Was your sister in law your bridemsmaid/s

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? Is this the norm in the U.K.?

Husband has two sisters. One of my SILs was a bridesmaid for me (his younger sister). She was a total bitch about it though, to the point where I almost sacked her from the role. Constant nasty remarks and bad behaviour.

His older sister had literally just had a baby at time we married so she wasn't a bridesmaid but she did give a reading at the wedding and acted as a witness for the marriage certificate.

I had been a bridesmaid myself for his older sister. I wasn't for his younger one (no surprises there!!) But then she did only have one bridesmaid, her friend.

So I don't think it's really odd or anything. I think it's more odd to have siblings as godparents because they are already uncles/aunts?!

I was bridesmaid to both my Sils and one of them was my bridesmaid. I had 2 brothers and both sils had one sister. When I got married one of my brothers had died and his widow and my step daughter were bridesmaids if that makes scene!

No, but I was hers. Missed the wedding of one of my best friends for it as it was the same day. She dressed me like Barney the Dinosaur in a hideous purple satin monstrosity. Bow on the back.
I guess it's because she had few friends. Which is probably because she's a twat.

Yes, they were 12 and 16 at the time and it was a nice way to include them.
I wasn’t asked when DB got married but I had a 4 week old baby.

I think it makes a lot of sense to have your husband’s (the groom!) sister as a bridesmaid at your wedding (it is also the groom’s wedding…). It makes less sense to have your brother’s wife as a bridesmaid.

I had my brother’s sister as a BM but would not expect to be a BM for her.

Mine was but ExH only had one and I had all mine so thought it was only fair

I was bridesmaid for my DHs brother wife and vice versus - we’re very good friends. I wouldn’t say there’s any ‘norm’ though

No, but her daughter was.

We gad my 2 sisters and DHs 2 neices. One of DHs sisters was already married when i met d
DH. The other only had her daughter.
I've only been a flower girl for my cousin way back in 1972.
Middle DSIS only had flower girls, so neither me or my other sister were bridesmaids. I read a passage from the bible Instead, which was nerve-wracking.
My younger DSIS is single .

I had her, got married first. I was due Dts the day before she got married so it wasn't a question. We get on really well. In the end Dts we're very early and we all attended the wedding but no way I could have been a bridesmaid!

There is no "norm".
Do what suits you and your relationship and your wedding.

When db got married, I wasn't asked as I didn't really know my SiL-to-be that well.
When I got married, I did ask dh's sister, as I knew her well and liked her. Plus, it was only one person. (dh only has one sister). I could include her without making the wedding party into a circus.

It depends on lots of things.

No I didn’t however I wish I had involved her in our big day as she is a lovely sister in law,

No. Did I miss a memo? I didn't realise it was the done thing. I wasn't bridesmaid for my sister-in-law at my brother's wedding either.

Mine wouldn't be because I've got 2 sisters, 2 best friends, a cousin I'm close to plus 3young nieces who would be top of the list.
Not planning on getting married but if we did it would be an as small as possible event where 9 bridesmaids would be more than ridiculous.
I'm sure my prospective sil would rather enjoy any wedding with her own family looking after her own young kids rather than poncing about in an uncomfortable dress posing for a load of photos and carrying flowers about.
My brothers partner is wonderful and I would consider asking her son to be a page boy at my imaginary wedding.

No. But then again I was only invited under duress.

I didn't have any because it was covid and we just did a quick registry office but had we done the whole shebang, my brothers wives would have been. Husbands sisters absolutely not though.

I was bridesmaid for both of my brothers wives though - but we are best friends as well outside of their relationships

I felt like I had to have my SIL as a bridesmaid (the family dropped enough hints) but she was a total cow leading up to the wedding and completely blanked me on the day! It was so obvious I had people coming up to me on the day commenting, and I still have no idea what the issue was.

my advice would me think carefully and don’t feel obligated. It’s been a few years and I still get annoyed thinking about it!!

There were so many females in our family I decided on no bridesmaids and had 8 little page boys instead.

When I married my DH, I had his sister as my bridesmaid and I was hers years later. I have four brothers and wasn't a bridesmaid for any of their wives though.

Yes, I did it to encourage relationships, really wish I hadn't bothered.

Who acted as your witness?

No but then we don’t live near, we’re not close and she’s my husband’s brother’s wife not his sister if that makes any difference

No she had two small children to contend with.

I only had two bridesmaids. My sister and my sister in law

My MIL tried to push it. It cause a huge argument as SIL wasn't even interested in being one. I felt pressure. I had no one but my sister which is what I always wanted. It sorted in end and she (SiL) wasn't one.

The key is in the title a 'BRIDESmaid' has to be someone the bride wants