Or is this the most obnoxious thing people do on MN?

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"What did he say when you told him to fuck off"

"What did she say when you sent her home?"

When the OP clearly has said nothing of the sort and had come to MN to ask opinions on what she should say or do or if she was even being unreasonable to be upset in the first place.

It's such a weird thing to say, you'd never say it in real life because you'd sound like you hadn't followed the basics of the story before creating a second half!

I think the most obnoxious thing is when some twat changes someone else's post and says, "There, fixed that for you" 👌

I want to punch them on the nose and say, "Yeah, fixed that too" 😂

This. It’s passive aggressively signaling to the OP and the MN community that you are hard as fuck and wouldn’t be led up the garden path with this nonsense.

Easy to say from a keyboard. Less easy to do in a real family environment.

Oh and the two posters who suggested OP Should murder her neighbour’s dog (who had done nothing wrong) because she didn’t like which breed it was are pretty high on the batshit scale too.

@Handwringingpearlclutch oh my god yes!!!!

Totally agree with you, OP, and have said the same on other threads.

Faux naivete generally is irritating as hell. This thread is starting to remind me of the classic one where an annoying twat claimed not to know what an ice cream 'truck' was (and was subsequently busted as an anti-Americanism pedant).

Or the "MIL said xyz"

OMG , what did your DH say back to her ?

Because obviously the OP (who is adult enough to have a husband isn't adult enough to reply to someone who is a close family member )

Eg-
I don't drink alcohol
I was pregnant
I was driving my DH and our DS ( ie MIL son and MIL grandson) home

She kept pressing me to have a drink . Spirits? No. Wine? No
The request for coffee was met with a "tut"

Did I whinge to my DH to set her straight ?
No , I told her myself because I'm a bloody adult

The thing I find most obnoxious is posters who spend the time writing a judgemental answer to the OP who has posted about some difficult situation, without having the basic courtesy to RTFT or even the rest of OPs posts for updates. It's really shitty, and no excuse for it now it's easy to filter to see just the OPs posts.

‘Are you getting help with…’ is snotty, pass agg shit-headery. But not the most obnoxious thing. I find people berating other people for eg reading the Mail insufferable. The overbearing, pompous sanctimony is insufferable. In fact that is the most obnoxious thing, overbearing, pompous sanctimony. But I suppose we all hear things differently.

What did the poster say when you called them out on it?

‘Some patronising twat was commenting "what do mean by two and throw? I'd really like to know". They in fact wanted to know the ‘etymology’ of the phrase. Roaring tit!.

Also when someone is asking relationship advice and some a-hole comes on and says 'why did you have children with this man?'. What purpose does that serve exactly? It's purely to make someone who's having a hard time feel even more shit.

Absolutely. Not reading even the OP's posts is awful, such a waste of everyone's time and then derails the thread into arguments about how much one should be expected to read the thread they're posting on...

For one thing, when the gender of a particular person is unknown, e.g. "The chef should ensure they wash their hands before preparing food."

... although actually, maybe that counts as a pronoun?

It is really annoying but then sometimes I wonder like they say it’s their bestest ever friend but they can’t ask them a simple question about a probable miscommunication? Seems weird

Re gender, I’ve noticed ‘my parent’ crop up on here recently. Do people think saying they went to the shops with their mum is too outing or something? Parents plural and mum / dad singular, surely.

Not obnoxious, obviously, just odd.

@LaPerduta I clearly mean when somebody just says 'oh they said blah blah blah'
Rather than someone using 'they' as a named pronoun.
I hope that helps

Well yes!

It's still a pronoun.

"Run" could be a noun or a verb, depending on context, but "they" is always a pronoun.

Agree, not obnoxious. But it is funny that the OP in these cases is worried about being identified, especially when often it's really obvious what sex the person is anyway or the post is so long that in among all the they's and them's, there's a sneaky little he/she/DB/DM or whatever giving the game away😆

I think some people do it to get "gender neutral" advice. The problem is that the sex of the person is usually relevant.

If a poster says they're being nagged to do the cleaning in the house, I know that the statistics show that it's mostly women doing the cleaning. So if it's a male poster, I am going to wonder if he's doing any cleaning. If it's a female poster I wonder if she's being bullied. I think male posters are the ones that's tend to do it.

@LaPerduta yes but you know exactly what I mean. People being faux confused is ridiculous and pointless (I don't mean you in this case I'm referring to my original post)

I read MN with the knowledge that advice and opinions are (often?) to the extreme side of things.
There are chats where people are clearly in desperate need, and an extreme response is required. However, there are at least as many examples where 'dump the b*stard'! or 'go NC' responses are arguably not necessary (particularly when you're getting only one side of a story).
I don't think i'd ever ask for advice on here.

It annoys me when people ask a poster with an abusive partner why they had children with him. So snide.