To be upset neighbours didn't send cards?

[Anjali2023]

I thought we had a happy neighbourhood - why couldn't they be bothered to make the tiniest effort?

I've stopped sending cards now, as of covid.

😀No tree in your house then? Or turkey?

We usually do neighbours / family cards. I didn't have the headspace this year due to my FIL passing away. I feel like a bad neighbour especially as we got new neighbours the day of his funeral 🤦‍♀️ will drop a new year card through their door instead to say hi and introduce ourselves.

Since I retired my card list has greatly reduced over the past three years, so as from next Christmas I will only do family and close friends and a few that need posting.

I received fewer cards myself this year so I think many oeople are reducing card giving.

I did get a card from my next door neighbour and a bottle of drink and box of chocolate biscuits as I take in quite a few parcels for them. I always give them a card though.

We always exchange cards with the neighbour to the left and I completely forgot to reciprocate this year. Oops.

I put it down to to having the flu.

Previous years neighbours have done cards as have we. But post covid it's all stopped

Don't send to anyone and haven't for about 5 years. We received about 3 this year...hopefully none next year

Is this some sort of market research?

Seems weird to name change for such a bland subject, and then interact so little.

Are you making notes? 😁

We send them to either side and get them back. The first year we sent more and still only got them back from either side (hence that's continued).

Personally I would always return a card if I got one, but I can't say I place any importance on my neighbours. Just see it as less effort you need to make next time!

Sent my first cards in years this year. New home, new neighbours, we received a few so sent back and to the others we have chatted too.

Didn't buy any because we had them from many years ago.

Would sooner buy a box of chocolates each, more useful, less waste.

Not something I would get upset over, my neighbours are lovely, a card is nice, we gave them cards, we don’t give to receive.

Interesting thread, tho I suspect tilted more towards the people who no longer send cards.

I used to send heaps of them and writing them all, with personal messages, was a big November and December task.

Over the years the number reduced. I never gave cards to people I actually saw (eg work colleagues on 23 dec) but did still send quite a few.

Last year I decided to send none; I have no elderly relatives now and the few friends I didn’t see or connect with on SM I decided I would text instead, maybe even suggest we get together. That felt more worthwhile.

What a relief! Done the same again this year. I am now an oldie I guess, and in future years I will be more than happy with a text, FB message, phone call or visit from any friend or child or sibling or niece. Same goes for birthdays tbh.

Not sent cards in years even to my immediate family. I know that nobody puts them up and everyone knows they are a waste of time and money

I certainly wouldn’t get upset if I didn’t get one from a neighbour.

When I moved in to my road 18 years ago every one sent cards. This year just had 2 and they were my direct neighbours and one is new.

Some people send cards, some don't. Look around shops, they are still very popular.

That's your opinion. It's not everyone's.

You sound nice

I don't send any cards including birthday cards.

I've sent and received lots of cards. I feel slightly miffed that my immediate neighbour, for whom I take parcels in on a VERY regular basis, didnt give us a card this year - we're all human, and like to feel acknowledged (and a 50p pack of xmas cards is a very easy way of doing that).

Because cards are an enormous faff and people have busy lives? I only send them to far flung family members these days. And nobody I know sends them locally any more.

A piece of cardboard with a Robin on it saying Merry Christmas doesn't mean much in the grand scheme of things. I'd rather have gestures like being invited in for a coffee, or going for a walk with a neighbour from time to time. People's company means much more than a card.

We've recently moved in to a small terrace of new build properties, I know the name of my next door neighbour, half of the next couple along, possibly one of the next and none of the others, and it's really been too long for me to ask.

Cards seemed an amazing idea so I sent them signed from Champagne and MrChampagne at number X. We duly received cards from three of the four neighbours, one signed from "all at number Y", and not one from the nameless ones, so I'm no further on 😆

In all seriousness though, I've noticed there's been far fewer cards sent this year all together.

I live on a fairly friendly street and meant to send cards to my neighbours, especially the elderly ones.

We've just moved back in after extensive house redecoration, we're all ill, we had family staying, we have 2 under 3, we were working up until Xmas eve. I didn't manage it.

Renovation, not redecoration. The place was a filthy tip.

This. Why are people so fixed in their views? I love cards. I write and receive a lot. Plenty of things about Christmas I dislike but don't go round shouting about it.

We only did cards for Parents/Grandparents and DD's school friends and teachers.

We said Happy Christmas to neighbours when we saw them.