To be hurt by this?

[Lis1992]

So my sister and her partner are staying. I had said to my parents that I’d pay for a takeaway for all tonight as they cooked last night. Then people changed the type of food they wanted but both takeaways are nearby. So parents said they’d get the pizza that two of us wanted and the chips that others wanted (next door) my mom said to me ‘so you just pay for yours and then it’s cheaper’ . In the end parents just paid for all but I was so hurt and insulted by this comment. I’d never say that. The second thing is, I was in the shower. We had all planned to watch a movie. I feel so left out but maybe I’m being too sensitive? I heard them all choosing a movie downstairs and joking around (or serious I don’t know!) saying they should wait for me. Saying ‘oh just tell her you guys had it on the tv and we started watching it’ and stuff. In the end I just said ah watch it without me I’ve seen it. But I’m upstairs upset now and don’t know if I’m being too sensitive. AIBU to be hurt?

Sorry- with the food comment she meant cheaper for me to buy my own as I wanted a different food type- and not have to pay for everyone else’s too!

You are hurt that your parents offered to pay for some of the takeaway so it wouldn't cost you so much?
The selfish bastards.....

I think you are being over sensitive to be honest. Someone did a nice thing to pay for the takeaway because you are hosting. I don't see the issue with this.

it perhaps would have been politer if they'd waited for you to get out of bathroom to watch a film but I don't really think any of this is anything to be upset over 🤷‍♀️

Soooo your family paid for your food and had a discussion about waiting for you to watch the film (meaning you were thought about and considered) and you’re upset, sat upstairs sulking about it?

I don’t think I’ve felt to at level of misplaced angst since my early teens!

Do you live with your parents and sis and dp were visiting? With the takeaway maybe they thought they were being nice, are you living there to save money?
Re the shower how long were you away for?

I don't understand. They offered to pay for the more expensive stuff so you could save money and you're hurt?

No I’m not hosting.
I offered as they cooked last night. So it’s not insulting to say ‘you just pay for yours’ and also to pretend a movie was on already, as an excuse for not waiting for someone?

You would never offer to pay for a takeaway so that your own daughter didn't have to?

Why were you in the shower when everyone was choosing the movie?

@MeJane I mean I’d never say ‘ you just pay for yours’ I’d either say I’ll pay for everyone’s or
none at all.
nothinf to do with the actual money- just made me feel a bit isolated.

Super over sensitive!!!

I can understand why you're a little miffed about the film. Although maybe your reaction is OTT.

BUt I don't get why you're hurt that your parents have paid for the takeaway?

Insulting? Oh give over. You are looking for reasons to be offended.

@NancyVicious Thanks I see your point. I definitely think nicer to have waited but I can be sensitive at times too!

To be fair it annoys me when people disappear to have showers or baths or get changed etc right before were supposed to chill or eat

@Gazelda if you read above it’s not that. It’s that it was said’ so you just pay for yours’ which feels quite isolating. Not the money but the principle. Offer to pay all or nothing.

So it’s not insulting to say ‘you just pay for yours’

No, it isn't. And they paid for yours too.

pretend a movie was on already, as an excuse for not waiting for someone?

Were they pretending? I would see it as just wanting to get on with the film and the takeaway as you were in the shower at movie time. Why did the shower have to take place right then? Where was the takeaway at this point?

@QuillBill everyone had disappeared to do their own thing. Me too, with the shower. Then they were all downstairs choosing.

I reckon your parents know you can be a bit like this and said you pay for yours because you’d likely be funny about them paying for everyone and knew you wanted to “contribute” but then paid for everyone when they realised you were so deeply traumatised and offended by their suggestion.

I think you’re being over sensitive. Go back down and salvage some of the night.

These are non events.

So where was the food?

I'm completely baffled by the takeaway part of this. I've reread & still cannot understand it. Someone offered to save you money & you've got offended? In fact you'd offered to buy in the first place - regardless of people's food choices, you should of insisted you still pay the total amount. Your parents should be the ones miffed at having to foot a bill for something you suggested.

Pull yourself together a bit. Ridiculously over sensitive.

Your reaction to this is just odd

If you're 16 or younger then yes I can understand your point of view, but honestly if you're a grown adult then this is just extremely immature?

Are you 12?