Aibu or him: Car broke down

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Husband hit a pot hole near his work about 45 mine away from home and burst a tyre. No harm beyond that and he pulled into a large, safe stopping place to ait for recovery. e doesn't have a spare - been meaning to get one but never got around to it.
The breakdown peopel are really busy and 1hr15mins later still haven't got someone out.
He wants me to go and pick him up so he doesn't have to wait and let the recovery peoek bring the car bac when they have time, but that will mean a 2 x 50 min trip for me to get him, I have made arrangements to be somewhere soon and I have also already done a full day at work plus 2 hours of house chores and pet care for us.
AIBU to tell him to just hang on and wait rather than us both have to spend hours dealing with this?

Considering you’ve been on MN all evening, what were these supposed plans you refused to cancel?

Ummmm no I said leave him because of your attitude. You know, so he can find some less.... selfish. Couldn't imagine treating my partner like that but then again, we have a healthy 2-way relationship

I'd pay a couple of hundred pounds to get my car fixed quickly and get back home. Why would anyone sit there for hours if they can afford not to. It sounds like he chose the most sensible option in my opinion.

I can't believe some of the comments on here. Can you really imagine someone being arrested for keeping their car warm while awaiting recovery. 😂 It's hard enough to get actual criminals arrested these days.

I'm glad he's home OP and that he sorted a better and more sensible solution.

Look, your attitude towards your partner and wanting to help him is shit. Take it or leave it, it doesn't change that to be honest. Or, you could be honest with yourself and maybe change your attitude towards helping him/others even if it puts yourself out. Makes the world a better place etc etc etc. I used to be like you until I was 23. A "why should I" attitude. I went through a lot of self reflection and a huge change in mindset and its much nicer not to be like that

Maybe I will call the police myself because GOD FORBID he didn't turn his engine off to obey the law that literally not a fucking single soul even knew about let alone cared..

I don't even drive and even I knew the law on idling. Maybe somebody needs a refresher course.

How are they going to even get into his car if he's not there?

YANBU, my H would never expect me to come and get him in this situation. He keeps a spare tyre and changes the tyre himself. Even if he can’t wait, he waits for the AA himself.

Conversely, he would want me to call him
in this situation. Women are more vulnerable than men and he would want me to be safe. He has driven to me and changed the tyre for me previously.

Same thing happened to me, on the way to work quite close to home. It was early morning though. My car has no spare and tyre was ripped not punctured. Only 10 minutes from home. You cant just bugger off and leave your vehicle for the recovery people to sort out!
Recovery was 5 hours. (Yes I complained - a lot) DH was working so couldnt swap places, but he did pop by with breakfast and coffee and then again later so i could go for a wee. Its not a big deal. Im a big girl and can cope with sitting in a car if its in a safe place. As could your DH.

Buying a wheel to keep in the boot isn't a good idea if the car is one of those which doesn't have a proper space for it - a lot don't these days - because they're every heavy and very dangerous things to be loose within the car in an accident.

I once broke down in the absolute pouring rain. I was with Green Flag (I suspect the OP is the same, there is a reason they are cheap.....) It wasnt safe for me to sit in the car so I stood by the side of the road for 2 hours in the down pour, soaked to the skin when the recovery turned up, took one look at it and said "Nah, cant take this love, you shoul dhave told them it was a 4x4" I pointed out that I had and he showed me his alert on his phone and lo and behold the vehicle stats clearly said 4x4! He fucked off and was another hour before coming back. I suspect he got a roasting because he was in a foul mood.

Point is, I survived. I didnt see the point in calling anyone, because they couldnt do anything. He didnt call as it was dangerous or injured, he was bored. HArdly an emergency. I wouldnt have gone either!

Wow can't believe all those who are banging on about the car sitting idling. Yes it's illegal but there's not really a choice. It's bloody freezing in the evenings. I'm pretty sure any copper would not be interested in that and even if they were it's a fine worth paying. No way would I sit in my car if I'd broken down for 2-3 hours without heating.

To be honest I disagree with what part of this you object to. I would absolutely expect my husband to drop everything if I were stranded at night in winter, because that is what partners do for each other.

But I would be reluctant to do this but purely because the car needs to be attended not abandoned.