To not want to hear about people’s dreams

[Catcherintherice]

I am not sure if it’s just me as some people seem genuinely interested.

I don’t mean bad or scary dreams that children or adults might need to talk through as they were upsetting. I am not that mean.

I also don’t mind a brief idea of what might have been an amusing element.

I just don’t want to hear a blow by blow account of each stage of a dream. To me it’s a bit like being told the full list and conclusion of a child’s game of consequences. Many dreams seem just as random.

DH seems to have frequent complex dreams. He will make statements, eg ‘I was cooking baked beans on a camping stove in the Brecon Beacons’ and I will ask when he went there, and he will say ‘ in a dream last night’

Anyway things came to a bit of a head today. We have both been home a lot, and maybe the rich food has been increasing the intensity of his dreams, but I have had enough hearing about them.

When he came bowling into the kitchen this morning as I was unloading the dishwasher and said ‘ oh, I just don’t know where to start with my dreams today’ I fairly unsubtly replied ‘ how about the end’?

He has had the hump all day and says I am unsupportive and should be interested.

I am interested in things he has done which have actually happened, but I just can’t work up any enthusiasm about often illogical dreams.

AIBU?

That's funny. Good answer
YANBU - Other people's dreams are boring unless you're a psychoanalyst.

You sound extremely hard work and rather bizarre tbh.

I’m with you, blow by blow accounts of other people’s dreams are boring af, your response was hilarious!

I'm banking that response love it

I personally love hearing about people's dreams and talking about my own but maybe that's just me.

God NO. It's as bad as looking at holiday photos - why the fuck would yybe interested in that 😁

As long as you are game for him using that line on you when you least expect it OP. 😊
I do understand that as I used to have an online friend like this, she’s demand my full attention to account for every little detail. I have kids and a household to run, like, seriously? It’s not even real.

Everyone knows in my house not to bother me with details about their dreams.

YANBU 🤣 I wouldn’t bore anyone to death with my ridiculous nightmares of my dishwasher packing up etc I genuinely have them! I’ve had really bad dreams that have woken me in the night that I’ve had to discuss but the general petty ones…No!

I agree, nothing more tedious than hearing about someone else's dreams. You know it'll be too long and won't make sense. They'll expect you to find it hilarious but it won't be, or they'll expect you to interpret it with them but it'll be indecipherable nonsense.

😆 sorry op, I laughed.

I would have said the same thing to my DH then felt really bad afterwards. I can just imagine the sad face.

Give him a 3 dreams a week limit so he better choose wisely. Next year buy him a diary that he can write them down into and you can read at your leisure.

He has had the hump all day and says I am unsupportive and should be interested.
😂😂😂

Why does he think he needs support with his dreams?
& how are you meant to fake interest in one of the most boring things one person can recount to another?

What a giant baby he's being. Hope he's only spoiled his own day with his sulking.

YANBU. Nothing more boring.

God you sound like hard work.

YANBU.

My response would have been "tell me about it while you take over unloading this dishwasher".

In fact every single time he tries to tell you about a dream, give him a task to do.

This sounds a bit mean of you OP. Yes sure it's boring having to listen to others but that's what you do in life with a partner (or with anyone for that fact). Is it really that hard to make all the right noises ? Pretend to listen and when he's finished just say something along the lines of "wow! indeed, that's fucking insane!" Not worth upsetting your spouse over, honestly

So boring, bit like when people tell you long stories about people at work who you don’t know.

Ooh, I like that idea. It could be a win win situation.

DH doesn’t talk about dreams, but generally I try to show some interest when he speaks. And of course usually I am interested but sometimes I am not, I am still polite to him and I think you were unnecessarily rude. But he also sounds like quite the drama lama if he really did call you unsupportive and stropped all day.

There’s nothing more boring than hearing someone going on about their dream. Yanbu

I HATE listening to people telling me about their dreams. It's just a big, long made up story - who wants to hear that?

I really agree with this - not sure my dh has ever told me a dream he's had other than when he used to wake up screaming (lorry driving crash) and that was in the moment. I always skip the bit where characters in a book go on about what their dream is as well.

I find other people's dreams interesting if I've featured in them, but not usually otherwise unless there's a strange coincidence involved or something like that.

I only ever recount mine to others if those things apply.

Why on earth is someone 'hard work' because they don't want to be bored to tears hearing about someone's dreams?!
It sounds hugely attention seeking and indulgent!

I actually find it very difficult to follow a telling of a dream.

Loving 'how about the end?'

People need to be more self aware about how tedious their dreams are.