To be angry that my family banned me from Christmas for having covid

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I flew 4000 miles to see my parents for Christmas. I unfortunately have to live in a different country from them.

I am asymptomatic but had to test due to being exposed to someone with COVID.

My parent was supposed to pick me up from the airport but decided not to after the positive test.

I see my parent once a year at most. They don't travel to see me. My parent and the rest of their family went ahead with the celebration but I was uninvited.

Fortunately, my other parent picked me up and let me stay with them (my parents are divorced)

They have agreed to meet me in a park tomorrow for an hour, which will be the extent of my time with them for the next year.

AIBU to consider this relationship basically over?

If I'm wrong I'm wrong, but I have every right to give my opinion. It's pretty obvious the OP is being selective about their own behaviour and reactions but even the bare facts show a very entitled attitude. It's not her parents fault she lives abroad nor that she tested positive for covid but apparently they should just suck it up and get unwell. I couldn't imagine wanting to put my parents in that position, any more than I'd go over with a nasty gastric bug or the flu, especially with the NHS in a state of crisis. It wouldn't even occur to me to put them in that position because, you know, I care about them and want them to be well.

And we had a very similar situation with our extended family over Christmas, of course it was disappointing but there was no suggestion of them just coming anyway. We had a second 'alternative' Christmas meal for them a few days later. Nobody fell out because nobody was a selfish dick about it.

Family relationships trump caring about the NHS.

I hope the op can stay in touch and repair the hurt

@Aspiringmatriarch the thing is, if OP was such a dick (like you're trying to make her sound) she either wouldn't have tested at all, or not told them about it. Then none of this would've been an issue.

So the parents where supposed to get COVID and risk another pressure to the NHS all so op could get her way? Discussing attitude😡

Except they tested and then expected to come and share it around, so...no. Mystifying attitude tbh.

And sure, none of it would have been an issue unless/until her family got ill. Which is kind of the point.

And so what?? Why would anyone be ok with catching it again?? Are you really that ignorant?

She flew there how do you know they even use the NHS? Are they in the U.K.?

But yeh I wouldn’t make decisions due to the NHS more what’s best for family. Which may mean someone isolating or not depending on their health.

I still wouldn't want you around in that situation either.

She’s vague but I don’t believe her parents are in the UK the based on the details here, so it’s unlikely they would put more pressure on the NHS.

It’s also unlikely they’d be hospitalised in the event one or both caught Covid at their age, although it wouldn’t be a rare event either.

And so what?? Why would anyone be ok with catching it again?? Are you really that ignorant?

Don’t you know that you’ll get Covid, several times, throughout your life?

Tbh maybe she should have done that, but perhaps experiencing (again?) a rather ugly side to her parent will have some benefit in the end

With this kind of attitude, we’ll never get back to normal.

You do realise that kids are still dying of chicken pox, don’t you? A handful every year in fact …

But what do all this people do when someone in their household has covid?

Two of us live in a 4 bedroom house. We stayed in different rooms, while DH tested positive. A couple of times, I had to go shopping, I wore a FFP2 mask, to try not to infect anybody else, if I were incubating it! I didn’t catch it.

Having been to A & E twice last year with DD, to check for broken bones, which meant waits of 8 - 12 hours, with us sitting on the floor in a corridor (and she would have had to, as well, if we didn’t have a wheelchair for her for these eventualities); there is no way, I would want to have to go to A & E for Covid, pneumonia, whatever in the current even worse situation.

As they say people are dying every week, due to delayed care in A & E, don’t we all have a duty to try to look after ourselves, and avoid trips to A & E, if we can avoid it?

^ sums this thread up. Reminiscent of all the 'school children are killing teachers and grannies' threads, and neighbours spying and wanting to report each other for shopping milk for their cups of tea, as milk is not essential and you don't care for the vulnerable if you go for a walk with a friend 😂

Meanwhile in the real world, grandparents of all ages, crave to see family getting depressed at the lack social interaction and not giving a shiny shite about catching covid if isolating means they are lonely. Teens and elderly still depressed and affected today from periods of extended social isolation 2 years ago. Wearing ridiculously inefficient DIY fabric face masks to virtue signal but no FFP2 Face Masks in sight (follow the science right????).

There are some pretty weird posts and threads on MN, mostly on Covid, SAHM, and royal family ones. Awkward people who are obsesses with a thing and a chip on their shoulder. Best to stay away as it does not mirror real life 😂One poster even says it upthread. "I'm entitled to express my opinion", this from people most wouldn't take seriously if they knew them in RL. It's dodgy central. At least they get a teeny tiny platform to rant to the world, I suppose. Best ignored 😉.

Meanwhile in the real world, grandparents of all ages, crave to see family getting depressed at the lack social interaction and not giving a shiny shite about catching covid if isolating means they are lonely.

There is no one thing elderly people (or any people) were doing "in the real world" - all the elderly people in my life were very paranoid about catching it and refused to see anyone, even though yes they were lonely.

People need to stop with the argument that it's only on MN that people were and are worried about Covid. The fact is many people were and many people weren't, even "in the real world". Opinion was, and remains, divided.

It's people like you who are gullible and believe the lies the government and the Daily Mail want you to believe. The NHS being on its knees is down to years of underfunding and Brexit, not because people 'don't take responsibility' 🙄.

The fact is many people were and many people weren't, even "in the real world". Opinion was, and remains, divided.

Actually this is true.

That divisions and infighting is the thing that we should really pay attention to.

That’s not an ´opinion’. That’s full on fiction 😝

I wouldn’t dream of meeting my parents if I had Covid because I care about them and their well-being.
YABU.

No, they don't. Family relationships are very important, but they don't trump matters of life and death, which the NHS is.

Of course it's neither the OP's nor her parents' fault that the NHS is in such a precarious state. We can blame successive governments for that. But given that it is, why risk lives more than we need to?

Which bit? That the OP, who made it clear on here and to her parents that she felt entitled to knowlingly give them covid so her Christmas plans werent disrupted, might have been shirty on the phone and unlikely to be keen to just sit out on the porch? Or me mentioning my own family situation?

No I’m all for personal responsibility when it comes to health but that’s because it’s a good idea. People using the you must care about the NHS in your decision making.. no I don’t need to consider it at all. Others can if they want to, up to them.

But that line just reminds me if the pandemic and I’ve moved on mentally. It was over used and worn out.

And now when it’s likely the parents aren’t even in the U.K. posters are telling the op to think about the NHS, it’s so engrained for some.

I would be more sympathetic if I could understand how you can need a lift from the airport, which was denied because of a positive test, and yet deny having flown with Covid. It may only have been an internal flight but it still implies that plans could have been changed at an earlier stage.