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Invoiced for Christmas stay

295 replies

Brightun · 27/12/2022 07:42

I’ve already had a thread about SILs bitching that the roast I served (for 11 people) wasn’t piping hot. Now we’re home I’m a bit less cross about that but absolutely fuming about the invoice I’ve received!

The set up is a bit complicated. DH has 3 sisters. The venue was SIL2’s house but I cooked because she’s recovering from an injury.

Me, DH, x3 DC
SIL1, BIL1, 1DC
SIL2, BIL2
SIL3

We all stayed 23-26 December. We brought 2 joints of meat, a Christmas pudding, a Christmas cake, plenty of wine, beer, some gin and rum, some nice cheeses, kids snacks and drinks. There was one cafe lunch and one takeaway and we all paid for our own families. I paid for one top up shop of about £40. Everyone else paid for/brought similar things.

This morning SIL emailed an invoice (made on an invoice template from some software!) to DH and copied me in for £200 for “hospitality”! I understand that hosting 9 people is a lot but I hadn’t expected to be invoiced.

DH wants to pay it to shut her up. I want to ask her to itemise it and to prepare an invoice in return for the hours I spent cooking Christmas dinner.

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 27/12/2022 07:59

TerraNostra · 27/12/2022 07:51

What brother on earth would pay this? Why is your DH so wet?

Yeah, come on. Surely he wouldn’t? Why would he?

Quincythequince · 27/12/2022 08:00

Add up the cost of everything you have contributed. Add in your time for coooking and food prep.

Ask her to itemise her invoice so you can rationalise the two.

See what happens…

But in addition to that, never ever go back and never ever invite her to yours either.

MaggieFS · 27/12/2022 08:01

Of course that's bloody bonkers.

Just tell her the thank you which you were going to send for hosting was going to cost £200 and suggest you call it quits.

FleeceDuvet · 27/12/2022 08:02

I don’t understand why any of this would have happened.

Why are you cooking for DHs entire family at another house? Are you a chef? Invoice her if so.

Charlize43 · 27/12/2022 08:02

What a bitch! So much for Christmas good cheer and all that...

MagentaRocks · 27/12/2022 08:02

I know someone who charged the parents/sister for Christmas Day. They went into the kitchen after lunch and ate as much as they could.

wibblewobbleball · 27/12/2022 08:03

Of course she did

rwalker · 27/12/2022 08:04

I think a passive aggressive response is best
I’d deduct £180 and list what you have provided

then send her £20

EnolaJ · 27/12/2022 08:05

This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard haha please tell me it's not true

AuntieMarys · 27/12/2022 08:05

I find this very difficult to believe

UnpackThisMess · 27/12/2022 08:06

Photos or it didn't happen.

Whatatimetobealivetoday · 27/12/2022 08:06

This will be in the Daily Mail/other crap papers tomorrow.

bestchristmasever · 27/12/2022 08:06

Hahaha

Murdoch1949 · 27/12/2022 08:06

Bloody hell. The only way this would be acceptable is if it was agreed beforehand. Ask for the itemised account, and how it is being shared out. Prepare your own invoice too. If, if you repeat this year's celebration, ensure that the financial costs and practical tasks are agreed beforehand. I'd be fuming!

Buckland123 · 27/12/2022 08:06

if you’re going to me something up, at least make it believable

rainbowstardrops · 27/12/2022 08:07

It's probably BS but possibly not as it's definitely something my ex batshit crazy in-laws would do! CFers

FlowersareEverything · 27/12/2022 08:07

I swear the older I get, the more sceptical I become, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

cantforthelifeofme · 27/12/2022 08:08

boogiejive · 27/12/2022 07:44

You write her an invoice with all the items you paid for listed.

And a line something like "you being a cheeky fucker : priceless"

And you email it back.

Yes! 😂

Draconis · 27/12/2022 08:08

Just deduct all your food and drinks expenses and Labour costs. Make sure labour is charged double the minimum wage as it is Christmas rates, then invoice her.

FeltCarrot · 27/12/2022 08:08

Have SILs 1&3 been invoiced too?

Hellno44 · 27/12/2022 08:08

I would email back stating that you didn't agree to pay for anything and that no contract was made. I would also state that you provided goods and services on Christmas day but

Namechangedforthisonetoday · 27/12/2022 08:08

I’d normally not believe this, until the year my SIL did the same to us. We just ignored her. We’d also paid for mountains of food, a rip up shop, I’d cleaned the kitchen and dining room numerous times, washed up etc. she was trying to get £200 out of us for shopping. As we’d purchased the majority of Christmas food, drink etc, I came to the swift conclusion that she was trying it on. She has form.

Namechangedforthisonetoday · 27/12/2022 08:09

Top up not rip up 🙈

ShirleyPhallus · 27/12/2022 08:10

Hmm indeed

EarringsandLipstick · 27/12/2022 08:11

Really? 🤔

If so, it takes no time at all. You reply with a text briefly saying all you did, brought & paid for, and that you won't be paying. And then you never see them again.

If this is real.