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Right hand Wedding ring finger bruise

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WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 20:14

Would you be worried about a bruise on a ring hand wedding ring finger? My friend is in a long distance relationship with a guy and she’s upset over a bruise on his left hand wedding ring. She hasn’t confronted him about it but says it’s on the opposite hand to what British people wear.

Shes stayed at his house and been seeing him for a while. Bit too early to meet his family.

Any thoughts? He’s Swedish.

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WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 22:15

Vallmo47 · 03/01/2023 21:34

You’re Persian but you said your friend is Swedish, you then said it’s actually your sister. I’m Swedish so could answer your question in Swedish if you like.

Jag tycker du ska hålla dig utanför detta.
Om han är förlovad/gift är någonting din syster kan fråga honom själv om. Det Finns ingen anledning att spekulera. Jag skulle råda din syster att skynda långsamt. Ett förhållande på distans fungerar bara om en av parterna är villiga att flytta - tro mig det vet jag av erfarenhet. :)

Long distance relationship, we are migrants to Europe.

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Absolutescum · 03/01/2023 22:20

That's an indentation.. A bruise is a completely different thing!

Right hand Wedding ring finger bruise
onmywayamarillo · 03/01/2023 22:39

I wear a ring on my right hand ring finger, opened a bottle of wine last week and got a bruise on the underside of my ring finger , my hands were really cold. It was odd and really hurt for ages. And it came up really bruised m. So it can happen

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WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 22:42

onmywayamarillo · 03/01/2023 22:39

I wear a ring on my right hand ring finger, opened a bottle of wine last week and got a bruise on the underside of my ring finger , my hands were really cold. It was odd and really hurt for ages. And it came up really bruised m. So it can happen

Thanks.

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ThePoshUns · 03/01/2023 22:44

Greensleevevssnotnose · 03/01/2023 21:03

This site gets more nonsensical everyday. The shit people find to worry about astounds me.

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KrisAkabusi · 03/01/2023 22:53

Yet again, another mystery that could be solved if people spoke to each other! If your sister is worried tell her to ASK HIM!! Nobody here knows whe he has a bruise, so just fucking talk to him and find out!

catfunk · 03/01/2023 23:02

Congrats op, this is officially the weirdest thread I've read on here.
You both sound unhinged.

Chickenly · 03/01/2023 23:05

My take is that he needs to get away from her because she’s clearly paranoid and unstable. No rational thinking person reaches this conclusion.

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WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 23:07

Chickenly · 03/01/2023 23:05

My take is that he needs to get away from her because she’s clearly paranoid and unstable. No rational thinking person reaches this conclusion.

Weird place to have a bruise?

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AramintaLee · 03/01/2023 23:07

Ummm... I think a bruise from a wedding ring isn't likely. It's probably the least likely thing of all the things it could be. I don't know many people who weight lift with their jewellery on (I definitely take my engagement ring off because it's uncomfortable wearing it when lifting weights)

Honestly as people have said, probably best just to ask him. My fiancé is always covered in bruises (dangerous hobby) and I'm always pointing them out and asking where he got them (none have been due to a wedding ring of any kind - yet!)

Chickenly · 03/01/2023 23:23

WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 23:07

Weird place to have a bruise?

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It’s not usual but it’s not unheard of. It could’ve been caused by lots of things. Jumping to the conclusion he’s married because he has a bruise on his palm near his ring finger on what may or may not be the correct hand is dangerous levels of paranoia.

TrishM80 · 03/01/2023 23:35

Yes, I think the fellow is quite clearly married and the bruise is obviously caused by a wedding ring which he removes when carrying out his clandestine relationship with your sister.

Well done OP, or should I say Columbo, you've cracked the case and uncovered this guy's sordid little secret!

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WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 23:39

Chickenly · 03/01/2023 23:23

It’s not usual but it’s not unheard of. It could’ve been caused by lots of things. Jumping to the conclusion he’s married because he has a bruise on his palm near his ring finger on what may or may not be the correct hand is dangerous levels of paranoia.

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It’s on his ring finger, palm side…. But right hand

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WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 23:39

TrishM80 · 03/01/2023 23:35

Yes, I think the fellow is quite clearly married and the bruise is obviously caused by a wedding ring which he removes when carrying out his clandestine relationship with your sister.

Well done OP, or should I say Columbo, you've cracked the case and uncovered this guy's sordid little secret!

Why quite clearly when it’s the opposite hand?

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starfishmummy · 03/01/2023 23:54

It’s on his ring finger, palm side…. But right hand

You keep repeating this.

I deduce that you are actually the Swedish Man, and are married. You have realised your girlfriend has seen the bruise/indentation and want to know what you can say it is, so she is not suspicious.

JustAnotherManicMomday · 04/01/2023 00:06

Point was different countries wear wedding rings on different hands so bruising from wedding ring could be on either. Sil wears hers on right bil wears on left. They each wear ring on finger that is used in birth country.

Glitterblue · 04/01/2023 01:42

Vallmo47 · 03/01/2023 21:34

You’re Persian but you said your friend is Swedish, you then said it’s actually your sister. I’m Swedish so could answer your question in Swedish if you like.

Jag tycker du ska hålla dig utanför detta.
Om han är förlovad/gift är någonting din syster kan fråga honom själv om. Det Finns ingen anledning att spekulera. Jag skulle råda din syster att skynda långsamt. Ett förhållande på distans fungerar bara om en av parterna är villiga att flytta - tro mig det vet jag av erfarenhet. :)

OP said the man is Swedish, in the first post. Not the friend/sister 🙂

Badgirlriri · 04/01/2023 01:51

this is ridiculous. Poor guy needs to run for the hills.

sashh · 04/01/2023 02:08

OK your sister has a few children and has known this man for a while but suspects he is married because he has a bruise on his hand that has not been caused by a ring.

Is that it?

Where did the kids come from? Is she married? Does she wear a ring?

curiousierandcouriser · 04/01/2023 02:11

There are plenty of innocent explanations before jumping to the conclusion that the guy is married/engaged (especially as a ring is more likely to cause an indentation or callus than a bruise). You even say its on the non-traditional wedding ring hand.

For example, the bruise could be from gym equipment but I can't imagine anyone would wear a ring while working out. Seems very uncomfortable.

Or he could just occasionally wear a ring (not a wedding ring) on his finger which chaffed / bruised it somehow.

KupoNutCoffee · 04/01/2023 07:04

You seem to want us to say 100% a ring caused this mark, or offer a concrete explanation. I feel you've probably spent longer analysing the mark cause than actually looking at it.

It's not beyond the realms of possibility a ring could cause a bruise. Or equally a piece of gym equipment, dropping something or catching it - pinching it a bag strap or extending suitcase carry - travelling involves suitcases and bags! Or just a mystery - occasionally I have a bruise turn up - I'd be put out at least if my husband demanded an explanation (as opposed to just accepting 'oh that...I dunno?') for discovering a bruise and seeing it as absolute proof of suspicious activity.

It's not clear how long they've know each other...but it seems there was a time at least when they weren't dating. I can't see he'd have any reason to hide a wife while doing a hobby, unless you're suspecting it was premeditated all along that he started this hobby to cheat.

If your friend/sister/you is absolutely convinced it's a secret ring, no explanation is going to be good enough for you from him. Especially as its likely he might not even know. It could have been a shadow for the briefest time it was spotted. If you have doubts on his integrity, or just aren't interested anymore, then end relationship. You don't need to justify it with a reason, or fabricate a story of cheating and deception around a tiny injury.

EnyoClytemnestra · 04/01/2023 07:12

WorriedWarrier · 03/01/2023 20:27

She’s been asking in the group chat as she saw it when she was leaving for the airport and caught a bit of guard…. Didn’t want to appear crazy or whatever

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Didn’t want to appear crazy or whatever

This entire post seems crazy
Are you the person you are posting about? If not, are you going to collate all the replies here and send them to the person concerned, despite them not soliciting 'advice' from mn?

ZeroFuchsGiven · 04/01/2023 07:22

My brain hurts

FettleOfKish · 04/01/2023 07:26

SirVixofVixHall · 03/01/2023 20:27

My Swedish friend has his Wedding ring on his left hand, I think that is normal for Sweden , as here.
If your friend is worried he may be married, then a bruise hardly seems a likely indicator !

Swedish DH wears his on his left hand, as does Swedish BIL.

NashvilleQueen · 04/01/2023 07:27

OP you've started a lot of threads in the past week across a whole host of subjects. Whilst I'm not suggesting any of them aren't true and it's entirely up to you what you post it does read as though you start a thread for any random thought that crosses your mind. And then often only give half an answer to the sensible questions that follow as people try to help.