To not want to hear about people’s dreams

[Catcherintherice]

I am not sure if it’s just me as some people seem genuinely interested.

I don’t mean bad or scary dreams that children or adults might need to talk through as they were upsetting. I am not that mean.

I also don’t mind a brief idea of what might have been an amusing element.

I just don’t want to hear a blow by blow account of each stage of a dream. To me it’s a bit like being told the full list and conclusion of a child’s game of consequences. Many dreams seem just as random.

DH seems to have frequent complex dreams. He will make statements, eg ‘I was cooking baked beans on a camping stove in the Brecon Beacons’ and I will ask when he went there, and he will say ‘ in a dream last night’

Anyway things came to a bit of a head today. We have both been home a lot, and maybe the rich food has been increasing the intensity of his dreams, but I have had enough hearing about them.

When he came bowling into the kitchen this morning as I was unloading the dishwasher and said ‘ oh, I just don’t know where to start with my dreams today’ I fairly unsubtly replied ‘ how about the end’?

He has had the hump all day and says I am unsupportive and should be interested.

I am interested in things he has done which have actually happened, but I just can’t work up any enthusiasm about often illogical dreams.

AIBU?

Oh god yes, birth stories as well! Why do women you've only known ten minutes seem so keen to tell you how many stitches they've had?!

Gah!

It is deathly boring hearing other people’s dreams. However there is a compulsion to tell one’s own dreams common to many people. I think the answer is to keep it short as you suggest. Your answer is pretty funny tbh.

He needs to find a therapist to tell all these dreams to.

Yes, totally agree . Or telling me the story of a book/ film .......Just SHUT.UP 😂!!

I have some pretty vivid dreams too, that occasionally affect me emotionally once I have woken. DH will get a tale if I have woken him up by screaming.

Other people I will generally only telling it particularly involved them.

I'm fine with a one line summary or headline of the "Blimey, I dreamt I was eating an elephant last night!" variety.

I do not want the detailed, blow-by-blow account that some people insist on retelling.

LISTEN Y’ALL! Nobody gives a shit about other people’s dreams. You know why? Because they are fucking boring! Sometimes I mull over mine (if I manage to remember them) but someone else’s? No fucking chance!

YANBU. It even irritates me when books have detailed dream sequences because you can be certain it won't move the plot along one iota

I’ve come to except part of being in a couple is listening to each other’s shit. But we both except that’s some of what we say is boring to the other person and they’re probably not listening.