To think DP was rude tonight

[Candycane112]

DP came round. Sensed they were moody. Moaning about my cooking and their tea. Showed hardly any affection.
I went for a shower, came back and they were reading. Which is fine, I asked what we should watch. They said they didn't mind. Carried on reading their book. I asked if they were going to read it all night or were they actually going to talk to me tonight. She snapped and began raising her voice. Called me absolutely ridiculous over and over. Then called me controlling!
I said I'm definitely not but you've come to my place to spend time together and you've just read your book all night and said hardly anything to me. She knows my background and that my ex was extremely controlling of me so I find it so out of order that they would call me controlling. She's gone to bed now and not said a word to me.

Aibu to think they were so rude and out of order to me......

Your OP sounds like she has come over for dinner and to hang out/stay over so I'm not sure why she'd bring her book (which is naturally antisocial) unless you both normally sit and read quietly I'm each others presence - I'm assuming this isn't the case - add to that the complaints then I'd say she was definitely rude.

If she's not usually like this then chalk it up to her having a bad day. Speak to her in the morning about it when she's hopefully in a better mood to discuss what happened. If she is usually like this, consider trading in for a newer model?

Bloody hell it really isn't confusing!

Your partner was rude and if she was in a mood, she shouldn't have bothered to come round. I would have asked her to go home

More context required.

Yes exactly we never sit and read together. So I don't get why she's brought it. She's never been that into reading tbh. If she didn't want to come over she just shouldn't have. Instead I felt she's been rude and just sat and read her book.
If this scenario was flipped she would definitely have called me rude

They is fine for singular.

’I went to the Dr today’
’what did they say?’

Works fine.

@Candycane112

why would you put up with this?

if you havent seen her for a while and she turns up rude and moody then its not going to work

you should be excited to see each other

Ok

"Rudeness" is a variable cultural concept. Different people will consider different behaviour "rude", it's not some universal standard.

My family wouldn't consider it rude to spend time reading when visiting one another, it's a mark of being comfortable and there is a closeness in quietly being together.

What do you want from this thread?

Why? She came over for a meal and was rude about the food, refused to engage as she was reading her book then had a tantrum and started shouting.

No context needed. She’s a rude cow and should have stayed at home if she was going to be picky about her meal and wanted to sit in silence.

OP, knock it on the head, she’s horrible.

It's rather sexist to ask - but could she be on her cycle or sleep deprived? I.e. something making her irritable

I think she is due on her period however I think calling me controlling knowing my background is mean. Plus me making her tea and her being picky about it wasn't particularly nice.

I can't help but feel you deserve better. When someone cooks you dinner, the only acceptable response is 'thank you', regardless of what it tastes like (and I'm willing to bet it was nice).

What did you cook her and what was the complaint? Sounds like she,was in a bad mood but I'm wondering if you gave her something she doesn't like and you haven't seen her for,ages so she thought you were making a point and was upset.

However if she's calling you controlling then it sounds like the relationship is dead

She was grumpy and spoiling for an argument OP. It's up to you how you deal with that sort of behaviour. Personally I'd try to deal with it head on and say "You don't seem to be in the mood for company tonight, maybe let's do this another time". If she responds angrily to that then remove yourself from the situation - go to bed early. If asked, you're tired and not up to socialising.

Then break up with her the next day, she sounds like a right sulk.

Don't worry it's quite clear when you read it properly

Hmmm. Do you have a 6 year old son?

If you found that confusing then I wonder how you get on in life ffs.

If she came round to my house, criticised the food I'd cooked and then sat reading a book and ignoring me I would be pissed off.
She should have stayed at home.
From what you've said you don't sound controlling but she sounds like a pain in the arse.

And you hadn't seen her for a while, and she read her book...."she's not that into you" would be my take.

Ltb. She had no consideration of you and doesn’t seem to respect you.

I am not following this.
Are you talking about your parents?

I think something else is going on and this is how she's expressing it

Okay. Just read your other posts. It's not parents 🤦‍♂️.

FFS, stop wasting your time. Ditch the bitch.