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Original poster

To suddenly realise I have had not a single text from a friend this Christmas - I officially have no friends!

85 replies

bagthoughts · 26/12/2022 00:43

Not even a text. From anyone. At all. Except family.

Is this sad or is it just me? I suddenly just come to the realisation this is the first year it's happened.

I have no friends anymore! Mid thirties - is this what usually happens around this age or is it just me?

OP posts:
Nimbostratus100 · 26/12/2022 00:45

how many have you sent?

Original poster
bagthoughts · 26/12/2022 00:46

One

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Original poster
bagthoughts · 26/12/2022 00:47

@Nimbostratus100 I'm not skating friends I agree I could have sent one but it's just odd that this year I have nothing and I am saying it's realisation not a blame thread

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thelobsterquadrille · 26/12/2022 00:47

Nobody's sent me one either but isn't that quite normal?

I wouldn't ever think to send out texts on Christmas Day.

Nimbostratus100 · 26/12/2022 00:48

maybe tomorrow send a couple of texts to older friends, who you would have contacted in years gone by. They may well be very pleased to hear from you x

ilovesooty · 26/12/2022 00:48

I got replies from people I messaged.

The first person to message me this morning was my ex, strangely enough. We've been divorced for years.

CaponeOnTax · 26/12/2022 00:49

i have friends, but not sent any texts at all. Family day today.

ilovesooty · 26/12/2022 00:49

Nimbostratus100 · 26/12/2022 00:48

maybe tomorrow send a couple of texts to older friends, who you would have contacted in years gone by. They may well be very pleased to hear from you x

That sounds like a good idea.

Original poster
bagthoughts · 26/12/2022 00:51

Nimbostratus100 · 26/12/2022 00:48

maybe tomorrow send a couple of texts to older friends, who you would have contacted in years gone by. They may well be very pleased to hear from you x

Great idea because I feel sad about it xx

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milkysmum · 26/12/2022 00:51

I haven't had any texts. I've taken the kids to see my mum and dad, and my sister and nephew. I saw my friend yesterday. That's my circle pretty much.

murasaki · 26/12/2022 00:55

I put a Facebook message out on Xmas eve wishing everyone a good Xmas, got into loads of chats from that, did you try that? Maybe do that tomorrow?

murasaki · 26/12/2022 00:57

Mine ended up in lovely chats with old school friends for example, where we vaguely keep in touch but enjoyed the asmkessage and talked

Aquarius1234 · 26/12/2022 01:00

bagthoughts · 26/12/2022 00:43

Not even a text. From anyone. At all. Except family.

Is this sad or is it just me? I suddenly just come to the realisation this is the first year it's happened.

I have no friends anymore! Mid thirties - is this what usually happens around this age or is it just me?

Ditto similar age and no friends.

Mistletoeandwinee · 26/12/2022 01:04

I also didn't receive any messages today. I think things have changed compared to years ago where everyone sent texts saying Merry Christmas. I remember getting loads at one time.

OnTheBoardwalk · 26/12/2022 01:05

I’m stressed dealing with family issues on a busy day

I tend to send some messages early New Year’s Eve rather than Christmas Day

HerRoyalNotness · 26/12/2022 01:25

I had one acquaintance send me one and I sent two, which were replied to. Would be nice to have a big circle

TheCallOfTheMild · 26/12/2022 01:39

Apart from family, had one from my supervisor via our work WhatsApp group, a miserable text from a friend just venting what a crap day she was having (didn't say merry Christmas or ask me anything) and a happy Christmas reply to a text I sent to another friend. That's significantly fewer sent and received than previous years. Maybe we're all just a bit past caring?

jezlifecoach · 26/12/2022 01:46

I had two - one from a close friend and one from a dude that only messages at Xmas, NY and Easter. Definitely remember getting more in years gone by. I am early thirties.

AmazonPrim · 26/12/2022 01:48

I've not had any either.

TinfoilTwat · 26/12/2022 01:53

No texts on Christmas day =/= No friends.

I have a few friends. I had a lovely Christmas day with my family and did not text any of them. They did the same.

SummerInSun · 26/12/2022 02:19

Christmas Day is one day when people get off their phones, or should do. It's a family day, a day for cooking, eating, maybe going for a walk, watching a movie, enjoying a Christmas book or board game, etc. the lockdown Christmases were a bit different, so maybe people did send texts more those years.

I am absolutely confident I have a decent number of good friends. We haven't messaged today. We are all with our families. I would find interrupting my friends on Christmas Day a bit odd.

As others have said, send Happy Boxing Day texts tomorrow. You'll probably find more messages trickle in between now and the end of the holidays, if you make the effort first.

(I'm in a different time zone where it is already BD).

KloppsTeeth · 26/12/2022 02:53

I haven’t had any either. Often; or it wasn’t for me being proactive, I wouldn’t get many texts at all. I sometimes have been unwell, or busy, and noticed long gaps where no one texts me.

i sent a few this evening, thanking people for presents or texting to say I hope they’ve had a good day, or how did they get on at (different venue) today, nothing back. Today is the one day though where I think people are genuinely focused in their small world of family and busy doing things. I was so full from lunch I nearly didn’t text at all. People with kids could well have had a nightmare getting them to sleep after a day or excitement and chocolate, on top of being up early etc.

don’t worry about it today, just there are so many distractions explaining why. See how it goes over the next few days.

Lummikukka · 26/12/2022 11:44

People do New Year's texts more than Xmas don't they? I did a few Xmas eve, I wouldn't expect to receive any on Xmas day (though did get a work email, about work, not xmas wishes, which I found a baffling thing to do).

MakeMineALarge1 · 26/12/2022 11:52

Maybe you should send more texts out and see how many responses you get? Maybe they were all busy with their families

beastlyslumber · 26/12/2022 11:53

I sent lots on Xmas eve and got lots of lovely replies. People are too busy at Xmas to be on their phones so I usually try to contact people on Xmas eve or in the lull between boxing day and new years. I don't wait for them to contact me though! I'd never get any messages if I did that Xmas Grin