Lifeguards at swimming pool

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I went swimming with DS who has ASD and DH yesterday. It would have been great and we would have all had a lovely time. There was a big slide DS was desperate to go on but there is a height restriction and only for people who can swim independently, neither of which DS can do. I suggested DH went on with DS but the lifeguard at the top manning the slide said no. She just watched as DH grappled with DS who was having a huge tantrum and risked falling down the stairs and getting seriously hurt. Should she have done more?

Your husband could have gone up alone to ask the lifeguard if it was possible.

The OP is being unreasonable but let’s not pile on with the usual vitriol. Also don’t be a cock and describe a child with a disability as having a tantrum. That really not what a meltdown is

So why she tried to help somehow, because your husband let you ds believe he could go down with him, it would have been ok for her to not do what she is paid to, which is to closely monitor for any potential drowning. What if a kid was drowning whilst she 'helped' your OH. A kid die in a public swimming pool on Christmas Eve. We don't know what happened but I bed the lifeguard on duty is scarred for life.

Is this a reverse? It's so obvious that the lifeguard was in the right that it reads as if you're the lifeguard who has received a complaint.

YABVU…. You think lifeguards should break rules and endanger people to keep your dc happy or they should step in and parent your dc because your dh can’t

Reverse and you're the lifeguard 🙄

Read the original post hun - she described it as a tantrum. 💁🏻‍♀️

the lifeguard clearly could not disregard the safety rules. And neither should the parent. What if the parent cannot hold on to the child, either whilst on the slide, or being spit out into deep water?
the lifeguard also cannot leave their station unless to rescue a swimmer - in which case there will be procedures.

What do you think she should have done?

The lifeguard at the top of a slide is there to ensure no one gets on the slide if they aren’t the right height and to enforce other rules like only one at a time (ruling out your DH going too) and safe entry and exit below. She couldn’t leave her post and she couldn’t let your DS and DH on.

It was obviously clearly signposted at the bottom because if you saw the height restrictions there would have been other rules there too.

YABVU.

She just watched as DH grappled with DS who was having a huge tantrum and risked falling down the stairs and getting seriously hurt. Should she have done more?

Is the OP a cock too for putting that in her opening post?

My DS was a life guard , his biggest issue was with parents who thought the rules didnt apply to their child.

I assume you are saying that the end result of the ‘no’ was more dangerous than the activity they were ruling out? I suspect you are right and you won’t do it again.

@SnarkyBag the OP described her own son as having a tantrum. My child has ASD and certainly does have tantrums when he doesn't get his own way. Having a tantrum when angry and a sensory overloaded meltdown are not the same thing.

OP herself describes it as a tantrum.

Maybe check out places you want to visit beforehand so you are aware of potential flashpoints. YABVU to expect the lifeguard to help manage a situation parents need to deal with, you know your kids best.

Do you often expect strangers to do your job as a parent?
No she absolutely should not have done more! She did her job, you and DH failed to do yours!

Are you the lifeguard OP? Don't let this play on your mind, if you are, it wasn't your fault, and there wasn't anything you could do

There were already 2 adults looking after your son. You wanted a third?

You're being ridiculous. How about you know?...parenting your child?🙄

I hope at least one of you gave the Lifeguard a genuine apology too.

Yabvu and I’m amazed you need a thread to tell you that.
Don’t encourage breaking rules that are in place for safety and parent your own child yourself.

The lifeguard has a duty of care and it wasn't safe just because your child has asd doesn't mean it's OK for him to go on. I say that as a parent with a child who has asd and who is also a swimming teacher. The amount of reckless careless parents who bring their children swimming without the foresight to know that water is dangerous is astonishing. From letting them wander off near water ahead of them to allowing them in the pool on their own after lessons and they are rightly told off for safety reasons.

Reverse?

Where has the OP disappeared to?

To be honest I’m doubting this thread will be around long. On reflection it’s all a bit goady isn’t it?