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To wonder how the huge American families can afford it?

104 replies

00100001 · 23/12/2022 11:32

So you have blogging families who have like 9,10,11,12+ kids.

HOW??

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TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 23/12/2022 11:33

Sponsorships

00100001 · 23/12/2022 11:33

I mean, I know they must get income from YouTube etc

But I literally have no idea how they can earn enough as a couple to pay for 13+ people to love and eat. It's mad!

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Needmorelego · 23/12/2022 11:36

Housing is a lot cheaper outside of the big cities in America.

Noflame · 23/12/2022 12:15

How do American benefits work? I know there’s something about claiming dependents when they do taxes, but I’m not sure about how it works. It could be uncapped though. So one parent working a good job + money from the vlogging/posting etc + good benefits. Then they may be in a state where food and housing is cheap. They might have a cheaper lifestyle or family money as well. I assume it will be different for each of the families.

OneRingToRuleThemAll · 23/12/2022 12:20

I often wonder this when I see large American houses. Surely they can't be for the average family?

Whee · 23/12/2022 12:24

The successful YouTubers will be making plenty but most had a big family before then. A lot seem to be extremely frugal with food, to the point of being almost neglectful. Loads of the big Christian families also homeschool which means the mum (and it is always the mum) isn't even bringing in an income. I get the impression buying a homeschool curriculum is also a big expense in itself.

Eupraxia · 23/12/2022 12:29

I'm not from USA and don't have a super sized family, but we do have four children (3 of which are now teens).

FYI after the first child (and definitely after the second child) each subsequent child costs less as a whole than first/second. For example:

  • we already have tons of tech in the house. So no need for younger children to have an xbox / tablet / phone / switch etc, because we already have multiple of these in the home
  • similarly, there's loads of existing toys, books, tons of legacy, arts and crafts stuff etc. So younger children grow up already having this stuff, therefore need for less
  • Clothes can be passed down or pooled. Currently my 3 teens and DH all fit in Mens Medium clothes. So we pool football tops, sports kit, designer name hoodie etc
  • Once you need more than a 5 seater car, adding extra one or two children doesn't mean bigger car us needed
  • Once you accept holidays need to be a massive villa rather than hotel, extra children doesn't add as much to the cost of holidays
  • If you embrace the children sharing rooms and they have space, no need for bigger house (that said, we did move so all ours could have own room)
winterpastasalad · 23/12/2022 12:34

I don't know of any recent families but know of those from the Duggars generation. Many of them had to rely on charity from the church. If you look at their food pantries it's all highly processed tins of meat, chicken soup and veg. And they call this home cooking.... Oh and they buy all clothes from thrift stores.

Cantstandbullshit · 23/12/2022 12:44

00100001 · 23/12/2022 11:32

So you have blogging families who have like 9,10,11,12+ kids.

HOW??

Here we go again with the American this and that thread.

Cantstandbullshit · 23/12/2022 12:47

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ILoveeCakes · 23/12/2022 12:48

As far as I can tell, they grow loads of stuff like green beans then can it

JackieDaws · 23/12/2022 12:50

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Have a Snickers, petal.

Postapocalypticcowgirl · 23/12/2022 12:51

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It's not a post about all Americans, it's posting about a specific type of family who are unusual even within America. These families have often had reality TV shows or run blogs, so people can see that this is litterally what they do...

I don't think many people think all Americans live in exactly the same way.

fancyacuppatea · 23/12/2022 12:52

JackieDaws · 23/12/2022 12:50

Have a Snickers, petal.

Marathon ffs! 😉

DucklingDaisy · 23/12/2022 12:52

It's a richer country. Their top 25% most affluent have a lot more money than the top 25% here. Also, single income families effectively add their tax allowances together. So you'd get twice as much tax free, hit each band at double the single person income etc.

Cantstandbullshit · 23/12/2022 12:57

Postapocalypticcowgirl · 23/12/2022 12:51

It's not a post about all Americans, it's posting about a specific type of family who are unusual even within America. These families have often had reality TV shows or run blogs, so people can see that this is litterally what they do...

I don't think many people think all Americans live in exactly the same way.

Maybe we just stop asking these stupid questions and leave Americans alone?

It’s the same shot everytime, someone asks a dumb question “why do Americans this and that” and then it turns into a U.S. or American bashing thread every single time with people just making shit up and especially with the “I heard this and that bullshit” seriously she knows those families only buy from thrift stores and cook with cans right? She knows that from watching YouTube right? Seriously???

Lets just leave them alone and focus on it own problems.

Cantstandbullshit · 23/12/2022 13:00

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SaturdayGiraffe · 23/12/2022 13:04

From 2016: It Is Still True That Even Mississippi Is Richer Than Britain

www.forbes.com/sites/timworstall/2016/03/07/still-true-even-mississippi-is-richer-than-britain/?sh=29a3e996654f

I can't imagine post-brexit it's improved.

Leah5678 · 23/12/2022 13:04

America has much lower population density then the UK so it's cheaper to have a big house in the country side. Clothes could be hand me downs, toys could be shared etc in my life rent is personally my biggest cost by far.
Also the average American family has the same amount of kids as here in the UK, but as a country with much more people there will of course be more big family Instagram stars, but you're forgetting we have the Radford's 🙂

winterpastasalad · 23/12/2022 13:06

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LikeTearsInRain · 23/12/2022 13:11

The answer is in your post. Blogging. They don’t do it for nothing you know.

Mumsanetta · 23/12/2022 13:12

@Cantstandbullshit well you’re full of Christmas cheer aren’t you 😂

Baconking · 23/12/2022 13:13

Why are you only asking about American families?
I know a family in England with 11 children.
Are you not interested in how they afford it?

Cantstandbullshit · 23/12/2022 13:14

Mumsanetta · 23/12/2022 13:12

@Cantstandbullshit well you’re full of Christmas cheer aren’t you 😂

Thank you mam, and in the spirit of Christmas let’s stop creating foolish threads to bash and make fun of other people.