Or is this the most obnoxious thing people do on MN?

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"What did he say when you told him to fuck off"

"What did she say when you sent her home?"

When the OP clearly has said nothing of the sort and had come to MN to ask opinions on what she should say or do or if she was even being unreasonable to be upset in the first place.

It's such a weird thing to say, you'd never say it in real life because you'd sound like you hadn't followed the basics of the story before creating a second half!

Ah, you get this when someone has pulled a statement out of their arse and confidently asserting it as fact. I've seen e.g. "most mothers don't actually want to return to work" - how would anyone know such a thing unless there had been some kind of study? Iirc when challenged the person said "well that's what my friends tell me" or similar.

I think this is an example of a general trend to projecting your own circumstances and finding it really hard to think someone else might think or act totally differently - That's part of the brilliance of getting different viewpoints from such a large forum, as long as you're actually able to take them on board!

That's not fair - I am quite often baffled by what's been written. Making the assumption that everyone must know what a poster means just because you do is just as dickish as feigned ignorance.

There is an odd thing on MN where some posters ‘brand’ is stupidity, a very odd thing to aspire to.

YABU OP People do much more obnoxious things on MN.

Oh I don't think so. I've just read a thread this morning where a poster quoted a post she disagreed with and just wrote twat underneath. I think that's a lot more obnoxious.

Oh I hate this!! Faux concern/advise but actually really patronising and passive aggressive.

When I was buying a house I frequented the Martin money saver forum for house buying. It was really useful, but my god the people on there were such self satisfied dickheads! Someone complaining about shitty neighbours would get a response like "what happened when you knocked their door before buying th house? You did do that didn't you?"

God I hated that place sometimes

Yes! My 'favourite' of the genre is What does your insurance say?' when something has gone wrong. If you genuinely want to know if they have insurance, ask. Otherwise it's mean spirited point scoring dressed up thinly as helpfulness.

There was one the other day where the OP said "two and throw", obviously meaning "To and fro"

Some patronising twat was commenting "what do mean by two and throw? I'd really like to know".

Oh just FUCK OFF! Of course you knew what they meant.

See I quite like that. It's clean and clear. Made me laugh. Sorry if that's bad.

This is one of my pet hates too, OP. It's just so nasty. Those are the sort of posters I know in real life as arrogant people who completely lack empathy and who don't understand why everyone doesn't react in exactly the same way as them, to any given situation (ie rudely).

Yes! Really snarky, like "obviously you have insurance, why ask here?....Oh you don't have insurance? Well stupid you!"

It’s not as bad as asking someone ‘why on Earth’ they had children / carried having children with a rubbish partner. Asking someone to justify done and dusted decisions is pointless, and the subtext is always pure criticism.

What gets to me is “why do you care about this” “I couldn’t bring myself to care about this”. Why bother to comment at all if that’s the case? Just close the thread and scroll on by.

@WatchoRulo & do you always ask for clarification with an "eh" first?

Or asking them to examine why they did daft things can be a useful way to change things

Why are people so keen to read negative motivation behind so many comments ?

I wonder if a lot of the sarcastic replies are down to the sheer number of troll threads on here now.

I agree. You do seem a bit tense though? 😀

Because “you’re a liar” will get deleted, but “cool story, “And then did everyone stand up and clap?”, “Interesting first post” Etc won’t

I hate this!

On our town Facebook page there is a woman who always responds to moany posts with 'what did they say when you reported it to the relevant people'. It makes my teeth itch.

Or asking them to examine why they did daft things can be a useful way to change things

Depends on the delivery though doesn't it?

Incredibly irritating.

When is "they" not a pronoun?

On chat there is a thread about a woman whose DH to her to go f herself and 300 people have said she MUST flee to a refuge with her kids immediately. When I said there are other options than just divorce people invented a variety of ridiculous imaginary scenarios:-“ so she should let him batter her” “you think all women must put up with abuse” etc. Mean while the OP was saying she was trying to resolve the situation.

Simultaneously on AIBU an adult child was describing an identical situation but where the mother had told the father to go f himself. Not one person suggested that anyone flee to a shelter.

The sexism and hypocrisy is so strong I am actually going to have to step away until the holidays are over.

These poster who are sooooo concerned about abuse also managed to call me a few nasty names for suggesting that there are any other options than divorce when your husband swears at you. Ridiculous.

yanbu and I knew this would be what the thread was about before I opened it!