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Wont stop asking!

852 replies

Castleontheisland · 28/12/2022 05:05

Name changed for this as my other threads are quite outing. Sorry its long!

Me and partner are away for a few days over Christmas, our next door neighbour has a spare key for our house for emergencies (we have their spare house key as well). We are not close friends just normal neighbours, They have had family visiting over Christmas/new year. On boxing day they text me and asked if some of their family could sleep in our home as more of the family had arrive unexpectedly! We said no because beds need changing and heating not on etc.(also I dont want strangers in my home)Well since then we have had text after text asking over and over again! I have also repeatedly tried to ring them but they are not picking up! The last one was very late last night (I was already in bed asleep)asking again and saying the family who they want to stay's car has broken down! I feel like packing up here and going home now as so worried they will just use my house anyway! I dont have any friends or family nearby who can check on my home. My partner has said they surely wont just use our house but I'm not sure they wont. 😥

OP posts:
Backofthenet20 · 28/12/2022 18:38

Same here

Kaiserchief · 28/12/2022 18:40

Just read the whole thread and awaiting the update!

ruralwanderer · 28/12/2022 18:41

Joining in to wait for an update 🍿

Lndnmummy · 28/12/2022 18:42

I feel so sorry for you OP, I hope all is well.

Perpop · 28/12/2022 18:43

I hope this is real and we get an update!! I would honestly be absolutely sick if someone did this in my home. Hope you’re ok!

Londongent · 28/12/2022 18:52

If they asked on Boxing Day, I am confused as to why they also asked late last night as well?

Littlebluedinosaur · 28/12/2022 18:52

No update yet?

Gemmanorthdevon · 28/12/2022 18:55

The suspense is killing me, I've never checked back to a thread so much since I joined MN.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/12/2022 18:56

If they asked on Boxing Day, I am confused as to why they also asked late last night as well?

From how OP wrote, it sounds as if they're determined to get a "Yes" and kept on and on in order to get one

Some feel this is because the visitors are already in situ and the neighbour's trying to cover themselves, but we won't know the outcome unless OP updates

ChestnutsOpenFire · 28/12/2022 18:56

@Londongent I suspect (as others unthread have also) that the neighbours allowed the house to be used regardless and hoped, by constantly asking permission, to eventually get the OP to give in. Thus, there would be no need to try to hide any evidence of their stay.

Verbena17 · 28/12/2022 18:57

I’d call the police and say your neighbours text you, saying they thought they saw people in your house but you’re away on holiday and please could check it out.

It’s not like you’re going to have a great relationship with neighbours after this so it’s win win.

SophieJo · 28/12/2022 18:58

Did they or didn’t they? The suspense!
Hope for your sake they didn’t.

Londongent · 28/12/2022 18:59

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/12/2022 18:56

If they asked on Boxing Day, I am confused as to why they also asked late last night as well?

From how OP wrote, it sounds as if they're determined to get a "Yes" and kept on and on in order to get one

Some feel this is because the visitors are already in situ and the neighbour's trying to cover themselves, but we won't know the outcome unless OP updates

They have been told no. Why did they keep on asking? Why do they not answer the OP's call? Why does a 90 minute drive take so long?

PegasusReturns · 28/12/2022 19:01

Absolute cheek.

I really hope your mum is able to reassure you and you get to enjoy the rest of your hols.

bevelino · 28/12/2022 19:02

I have a spare key in a key safe box with combination lock near the front door. It stops the sort of CF behaviour OP is dealing with.

Jaxinthebox · 28/12/2022 19:03

The cheek of some people is astounding! I hope all is ok, but suspect they have already used your house.

I hope your Mum and family have sorted this out for you.

billybear · 28/12/2022 19:04

popcorn nearly eaten, waiting with bated breathe

Busstopgone · 28/12/2022 19:05

Unbelievably rude to even think of asking. Surely they haven’t gone ahead and used the house after the refusal. Hopefully they’re just sulking now and that’s why they’ve ignored the OP’s calls and texts.

howilovebrightlights · 28/12/2022 19:07

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JustAnotherManicMomday · 28/12/2022 19:09

I think I would be tempted to contact local police and ask them to drop by. Say you believe your neighbour has allowed someone to enter your home without consent or that a neighbour has informed you they believe someone is in your home but you are away. Could they look into it. Else I would be going home to check and if they were I would take back the key and report them gor trespassing.

SocksAndTheCity · 28/12/2022 19:17

It's been long enough that something must be happening 😬

(also placemarking)

Poinsettia12 · 28/12/2022 19:18

almost can’t believe real but also watching w interest

Itsallright · 28/12/2022 19:19

Also waiting for an update. Please don’t be one of those posters who disappears, OP!

Notimeforaname · 28/12/2022 19:21

You'll all be so upset and let down now if op comes back to say, all good, nobody has been in the house. 🤣
I hope she has the good grace to lie about it and give us the drama we're looking for.

MrsMontyD · 28/12/2022 19:21

This is also why you should change the locks when you move, you never know who has a key.