For staying in bed all day at 9 months pregnant?

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I am currently 40+2 with painful piles and SPD.

Somehow we moved house yesterday so it's a bit of a mess with boxes but not too bad. I have a 5 year old pretty much keeping himself to himself with the help of his toys and an iPad, and my husband and mother in law are sorting out the unpacking.

Upstairs is done so I have it ready for when baby makes their appearance.

Yesterday I felt really good so managed to do a lot of organising etc but today I am shattered and in a bit of pain, I put some clothes away this morning but other than that I have been in bed.

DH says he is fine with that but I have had a few comments like 'you were fine yesterday now you're miserable' etc. and I have asked for a drink when unable to move because of the pain and had to get it myself. Basically I can tell when DH is unhappy, but he is saying he is fine.

Should I pull myself out of bed and do some bits even to show I am trying? I feel guilty hearing them doing everything downstairs whilst I am just lying here.

Everyone else has already said it but what a selfish twat! Who the fuck expects a fully term pregnant woman (with a 5yr old!) to actively participate in a house move?! Dickhead!! And what's his mum doing? She should understand & tell him to stop being a prick. And to not bring the sofa when you asked? Utter prick.

Christ some of your are straight out of the 80s

Wasn't even born in the 80s but ok then 😂

In fairness I haven't had SPD or carried a baby to term and even I can understand that the OP might need a but of recovery time after a move

Unfortunately whilst many people have empathy, that particular poster isn't one of them.

Maybe that poster is the DH

Agree with this, he’s horrible. He should be looking after you.

Defo 😂

I moved house at 38 weeks pregnant and that was hard enough without piles and SPD in the mix. I gave birth 2 days after moving! Stay in bed, especially as there's not even a sofa for you to lounge on downstairs.

What some posters don't seem to be able to grasp is that women experience pregnancy differently. No it's not a disease and it's not classed as a disability but it can cause symptoms of both eg frequent vomiting and being unable to walk properly.

My first pregnancy I had SPD so badly that I literally couldn't walk after sitting in an office chair all day working. My husband had to come and get me from the office and carry me. I was in so much pain. Telling me it was only pregnancy and I should have easily be able to carry on would have just made me feel guilty but not actually made me able to move

Pregnancy isn't an illness... but SPD is.

Would you say she was being lazy if she had a dislocated knee or broken ribs?

Why are you saying she is perfectly healthy when she has a chronic pain condition?

The fact that it's temporary doesn't make it any less painful or any less of a medical condition.

It can in fact, if it continues after pregnancy leave you disabled

So I'm not sure where you are getting perfectly healthy from!

Also

Who relies on a woman at 40+2 to do anything? It's highly likely she would be in labour.

I can't imagine ever telling someone who has taken to their bed with pain to 'be sociable' or refuse them water

I had to spend a day in bed after moving house and I wasn't pregnant. I do have a long term disability though. I hope I never get @CornflakeKerry as a manager. Major empathy bypass.

And who suggests they are not pulling their weight and leaving others to "carry the load" when they're literally carrying a human?! Fuck that. I'm so glad I don't know anyone like the OP's DH or @CornflakeKerry in RL!

I didn't really struggle in pregnancy (because my kids never went low enough and both had to be all but dragged out) but I did move house 2 weeks pp and I remember how utterly miserable that was. I sat on the floor for a while waiting for my couch to arrive and just cried on the floor. Do not recommend.

Your body is telling you that you need to rest...most likely because you are about to go into labour in the next few days. If you don't have the energy it's going to be an inefficient job, have a few hours in bed and then see how you feel. If you can manage take your 5yo up to bed and cuddle and watch ipad together because it won't be long until you have to share your cuddles 😭

Everyone else has already said it but what a selfish twat! Who the fuck expects a fully term pregnant woman (with a 5yr old!) to actively participate in a house move?!

Cornflake Kerry does 😂

You have SPD so need to follow your doctors advice on resting and activity. You are about to have a baby so your DH and MIL should be doing everything so that you can rest as much as possible. Soon you’ll be busy 24/7 with no rest after having gone through labour and birth. There’s a lot of work ahead so rest as much now. If your dh was going to have a serious life threatening medical operation possibly with no pain relief you’d say rest and take it easy. He’d be feet up and tv on for a few days before. Do the same yourself. Rest and be looked after.

@CornflakeKerry

Do you know what SPD is?

@CornflakeKerry No one is saying that pregnancy is a disability. SPD is. I had it very badly in both my pregnancies and my back never recovered. I am severely limited in what I can do and now have arthritis in the affected joints. I assume you know little about SPD? I was in a wheelchair because of it during my pregnancies.

Given the post you were replying to doesn't contain the words 'or not' I'm not sure how I was supposed to read them?

But yeah, despite my dyslexia and your venomous reply I can read, thanks for asking

Ermmmmm - No!!!!

Your immanently going into Labour.

That's exhausting on its own.

Absolutely you should rest up when you can.

The only thing you should be doing is walking when you can, using a gym ball and having a hit bath - because those are helpful for Labour induction if nothing else!

Definitely don't do any of the house stuff, fuck that! But do try and stretch and move around a little (I'm sure you are) clots and all

@CornflakeKerry What is being in a wheelchair if not disabled? From a legally recognised respect, no, it isn't, because it's not considered long term enough. From a literal 'not able' perspective, it very much is. You suggested OP should pop paracetamol and get on with helping out. Paracetamol doesn't touch the sides with SPD. Did you know this about SPD? If so, why make such a silly comment? If not, why not find out what SPD is before commenting?