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Wheelerdeeler · 2022-12-30T22:20:58+00:00

My family were here for a meal this evening. My brother and sil offered their 15 year old son a beer. He had 2. I didn't say anything because it was a celebration for my parents so I didn't want to cause tension. Would this bother you? Yabu - not your son not your business Yanbu - not on to encourage a 15 year old to drink in someone else's house

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 31/12/2022 13:53

I like a drink and if you didnt have children a similar age I'd say YABU. But I do think its poor form to let their 15 year old drink in front of your 14 year old who wont be allowed til they're 17...its just going to cause issues.

The same way that we stayed with relatives recently and they let their kids play tablet all the time and gave them sweets and chocolate and biscuits just before meals to the extent they didnt eat their dinner and it caused a load of issues with our similar aged kids. It's not that they were wrong, it was just that when their kids asked they didnt think to consider all the kids that were staying in the house

Ginandtoner · 31/12/2022 13:56

I wouldn’t feel so smug about your dc not having alcohol at home until there 17

id be shocked with parents, as uptight as you sound, if they aren’t out drinking with friends instead 🤷‍♀️

Perhaps you need to display your house rules for your guests to see so they don’t inadvertently do normal things in your home that you will find offensive

Athenen0ctua · 31/12/2022 14:02

Wheelerdeeler · 30/12/2022 23:21

I have a teen 1 year younger

We were offered a drink at home from about 17 I think

I have no issue with what they do in their own home. Although I do think encouraging a 15 year to drink is not necessary.

I have an issue with it happening in someone else's house ie mine. I think it's inconsiderate.

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You could compare it to a five year old being given a can of full sugar coke in front of your 4 year old. Except a 4 year old is far less able to understand that different families have different rules than a 14 year old. I think you can disapprove but it's really none of your business.

Athenen0ctua · 31/12/2022 14:15

Rainallnight · 31/12/2022 13:41

Because I was unhappy with my children seeing someone from their generation, who is still very young, drinking alcohol. It normalises very young drinking.

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You may group them together as children but they will likely see their cousin as almost a grown up.

YoBeaches · 31/12/2022 15:26

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 31/12/2022 13:53

I like a drink and if you didnt have children a similar age I'd say YABU. But I do think its poor form to let their 15 year old drink in front of your 14 year old who wont be allowed til they're 17...its just going to cause issues.

The same way that we stayed with relatives recently and they let their kids play tablet all the time and gave them sweets and chocolate and biscuits just before meals to the extent they didnt eat their dinner and it caused a load of issues with our similar aged kids. It's not that they were wrong, it was just that when their kids asked they didnt think to consider all the kids that were staying in the house

That's like saying the 15 yr old can't have a new Games console cos the 14yr old isn't getting one.

Nonsense. Parents consent was provided. Why does the Op think she has the right to overrule her brothers and SILS parental
Controls?

IDontWantToBeAPie · 31/12/2022 16:30

I mean it's perfectly legal

Blanketchops · 01/01/2023 12:18

I used to drink a couple of drinks at a family occasion.

I've never been a big drinker and don't drink at all now. Normalising social drinking can lead to less taboo around it.

Aside from anything else it's their son so not your business.

Blanketchops · 01/01/2023 12:27

Also my 18 year old has also been allowed an occasional family occasion drink since around 14. She now loves going clubbing but she hardly drinks. Went out last night for new year and had 3.

Most people who drank SMALL amounts of alcohol responsibly younger have healthier relationships with drink. My DH was not allowed any as a teen and him and his DSis were terrible binge drinkers for years.

Harleigh · 01/01/2023 12:36

What is your actual problem with it? What did you need to consent to? It's legal and above board, so not sure what you needed to consent to?

Forestwalks · 01/01/2023 12:54

Confused why you felt you needed asking for your consent?

If they had asked if it was ok with you what would you have said? No because you don’t allow your child?

Think you are creating a issue out of nothing. You could be a mutual relatives house and they let their child drink and you don’t let yours. Think this is more of the case you dont let your child and don’t think anyone else should let theirs in your company.