to ask again for payment? very small amount

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A friend asked if I could pick something up for her whilst shopping, which I did. it only cost around £3
She said that she would send tge money over to me. I did mention the item in a message the next day,and she said that she needs to pay me
Do I just let it go now? It's not so much tge amount, but the principle.
I could factor it in the next time we meet (for example, if I pay I could add it on, or take it off a future payment to her)
I am thinking its negligible, so to forget about it..I really hate things like this though, and they can add up!

No, ask again but then learn your lesson and don’t do it again.

I agree it's annoying but it's such a small amount I wouldn't be bothered to chase it , next time though you don't pick anything up for her .

I don't think I'd ever care about £3 between friends unless I really needed it. Surely it usually evens out with one of you buying coffee/lunch etc 1 day, or her picking something up for you? I don't have a running tab with any friends.

I wouldn’t ask for £3, I’m sure she’ll do the same for you some day, or she’ll pay the tip when you have lunch etc etc etc, these things even out over the course of a friendship

Well that’s a good price to pay for never getting her anything in the shop ever again. £3 is a bargain!

Don't ever do it for her again.

How long ago was this?

It depends on how much £3 means to you, and how good friend she is. Does she normally do things like this? If not, I would let it go. If you really need the £3, say so and ask for it back.

It's not so much tge amount, but the principle.

Oh for God's sake!

I wouldn't even think of looking for £3 back. What principle?

If you really don't want to do even tiny favours for friends, just say 'no' every time you are asked.

and they can add up!

Are you picking up £3 items for friends very regularly then? 🙄

I wouldn't be chasing that up but I would expect the next time or even the time after that for her to offer to buy me a coffee or equivalent.

I’d just take a note if this is a regular occurrence and if it is, don’t do favours for her. Friendships need to be a reasonably even amount of give and take but I wouldn’t worry about counting every penny - just look out for your interests in future.

Ask her to pick you up something, and pay back minus the 3 quid. Otherwise let it go.

Unless you're really broke then I think 3 quid is neither here nor there. Just let her get coffee next time you go out.

I mean if you need it, go for it, but the principle? No not for me.

I reckon there's probably a £10-15 'float' between me and my mates, where between various coffees, parking fees, pick ups etc none of us know who owes who

The normal way these things go is that the recipient offers to pay back, the shopper says "it's only £3, don't worry about it". Unless the backstory is that you're absolutely skint, then you're being really tight.

Yeah this. I wouldn't expect a friend to give me 3quid for something I got them in the shop. Like people have said I think unless you are skint it's a pretty strange thing to be fixating on.

I wouldn't ask for the £3 unless it was a regular occurrence
Let her pay for your coffee( or just ask her to pick you up something)

Yep I think if I bought a friend something for £3 I’d tell them not to worry about it. I wouldn’t have ever asked for it back

Bloody hell. As others have said, unless you are very much on a budget, then let it go. And if you are skint, it's perhaps easier and less socially awkward to make an excuse to not buy it in the first place than chase £3.

At one point £3 was the difference between me eating or not eating that day
so I think if someone asked for it back I’d understand
but also now I’m more fortunate and I wouldn’t notice £3 and I may forget to pay a friend (that I know can afford it) back.

i wouldn’t judge a friend for asking for it, but if you can afford to leave it, then I would.

In reality I probably wouldn’t chase £3 but if it bothers you don’t do it again.

This. It tends to be in their favour because my friends are less well paid and many are single so I float more.

I really hate things like this though, and they can add up!

Only if you let it!

Now you know she doesn't pay you back, don't buy things with the expectation of her reimbursing you in the future, and it won't add up.

If you can't say no to her, then try to work on your assertiveness.

To be honest I don't worry about anything up to £20/30 with friends but they're the same, like one of us will pay for the cinema for both, the next meet the other will pay for the coffee/cake, I wouldn't even think about £3. But I'm privileged that money isn't too much of a concern.

I’d never ask my friend for £3, she forgot to pay half a meal and I never reminded her. I just wouldn’t with a friend