To suddenly realise I have had not a single text from a friend this Christmas - I officially have no friends!

[bagthoughts]

Not even a text. From anyone. At all. Except family.

Is this sad or is it just me? I suddenly just come to the realisation this is the first year it's happened.

I have no friends anymore! Mid thirties - is this what usually happens around this age or is it just me?

People do New Year's texts more than Xmas don't they?

Sadly, yes. Always have to remember to turn my phone off else it's pinging all through the early hours with drunken texts from people I barely know.

If you text ten friends and not replies all day, then I would find that sad, but it sounds like you didn’t text them and they didn’t text you either, so not really a massive deal.

I’ve had no texts or calls from friends or family over the festive period. It sucks. I’ve got presents here for the person that I considered to be my best and only friend, and I suggested a few times in the lead up to Christmas that we meet up, but she kept putting it off or not responding. I think I’ll end up just putting them on her doorstep and leave it at that.

People are missing the point about not texting/getting texts from the friends they do have.

I hear you OP it's hard to make new friends

Christmas day itself can be a bit manic, can't it? I messaged one group on Christmas Eve for that reason.

I did get a few messages yesterday but probably wouldn't have got around to instigating as I was cooking, had guests and have a small child, so it depends on what people are doing.

I never instigate generic texts on Christmas Day.

I only message family/friends who I won't see on the day but who have given me gifts in the run up to Christmas and that I have then opened on Christmas morning. So I will send a "Hope you're having a lovely Christmas, thank you so much for <my present> it's lovely, will message in the New Year to organise a good catch up once all the manic festivities are over! Xxx" message to those people but it's more of a 'thank you for my gift' message than a generic "Merry Christmas" message - I use social media for those.

If I knew someone was having a particularly difficult time or would be alone at Christmas (eg a bereavement meaning this was their first year without a family member; someone who has split from a partner so it's their first Christmas alone or the year their kids are with their ex etc) then I might send a "Thinking of you this Christmas" message but otherwise I don't really look at my phone for the majority of the day.

I think it depends on your relationship. I’ve had lots of texts from friends, and work family over the past few days, and it’s been lovely. We’ve a work group on WhatsApp, but had individual messages too, but we’re a close group.

We sent one on our group chat to another couple friend but we chat every morning as we all do Wordle together 😆 I messaged my other friend who responded back. Tbh, I just couldn’t be bothered. There was one I was really pissed off about tbh and that was my sister who didn’t get in touch. Her husband did something so nasty to me last year yet I’m finally over it and recently sent her a birthday card and present, like 3 weeks ago. She acknowledged the card but never even sent me a text yesterday. Well screw you then.

I have plenty of friends and I didn't send anyone a text yesterday. None of my friends sent texts either..we were busy doing family xmas..it's a crazy busy day..it doesn't mean u have no friends op

Meh, most of my friends wouldn’t send a text either. I’d still Clint them as friends.

*count!

I have lots of friends. I don't text anyone on the day.

Last year I got a huge number of merry Christmas messages but this year was much quieter. I was actually quite upset at first as it's such a norm in my circle at least, that the absence of it felt quite stark. I did have a wonderful time with who I was lucky enough to have Christmas with but it was still a bit shaking to me. Like do I have less friends now? 😄

I think people have moved on from individual texts though and now it's more common to post a generic Happy Christmas message on Facebook/Instagram etc. I used to send texts a few years ago but now I tend to do social media posts instead.

Not saying it's a good thing though, texts are more personal and open up to conversations with people you haven't chatted to in ages.

I have people who text every xmas without fail. I'm pretty sure they did even in lockdown.

this year, one. It would have been two but my bestie is having her first xmas without her dad so we knew we'd not hear from her.

I did wonder if it's a thing. Mum also has substantially fewer cards.

I don't relate the 2 things at all.

I haven't had any texts from friends. I have loads of friends.
We exchanged cards and / or greetings personally when I saw them in the run up to Christmas. I wouldn't expect texts on Christmas day from friends.

Thanks for sharing, I'm sure that will make the OP feel so much better 🙃

Same. But I realised a long time ago it was all one-sided. So I stopped texting and stopped hearing from people. Realised they weren't really friends at all.

I think this one is due to the rising cost of stamps.

I’ve got friends but we don’t send texts on Christmas Day. It’s a family day. The only person I messaged other than family was my friend who is having a tough time. I wouldn’t disturb anyone with families and I presume my friends feel the same. Don’t read too much into it, Christmas is a weird time of year.

I'm always busy with family at Christmas and not really in to texting friends merry Christmas. I send Christmas cards for that very reason.

There are numerous friends i didn't message yesterday. I either sent cards or wished them a Happy Christmas when I saw them this month. I would gladly not send any out but woke up to a bunch yesterday morning that I had to respond to.

Christmas Day is always odd in respect of messages.

Lots of people don't send them worrying others find it intrusive.

Many don't have phones near as have visitors in and out.

If you didn't text friends then I'm thinking maybe they didn't text you for the same reason?

Just text a few people the next few days asking how Xmas went and wishing them a happy new year.

I often find my friends don't text much but whenever I send a "hope you're well text" they always reply asking me to meet them for coffee.

I was too busy, what with watching our family opening their presents; and cooking the Xmas lunch for us, three adult DC, their partners and the grandchildren, and later getting Xmas tea, to think about texting friends! As all our friends are at a similar stage of life, hosting adult DC, partners and grandchildren, I expect it didn’t occur to them either!