Fucking menopause can fuck right off

[FlemCandango]

I am lying on the sofa exhausted by the effort of moving a pile of clothes. Because menopause decided that my already heavy and painful periods don't quite hit the spot so last night I had that lift scene from The Shining as my period. Now I am an anemic shell of a person in a cardi on the sofa. Trying to summon the energy to make some tea. I was meant to be shopping with my daughter's, but that isn't happening. Fucking menopause.

I have had some good advice on another thread this one is purely my ranty pity party.

Yanbu.

I hope you feel better soon. Get some iron tablets into you and rest.

Nobody fucking warns you. Hope you feel better soon

YANBU I'm not looking forward to this one bit

I was sort of warned by witnessing some of my mother's experience... I am pretty sure my poor daughters will go through this. I will speak to my GP about things I can do next week, but today I just want to feel sorry for myself and I should probably eat some Kale (vegetarian) and some iron supplements.

Thank you - and solidarity to all going through this shit right now.

I was you. Got mirena fitted and periods have now virtually disappeared and estrogen patches have given me back some energy

First time in my life I'm not borderline anemic due to periods

YANBU, lie down and feel angry then try and relax yourself. Periods can be hell. I wish there was an easy fix for all of us.

@FlemCandango I had similar problems when my perimenopause started. Periods that were more like haemorrhages and saw me become so anaemic that my GP said she was amazed I was still walking around.

I had a Mirena coil fitted in July and it's been nothing short of miraculous. Wish I'd done it years ago. My "period" is now a couple of days of light spotting and I don't even need a tampon. Amazing.

I totally feel you, OP.

I sleep in two hour bursts as I'm usually awoken because I'm either boiling hot and sweaty or freezing. It takes me ages to drop back to sleep so I'm just a shell of a person come morning. That's me on a non-period day. If I'm on, I'm probably spending the day in close proximity of the toilet so I'm sleepy and crampy and hot and I'm sure I'm a delight to be around.

My mother died young and my older sister just woke up one day and realized she hadn't had a period in over a year. Bitch! I'm only slightly kidding. I have 12 aunts and loads of female cousins. You would think someone would have told me about what was to befall me but nooo. Sigh.

Mirena coil
HRT
Lower your expectations of what you can now do in a day.
Find other menopausal women to commiserate with.
It's shite. I'm 52 and feel like I'm 82. My whole body seems to have been replaced with this chunky, achy, itchy, headachy, tired shell of a body.

Another one who found having the Mirena utterly life-changing. Couldn't recommend it highly enough.

It properly sucks. I got anxiety so bad that I had to leave my job and, of course, the doctor put me on anti-depressants.

In other news DS is happy cos I am pinned to the sofa and cannot escape watching LOTR Return of the King with him so that is nice 😆 he will provide snacks

I'm with you. Legs aching, joints crap (am hypermobile too so it's aggravating these issues too), hot sweats, generally feel I'm 106 years old, not 50 🥺

I totally understand. A few months ago I started developing various cumulative symptoms migraines, significant hair loss, brain fog, hot flushes, night sweats, low mood & palpitations. Just before my 43rd birthday it was confirmed as menopause (my mum had my sister at 42). Since then I’ve been testing various medications I already had the coil, I now have a stronger HRT & after my mood continued to sink to new depths anti depressants. It’s a daily struggle with the changes to meds I’m feeling a bit better so do speak to your dr & keep persisting I just couldn’t cope anymore.
We hosted for 19 yesterday today I can barely move I am in so much pain. I often find being “old me” so exhausting luckily DH totally understands but I don’t want to show DC.
Im also taking Marine Collagen, Calcium, Cold pressed Starflower Oil, multi vit & Iron and berrocca - anything to help me get through the day!! Good luck

I had many of these symptoms (ok not the terrible periods - I got lucky there) but the insomnia in particular was ruining my life.
I started HRT and everything changed.
Try it op

Mirena coil and/or HRT, def life changing

I´m pre-menopause, damned periods decided to be every two weeks and last two weeks, so basically all the bloody time (pun not intended). And heavy. So, went to gynae and got progesterone and it seems to be working, we are slowly getting back on track. All my sympathies with your rant.

My sympathies, OP.
I haven't had a period for six months and am hoping that this is finally the end of it.
I agree that no one warns you how utterly hellish it can be.
Thank god for MN is all I can say, as I had no idea that the long list of seemingly unrelated symptoms five years ago were perimenopause. The insomnia was crippling, the aches, pains and crushing fatigue made me think I was seriously ill, the brain fog had me imaging early on-set dementia, and the flooding...OMG. I remember one day in summer 2021, I was so cold and stiff and aching all over. The only place I felt OK was curled up on the decking in the garden which the sun had warmed up. I lay there feeling totally weak and lightheaded and totally helpless.
But the anxiety, depression and mood swings were definitely the worst. I felt like I had had a personality transplant and hated everything and everyone.
The physical symptoms eased slowly, I went on ADs for about a year which really helped (lots going on, not just peri), and I've been on HRT for three months. Off the ADs for three weeks and for the first time in ages I feel like me. I have more get-up-and-go and generally more motivation for things, even work which I so wanted to leave as I felt unable to think straight and lost all confidence.
I'd even say I feel like an improved version of the old me as I care far less about things and aim to please myself a lot more.
So, long message to say hang in there, op! It WILL get better!

HRT you won't look back.
Replace those hormones.

These were my expectations on menopause... periods irregular then stop. Hot flushes. Moody. Yeah well I was wrong. It's been 8 years with all the symptoms. Then the other day I thought mmm no hot flushes, sleeping ok,thinking straight yeah it's over. But no a new hell has arrived. Warning tmi.No moisture in muff . Having sex nooooo. 😳 Will this ever end

@Reggiebo i have topical oestrogen for this specific problem...

Dogsgottabone . thanks will look into this. Probably need lub as well.

I started HRT about 5 weeks ago - wish I’d started a lot sooner, feel better already