Was your sister in law your bridemsmaid/s

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? Is this the norm in the U.K.?

Yes she was plus my own DSis

Nope

I didn't have my then 17yo BIL's 16yo girlfriend as as bridesmaid - they split up just before the wedding, so just as well!

Love his new GF now several years later, it's a shame she couldn't be there!

No. And she got the hump about it, which i was really surprised about, as we had zero relationship. Just because I rarely saw her and when I did I was lucky to get a grunt or any acknowledgement so I assumed she didn’t like me. So I was totally baffled why she thought she would be! Especially when I had plenty of good friends i was struggling to choose between already.

I had my SIL but only because my ex-h asked me to have her she wasn't in the original line up

I was bridesmaid for my brothers first wife but we were friends & DD1 was a flower girl

I don't find it's all that common thinking about weddings I've been to over the years though.

No. I have 4 SIL, the only person I had was my best mate as MOH. The SIL either had children or BIL to wrangle 😂

I have been to a LOT of weddings and I would say it's common but not the norm. I get on well with both my SILs (my husband's sister and my brother's wife) but wasn't a bridesmaid for either, and didn't have either of them as a bridesmaid. It's not the default.

I did. I have a good relationship with her and it felt as though we were bringing two families together. My brother was with my husband as an usher.

Mine was but my dh only has one sister. I was also hers. My sister didn't have her SIL's as her BM but my other sister did. I don't think there's any rule. Do what you like.

God no, I can't stand the woman

Yes mine was. I don’t know if it is the norm (and DH and SIL aren’t from the U.K.) but we get on really well and I wanted her to be a bridesmaid.

Yes - the bitch - determined to steal the show, turned up at the last minute and of help whatsoever.

Mine was but I already knew her for 10 years prior and we get on really well. Then 5 years later I was hers 😊

I was bridesmaid to both my SILs.
I didn't expect it, and I won't be having my future SILs as my bridesmaids (mostly cause there's like 5 of them)

But tbh, it was a bit awkward. I got on well with the brides but knew absolutely no one else in the bridal party really, I'd rather have just been a guest in hindsight.

Nope, we get on well and socialise occasionally but it never occurs to me to ask her.

Maybe I should have 😨

Mine will be and it was very much expected of me!

Yes I had my brothers fiancé (now wife) but I did t have any of my DH’s brothers wives (also my SIL … to be honest I don’t even consider them. But we did have all of their children as flower girls.

I suspect if the sister in law is your husbands sister or your own brothers wife it may be more common??

Yes but I was fine with that as we get on

Yes both of my SILs were mine and I have been/will be theirs

I didn’t have my SIL as a bridesmaid. For one, I don’t particularly like her but the official reason was that her children were page boys/flower girls and so that was her part by association, iyswim.

I think it is the norm in the US, at least where I live. My sister and I were bridesmaids in my brother's wedding, and one of DH's sisters was my bridesmaid.

Mine was, my brother's then fiancée, now wife. She's like an actual sister to me though, we're very close. My SIL on DH's side wasn't a bridesmaid.

Mine was. But we had a great relationship and I almost felt like I was gaining a little sister when I married her brother.

I have no idea whether this is normal though.

Yes of course. It's a marriage of two families.

Yep. And she was an absolute nightmare.