For staying in bed all day at 9 months pregnant?

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I am currently 40+2 with painful piles and SPD.

Somehow we moved house yesterday so it's a bit of a mess with boxes but not too bad. I have a 5 year old pretty much keeping himself to himself with the help of his toys and an iPad, and my husband and mother in law are sorting out the unpacking.

Upstairs is done so I have it ready for when baby makes their appearance.

Yesterday I felt really good so managed to do a lot of organising etc but today I am shattered and in a bit of pain, I put some clothes away this morning but other than that I have been in bed.

DH says he is fine with that but I have had a few comments like 'you were fine yesterday now you're miserable' etc. and I have asked for a drink when unable to move because of the pain and had to get it myself. Basically I can tell when DH is unhappy, but he is saying he is fine.

Should I pull myself out of bed and do some bits even to show I am trying? I feel guilty hearing them doing everything downstairs whilst I am just lying here.

Sit on a dining room chair...I can do that for about 5 minutes!

Sounds like you have much bigger problems OP. Your "D"H sounds like a nasty, controlling piece of shit.

I expect the reason you moved at 9 months pregnant was on his instigation as he has no regard to your health and well being.

Good luck, you are going to need it!!!

Stay in bed. Ignore your DH

I feel very out of control as we both know I can't do much so he is calling the shots

He doesn't sound like a very supportive or caring partner.

Maybe controlling is an assumption too far but I suspect not

Telling your overdue wife what she should be doing seems pretty controlling to me. Especially given the OP has said she needs to be in bed.

@CornflakeKerry what are you suggesting the OP does?

OP is 40 weeks pregnant with SPD, why would anyone who had any empathy expect her to do anything but rest after helping with the move the day before. Bet you would expect her to be helping shift the sofa whilst in labour @CornflakeKerry

At 8.5 months pregnant with No.2 I was getting told off by the midwife for doing too much. That was just looking after a toddler single handedly, not moving house and Christmas etc with SPD! It was causing blood pressure issues.

Your husband does realise that you could literally have the baby any time?

Stay in bed. If he organised a sofa and some comfort for you you could consider "being sociable" but in the absence of same it seems that the bed is your only option.

I am 39 weeks pregnant and hosted and entertained family over Christmas. Every day involved some form of entertainment. They left yesterday and I spent the entire day on the couch, absolutely exhausted. I can't even imagine how tiring moving house would be! Stop feeling bad and rest up while you can.

Pop a few paracetamol and try and actually help with a move instead of letting everyone else carry the load?

Oh sure. OP is incredibly lazy letting everyone else "carry the load" of the house move, whilst she single-handedly carries a whole fucking human! Dear Christ alive this cannot be a serious comment.

Moving house at 40+2 with SPD isn't normal either

And given the advice for SPD includes avoid activities that cause you pain and rest when possible I think one day off after moving house is pretty reasonable

Once upon a time, when men wanted to be mean to other men, they pulled a man’s joints apart en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rack_(torture).

Any time your dh cares to take your place ….

congratulations on everything you did yesterday.

Yanbu, rest is really important.

However for your own comfort I would recommend some very gentle stretches and light movement as the SPD and general discomfort can benefit from it. The non movement can add extra back pain to the mix.

Do all the admin involved with the move from your bed. Then see how you feel this afternoon.

Carries a whole human, could you get any more ridiculous?

More biologically factual, than ridiculous. 🙄

And I didn't say pregnancy was a "disease" so not sure of why you're aiming that at me?

@CornflakeKerry some people breeze through pregnancy. OP isn’t. I’m not sure why you can’t understand that.

Stay in bed OP if that’s where you’re comfortable. I’d consider having the 5 year old in with you so that they don’t have to be supervised by DH.

Have you had SPD @CornflakeKerry?

Even if OP didn’t have that at 40 weeks I would be saying rest up

Or even a baby??

Seems to be struggling with the concept that the baby at 40 weeks is indeed an entire human that is carried by the mother.

No I am an emphatic person. It’s not like she is going to be able to rest soon, once the baby arrives

Erm, it certainly WAS a fucking massive effort for me at 40 weeks, and I didn't even have SPD! I did however spend most of my pregnancy bedridden with hyperemesis (severe vomiting to the point of not being able to hold down water), and when I wasn't wiped out from constant vomiting and dehydration, I was in a hospital bed attached to a drip. So, yeah. Massive effort indeed.

How about .... all women experience pregnancy differently? @CornflakeKerry

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