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To think EE should not show violence against pregnant woman

112 replies

Guzy · 26/12/2022 21:26

For those of you who watch Eastenders, the character Janine is pregnant she is quite mischievous and manipulative. However slapping, pulling hair and choking a pregnant woman just did not sit right with me. Bear in mind all characters involved knew she is pregnant.
Aibu to think EE should not air such disturbing scenes. As I feel it gives a very wrong message. No one deserves physical abuse especially those who are vulnerable. I feel they are normalising it somehow.

someone close to me threatened to kick me in my belly when I was heavily pregnant it just brought back some horrible memories.
FYI I know it’s not real but people are always influenced by what they watch on tv.

OP posts:
Oysterbabe · 26/12/2022 21:27

I'd suggest not watching Game of Thrones.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 26/12/2022 21:27

I don’t watch soaps but generally they show real life situations, albeit tremendously exaggerated. Domestic violence likelihood increase massively in pregnancy for any given woman. It’s not a ‘how to’ show either, it’s a drama

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/12/2022 21:27

Domestic abuse cases during pregnancy are actually a thing. In fact, in some cases, pregnancy can exacerbate an abusers actions.

Putting that into women's living rooms, and providing adequate info on who to contact if needed at the end of the show is likely a help for women who need to know this.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 26/12/2022 21:28

Also in a bit Hmm at the thought of a women who aren’t pregnant being more deserving of violence than women who are. There is a special kind of misogynist who only values a woman when she has a foetus growing in her womb.

bluecheeseblues · 26/12/2022 21:29

I thought this was about an EE advert initially

SolitaryMind · 26/12/2022 21:29

Janine is evil, the other characters were quite restrained, probably because she’s pregnant.

bluecheeseblues · 26/12/2022 21:29

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 26/12/2022 21:27

Domestic abuse cases during pregnancy are actually a thing. In fact, in some cases, pregnancy can exacerbate an abusers actions.

Putting that into women's living rooms, and providing adequate info on who to contact if needed at the end of the show is likely a help for women who need to know this.

And this

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 26/12/2022 21:30

bluecheeseblues · 26/12/2022 21:29

I thought this was about an EE advert initially

So did I - I thought Kevin Bacon had been upsetting someone

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:31

It's not real op! Fgs it's not normalising anything

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:32

It was female violence wasn't it....ole Shirley had her by the throat when I glanced up

Miss03852 · 26/12/2022 21:32

Oysterbabe · 26/12/2022 21:27

I'd suggest not watching Game of Thrones.

Game of Thrones is an obvious fantasy show with flying dragons, Eastenders is seen as more “realistic” and they aren’t portraying the violence against Janine as something horrific, it’s being portrayed as someone evil getting their comeuppance, I think that’s the OP’s issue with it.

FuzzyPuffling · 26/12/2022 21:32

Not against women, pregnant or not.

susiesuelou · 26/12/2022 21:33

bluecheeseblues · 26/12/2022 21:29

I thought this was about an EE advert initially

Me too

Itsthewhitehat · 26/12/2022 21:33

Yabu. Most situations in soaps have happened to someone. They specifically focus on certain things to draw attention to something.

But most things in soaps will have impacted someone. What story line could you come up with that has never impacted anyone?

ThePumpking · 26/12/2022 21:33

Miss03852 · 26/12/2022 21:32

Game of Thrones is an obvious fantasy show with flying dragons, Eastenders is seen as more “realistic” and they aren’t portraying the violence against Janine as something horrific, it’s being portrayed as someone evil getting their comeuppance, I think that’s the OP’s issue with it.

Maybe Dexter is the show for op to avoid then

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:34

@Miss03852 I'm laughing at the thought of Eastenders being more 'realistic'! Janine had been drenched after going off a cliff into the sea in a car then soon after rocked up at the voc ( nowhere near the sea) completely dry with her hair styled....hmm

pharaohrocher · 26/12/2022 21:35

The way you've written this, anybody who doesn't watch eastenders will imagine some poor vulnerable victim, possibly being assaulted because she was pregnant.

The character is evil, had done unimaginably awful things.

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:35

Itsthewhitehat · 26/12/2022 21:33

Yabu. Most situations in soaps have happened to someone. They specifically focus on certain things to draw attention to something.

But most things in soaps will have impacted someone. What story line could you come up with that has never impacted anyone?

Er...driving off a cliff into the sea and then getting back to the pub completely dry with hair styled?

Cuppasoupmonster · 26/12/2022 21:35

Oysterbabe · 26/12/2022 21:27

I'd suggest not watching Game of Thrones.

😆

Miss03852 · 26/12/2022 21:36

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:34

@Miss03852 I'm laughing at the thought of Eastenders being more 'realistic'! Janine had been drenched after going off a cliff into the sea in a car then soon after rocked up at the voc ( nowhere near the sea) completely dry with her hair styled....hmm

Yes obviously it’s not real but it’s not the same as GOT which is obvious fantasy 😒 it’s pretty obvious what I meant.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 26/12/2022 21:38

bluecheeseblues · 26/12/2022 21:29

I thought this was about an EE advert initially

Me too!

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:38

@Miss03852 well was game of thrones not loosely based on war of the roses?? A real life event...no?

FuzzyPuffling · 26/12/2022 21:40

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 26/12/2022 21:35

Er...driving off a cliff into the sea and then getting back to the pub completely dry with hair styled?

Whereas poor old Linda's hair seemed to stay wet for at least seven hours..

Newnamenewname109870 · 26/12/2022 21:41

Pregnant women are especially vulnerable and it can damage the child. So yeah. Awful.

Soakitup37 · 26/12/2022 21:54

bluecheeseblues · 26/12/2022 21:29

I thought this was about an EE advert initially

Same