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Was your sister in law your bridemsmaid/s

113 replies

Foxytail · 23/12/2022 19:58

? Is this the norm in the U.K.?

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MajorCarolDanvers · 23/12/2022 20:13

Yes she was plus my own DSis

Onebelow · 23/12/2022 20:13

Nope

thecatsthecats · 23/12/2022 20:14

I didn't have my then 17yo BIL's 16yo girlfriend as as bridesmaid - they split up just before the wedding, so just as well!

Love his new GF now several years later, it's a shame she couldn't be there!

mnahmnah · 23/12/2022 20:15

No. And she got the hump about it, which i was really surprised about, as we had zero relationship. Just because I rarely saw her and when I did I was lucky to get a grunt or any acknowledgement so I assumed she didn’t like me. So I was totally baffled why she thought she would be! Especially when I had plenty of good friends i was struggling to choose between already.

JenniferWooley · 23/12/2022 20:15

I had my SIL but only because my ex-h asked me to have her she wasn't in the original line up

I was bridesmaid for my brothers first wife but we were friends & DD1 was a flower girl

I don't find it's all that common thinking about weddings I've been to over the years though.

GetOffTheRoof · 23/12/2022 20:17

No. I have 4 SIL, the only person I had was my best mate as MOH. The SIL either had children or BIL to wrangle 😂

wp65 · 23/12/2022 20:17

I have been to a LOT of weddings and I would say it's common but not the norm. I get on well with both my SILs (my husband's sister and my brother's wife) but wasn't a bridesmaid for either, and didn't have either of them as a bridesmaid. It's not the default.

L1ttledrummergirl · 23/12/2022 20:17

I did. I have a good relationship with her and it felt as though we were bringing two families together. My brother was with my husband as an usher.

Cornelious · 23/12/2022 20:18

Mine was but my dh only has one sister. I was also hers. My sister didn't have her SIL's as her BM but my other sister did. I don't think there's any rule. Do what you like.

Thedaysthatremain · 23/12/2022 20:21

God no, I can't stand the woman

WaddleAway · 23/12/2022 20:22

Yes mine was. I don’t know if it is the norm (and DH and SIL aren’t from the U.K.) but we get on really well and I wanted her to be a bridesmaid.

fiftiesmum · 23/12/2022 20:22

Yes - the bitch - determined to steal the show, turned up at the last minute and of help whatsoever.

Cantbebotheredwithchores · 23/12/2022 20:24

Mine was but I already knew her for 10 years prior and we get on really well. Then 5 years later I was hers 😊

NameChagaiiiin · 23/12/2022 20:24

I was bridesmaid to both my SILs.
I didn't expect it, and I won't be having my future SILs as my bridesmaids (mostly cause there's like 5 of them)

But tbh, it was a bit awkward. I got on well with the brides but knew absolutely no one else in the bridal party really, I'd rather have just been a guest in hindsight.

Oher · 23/12/2022 20:25

Nope, we get on well and socialise occasionally but it never occurs to me to ask her.

Maybe I should have 😨

Bingbong9009 · 23/12/2022 20:25

Mine will be and it was very much expected of me!

Squidlydoo · 23/12/2022 20:27

Yes I had my brothers fiancé (now wife) but I did t have any of my DH’s brothers wives (also my SIL … to be honest I don’t even consider them. But we did have all of their children as flower girls.

I suspect if the sister in law is your husbands sister or your own brothers wife it may be more common??

tulipsunday · 23/12/2022 20:30

Yes but I was fine with that as we get on

britespark1 · 23/12/2022 20:30

Yes both of my SILs were mine and I have been/will be theirs

ChessieDarling · 23/12/2022 20:34

I didn’t have my SIL as a bridesmaid. For one, I don’t particularly like her but the official reason was that her children were page boys/flower girls and so that was her part by association, iyswim.

SenecaFallsRedux · 23/12/2022 20:35

I think it is the norm in the US, at least where I live. My sister and I were bridesmaids in my brother's wedding, and one of DH's sisters was my bridesmaid.

Glitterblue · 23/12/2022 20:37

Mine was, my brother's then fiancée, now wife. She's like an actual sister to me though, we're very close. My SIL on DH's side wasn't a bridesmaid.

PopGoesTheProsecco · 23/12/2022 20:40

Mine was. But we had a great relationship and I almost felt like I was gaining a little sister when I married her brother.

I have no idea whether this is normal though.

maddy68 · 23/12/2022 20:41

Yes of course. It's a marriage of two families.

Exasperatednow · 23/12/2022 20:42

Yep. And she was an absolute nightmare.