Smuggest mum blogger post ever?

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I follow a mum blogger who lives in a very remote location in the UK. Posts have always been a bit ‘aren’t we wholesome’ but with some interesting stuff too. But just recently the smug has reached a new level! She homeschools her kids (not short of a bob or two) and posted about their day outdoors in the nice winter sunshine. She said ‘my son said, just think mum, if I went to school like everyone else I would be sat in a classroom missing this beautiful day. Isn’t he wise?’

AIBU to ask if this is the most self congratulatory post ever?!

I second an AMA! Pretty please! And it took me a while to get your Username (terrible eyesight in my older age) but then snorted tea out of my nose..Brilliant...

Unfollow her then.

It reminds me of that Facebook post in which someone claimed her four year old had made some whimsical comment a four year old would never say and underneath her brother had written “Oh fuck off Rebecca, he did not say that!” 😁. Still makes me laugh.

I just don't think its that smug she is happy her son is in agreement with her. Really annoying that they can't break up school holidays as kids are ill in winter. One school I visited had windows so high up in the class rooms they couldn't look out at the view thats depressing. Also the heating is to hot and no fresh air circulation pluss the awful artificial lighting. She has got a point but then the kids will be restricted in social skills and experiences in different cultures and behaviours if there home schooled.

Such a simple sense of humour!

I know a mum blogger (now Instagram influencer). It all started very positively she shared an honest view on family life, kinda scummy mummyish but also shared interesting local trips and did funny blog posts.

Forward ten years later she has been very successful and made a lot of money, moved into a nice are has 5 holidays a year. The thing is she is still pretending to be that down to earth mum. You can tell she hates it and wants to just live her fancy life but she is trying to keep her audience. She comes across as confident and fun but in reality is quite paranoid, unfriendly and hates meeting people. Her kids are getting older and still feature heavily in her content. I think they must all secretly hate it! It’s all about the money.

Yeah, that really happened 😂.

I had a friend who was like that (she was a user type and incredibly selfish). The DD used to pose when the mum went to check a message on her phone. Really sulky child too but wonderfully happy on all posts with pictures. My DH also has a friend who blogs and he makes a lot of things up and makes himself look perfect when he's actually full of shit. I can't read the posts as it's utterly cringeworthy.

It’s really not interesting enough for an AMA.

Basically, it’s just a load of nonsense. The only people who read mum blogs really are other bloggers. And then they don’t really read them, they were in “pods” that all used to message each other and there would be link ups where you would have to pretend you had read the blog post, leave a comment and they would do the same to you to try and make it look like you had loads of web traffic to boost your numbers to get sponsored posts and free stuff to review.

None of them seemed to like each other anyway. I went to a few bloggers awards as I was nominated a few times. It was just cringe. All the little bloggers clamouring to speak to the bigger ones, everyone name dropping their blogs.

I stopped doing it when the whole instamum crap took off on instagram. I wasn’t about to share my children’s personal lives to make money and by then, it had all become laughable
to me. £50 to make up a load of old shit to promote toothpaste? No thanks, what a waste of my time.

😂😂😂😂

My two don't finish un till this afternoon.

I have been for years quite into overlanding/camping and follow a few folk who blog their travels or tips on camper van maintenance or conversions and they have for the most part been genuinely interesting and at times inspiring. Sadly 'van life' has gained in popularity in recent years and has attracted the nauseatingly smug look at me bloggers with their trite 'one life, live it' bollocks. Staged photos of them looking all willowy and beautiful and at one with nature snugly wrapped up in blanket while holding a cup of coffee with some beach sunrise in the background with follow up photos of them looking like an 80s game show assistant draped over the fitted kitchen in their £100k van. Just fuck off you fake shallow cunts.

Brilliant line! Enjoyed this thread and also thanks to link for Finns Montessori nursery, wonder if Finns addicted to x box by now.

In England that is.
Not that wise to comment without understanding basics of different education systems in the UK.

My DB is good friends with the DH of quite a famous and successful blogger/influencer.

She does quite well for herself but it is all very much smoke and mirrors, I know for a fact where she lives and it’s not the nice part of her town at all.

Everything’s paid for and she does credit companies but there was a stage where she definitely wasn’t crediting people/companies which I think is off. Can’t say more as it could out her.

Honestly I'm sure it's almost all made up. I knew a lady before blogging was quite such a big thing, she used to post on FB these amazing pictures of Oliver made this and Chloe made that on FB. Her house looked immaculate and full of Oliver and Chloe creations.

She wanted a book I had so went over and dropped it off and was asked in for a cuppa. Well her house was not as clean as mine (not a princess here), the kids stuff stuck on the fridge/kitchen cupboards was utterly average, and the home made biscuits Oliver and Chloe had created were NOT decorated as per the day before FB post, where they were supposedly decorated by the 4 and 5 year olds. I felt very let down as it was clear she was doing the kids stuff herself and posting as though they'd created it.
I was quite disappointed. Names changed for obv reasons.

Hilarious response 😂

If you don't like her posts, why are you following her?

I just hate things like this. It's so petty and unnecessary. It screams of jealousy and why be jealous of a child.

It honestly baffles me things like this.

I post often on social media and I've had the catty comments about travelling too much with my little one or getting free things. It just looks so sad on the person making these comments.

Why can't we simply be kind to one another?

Mortifyingly, the organ recital account you mention is me! Unless there are other young kids on Ig who also love organ recitals and are home ed and in the UK...

When I first saw your post and realised with a sick feeling that you were talking about my Ig account, I felt so painfully embarrassed on behalf of my DC that I've made us seem that pretentious and cringey. I've started deleting followers and have made my account private, which I should probably have done ages ago anyway. Despite this temporary name change on here, I'm no mummy blogger, don't have all that many followers, and would never do ads or reviews (not that anyone would ask me!)

I use my Ig account as a way of coping with my life. It's also a way of documenting the stuff we do, to remind myself that we try hard for the kids and manage to do lovely things with them despite all the huge pressures I feel under all the time. And I like to have the memories of their phases and interests so easily available. We have to home educate because my eldest isn't able to be in school and there are no suitable schools for him where we live (or maybe at all, with his specific profile). We have no family help and he finds it hard to be around other children, so meeting friends is often very hard too. Life isn't easy, but I don't tend to share our struggles as much as our successes (prying grandparents and kids' privacy reasons).

Also, unusual autistic kids do have unusual autistic interests, and organs are one of his. If he liked football we'd take him to that instead. Thanks for the reminder that I do need to make my account way more private than it is, to avoid exposing my kids to ridicule or judgment. You should probably unfollow me - there are way better accounts for children's books and activities than mine, that don't come with added weird special interests.

You're a delightful person... very petty indeed.

Ugh, so humble-braggy. Reminds me of an acquaintance of mine posting endless #dayslikethese posts about her 'idyllic' rural life yawn.

Ah it must have stung but probably wise to increase privacy.

I don’t put up dc, not that I’d want to build anything around them, but it’s a reminder it’s the dc being commented on in the end

I know two ig mums - one of them made quite a successful side business from it and posts more about lifestyle rather than her kids, although they do feature heavily in pictures.

The other one is someone I’ve been friends with for years. Her posts are very honest, almost too honest. She has posted lots of personal things about her kids, potty training, bed wetting, when they’ve been badly behaved etc. That side of it makes me uncomfortable - I can’t imagine her kids will be thankful of that that when they get older and more aware. She can be quite self righteous (she’s a self confessed eco mum) and can come across as abit preachy. She gets sent a lot of things to review & every post she does is an AD. I’ve ended up putting her on mute as she doesn’t come as across as genuine anymore.

Me too! @winterpastasalad your story is eye opening!