still be hungry. To expect a seven year old hungry little boy to have the manners of a great aunty at a tea party is tad unreasonable.

To chastise someone else's little boy in such a situation, rather than swallowing your irritation, even if it is your nephew, is very poor manners.

I am so sick of people policing and critiquing other people's eating because they enjoy being controlling. I swear it leads to nothing but tears, and poor relationships with people and food.

It's not greedy to still be hungry.

It is to grab the last bit of food before asking.

As no one wants food after someone else has grabbed it. (Though pizza slice I could probably manage but in general you don't touch food others may eat)

He didn’t eat more than everyone else you numpty. He had one single slice of pizza. Do you serve up pizza for lunch giving each person only one slice?

And he couldn’t possibly check if anyone had had less than him because he’d only had one single slice.