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Glamourgal1989 · 2022-12-31T19:52:14+00:00

I said no but he went against my wish - she asked and I didn’t want to. He is wrong no??? He gave our 15 years old vodka to take AIBU ???

sm40 · 31/12/2022 21:33

Put your DH on DD puking duty!
I've sent my 16 year old off with a few beers. He's already done the vodka thing.(nothing to do with me and I would never provide vodka to anybody old or young)🤞🏻never to be repeated!

dolor · 31/12/2022 21:34

And? It's a teenage rite of passage.

Nanny0gg · 31/12/2022 21:37

jays · 31/12/2022 20:16

This! Crying, vomiting, regretful sexual decisions, fighting, unable to consent, stomach pumped, police involved…. Not being melodramatic but you do not hand a 15 year old child a bottle of vodka and send them off out the door.

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Had to go and pick up DS and friend after friend got paralytic at a party they shouldn't have been at, at 15.

Your husband's an idiot. They might get hold of it but you don't need to supply it

Miajk · 31/12/2022 22:18

Nanny0gg · 31/12/2022 21:37

Had to go and pick up DS and friend after friend got paralytic at a party they shouldn't have been at, at 15.

Your husband's an idiot. They might get hold of it but you don't need to supply it

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I grew up in eastern Europe.

Started drinking at 13, so did most my peers.

Out of all my friends and acquaintances, there was a spectrum:

chill parents who let alcohol happen. Bought it or allowed house parties
not overly stricted parents who didn't want to see but didn't encourage (my parents fell into this group)
strict, "not allowed"

Group 1: most of them drink socially, not much. No pull from alcohol.

Group 2: pretty similar

Group 3: went off the rails as soon as they moved out. Often serious issues around alcohol (binge drinking, alcoholics, etc)

I turned out fine. At 15 I'd go to house parties and in Eastern Europe vodka is the main beverage. I was able to handle my alcohol instead of being incapable of controlling my behaviour after two proseccos in the UK like many of my coworkers.

Miajk · 31/12/2022 22:20

Nanny0gg · 31/12/2022 21:37

Had to go and pick up DS and friend after friend got paralytic at a party they shouldn't have been at, at 15.

Your husband's an idiot. They might get hold of it but you don't need to supply it

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I had to take a friend to A&E in an awful state when she was 18 and moved out and started drinking. Couldn't contain herself around alcohol as parents never allowed it.

Anecdotal evidence can go either way really.

StephanieSuperpowers · 31/12/2022 22:57

Well he'll have to stay sober himself to pick her up.

tenbob · 31/12/2022 23:00

Miajk · 31/12/2022 22:18

I grew up in eastern Europe.

Started drinking at 13, so did most my peers.

Out of all my friends and acquaintances, there was a spectrum:

chill parents who let alcohol happen. Bought it or allowed house parties
not overly stricted parents who didn't want to see but didn't encourage (my parents fell into this group)
strict, "not allowed"

Group 1: most of them drink socially, not much. No pull from alcohol.

Group 2: pretty similar

Group 3: went off the rails as soon as they moved out. Often serious issues around alcohol (binge drinking, alcoholics, etc)

I turned out fine. At 15 I'd go to house parties and in Eastern Europe vodka is the main beverage. I was able to handle my alcohol instead of being incapable of controlling my behaviour after two proseccos in the UK like many of my coworkers.

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Grew up on England and witnessed the exact 3 same groups and exact 3 same outcomes…

DoubleShotEspresso · 31/12/2022 23:07

I'd be furious this is so irresponsible of your DH.

Pumperthepumper · 31/12/2022 23:09

tenbob · 31/12/2022 23:00

Grew up on England and witnessed the exact 3 same groups and exact 3 same outcomes…

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I hate nonsense like this so much. It’s not data, it’s just something people say to justify not parenting their kids, because it’s so much easier to be the cool one.

We have an atrocious attitude to alcohol in Britain. Fifteen year olds do not need bottles of vodka from their parents to develop a healthy relationship with drinking.

kimchifix · 31/12/2022 23:09

Dreading to hear about the NYE party DD is at. I offered her a box of chocs to give to the hosts mum & was laughed at😁

CleoandRalf · 31/12/2022 23:10

jays · 31/12/2022 20:34

If they are bringing a bottle of spirits, it’s wrong! My opinion? Eh no, it’s the law! What is actually wrong with you? To try and defend a 15 year old heading out to a party with a bottle of vodka? Sorry to burst your bubble of utter stupidly here, it’s illegal…. and for good reason. Underage sex is also illegal. If I oppose that, is that just my opinion too? Grow up!

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It’s not the law, it’s also not illegal.

The ignorance some on here are proud to display is a bit pathetic

kimchifix · 31/12/2022 23:10

And sorry but no to the vodka. There will no doubt BE booze at the party but I'm not going to help them.

theonlygirl · 31/12/2022 23:11

I've sent my 15 yr old to a party tonight with 3 beers. And said to absolutely stay off spirits if they are around. A bottle of vodka for a 15 year old is complete madness. 😥

Hesleepswiththefishes · 31/12/2022 23:12

Not spirits at that age

maybe a few beers or cider

TellMeWhere · 31/12/2022 23:15

I was allowed the odd drink at home from around 11+ maybe.

I still got plastered as soon as I could and as regularly as I could. Spirits had me make poor choices and put myself in risky situations.

It's nonsense that parents letting you have a brew or two at home prevents binge drinking. I had no interest in enjoying a drink, I wanted to be drunk, from 14 onwards.

CornishGem1975 · 31/12/2022 23:17

I've just taken my DD and her friend gin and tonics. I did a lot worse at a lot younger age.

Paq · 31/12/2022 23:21

Yeah, that is nuts. We shouldn't normalise getting drunk on spirits at 15.

My friends are literally guarding their teens and house from drunk agressive kids right now because their son's party got put on SM. None of this is normal.

LubaLuca · 31/12/2022 23:23

That's hugely irresponsible, to send a kid off with a bottle of vodka. A kid not used to alcohol will think 'this is what dad gave me, it must be a normal amount to drink' and will try to polish it off. I feel queasy at the thought of it.

Has he accepted it was a mistake, or is he standing by his choice?

Stopthebusplease · 31/12/2022 23:35

I agree with others who have said your DH was irresponsible sending her with a bottle of Vodka. I'm not totally against teens having a drink but certainly wouldn't be encouraging spirits at that age, and this after the NHS have particularly asked people to take responsibility for themselves tonight, not to go over the top with alcohol, etc, because they can't guarantee being around to help if you get in trouble! Yep, your DH did a great job today OP!

MargaretThursday · 31/12/2022 23:56

Did he "refill" it?

My friend sent her dd with a vodka bottle, refilled with tonic water. Her dd was delighted with that. It meant she could not lose face and could drink tonic water all evening.

lightswitchon · 31/12/2022 23:58

MargaretThursday · 31/12/2022 23:56

Did he "refill" it?

My friend sent her dd with a vodka bottle, refilled with tonic water. Her dd was delighted with that. It meant she could not lose face and could drink tonic water all evening.

There's something quite sad about this if you ask me. I understand it, but it's still sad.

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 01/01/2023 00:10

I wouldn't be bothered it's normal

MyMachineAndMe · 01/01/2023 00:37

They'll have it regardless so you may as well know what they're drinking, to a large extent, and that it's legit stuff not the knockoff illegal shit.

Dweetfidilove · 01/01/2023 00:45

Pumperthepumper · 31/12/2022 23:09

I hate nonsense like this so much. It’s not data, it’s just something people say to justify not parenting their kids, because it’s so much easier to be the cool one.

We have an atrocious attitude to alcohol in Britain. Fifteen year olds do not need bottles of vodka from their parents to develop a healthy relationship with drinking.

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It's really a load of nonsense.

My friends, siblings and I do not go off the rails and barely drink.

My parents would not dream of sending us off anywhere with a bottle in hand 🙄

Amybelle88 · 01/01/2023 00:50

A couple of Smirnoff ice is a whole different ball game to a bottle of vodka.

I'd allow some alcopops but absolutely fucking not would I allow my 15 year old child go to a party armed with a bottle of vodka. Absolutely not, and I'm relatively liberal when it comes to stuff like this but just no!