No presents from DH or child?

[Albanyriver]

Am I unreasonable to be really upset that my DH has not bought me anything from himself or our pre-school aged child, for me for Christmas?

I know he doesn’t have any grand surprise planned, it’s not his style.

His reason is “I buy you stuff during the year when I see it”…..such as the odd pair of £20-30 earrings, flowers when they are reduced in the supermarket! We aren’t so hard up that he can’t afford to spend money on me at Christmas. He can afford to spend money on smoking and had over £600 in back pay in Nov’s wage….it isn’t he can’t afford to buy me anything.

The only present I have to unwrap on Christmas Day is a piece of jewellery I bought myself in the summer sales from my little boy! We have a very small family who we won’t be seeing until New Year anyway.

Lazy wanker

My xdh was absolutely crap at Christmas.
Was only interested in the more drinking opportunities that Christmas produced.
Our first Christmas together he bought me a plastic fur covered elephant that was a pyjama case..meant for a child.
He wasn't interested in Christmas and thought I shouldn't be either.
He's chauvinistic and cruel and I had some sad and unhappy Christmas's.
I'm in a much better place now.

Welll done op. When they spout that I didn’t know what to get you, you look very sceptical and coolly (very coolly) say really? at what point in your searching for something did you decide not to ask me for a hint or suggestion, and that just giving me nothing is the best option?

Send him out today to find you something. He’s a selfish inconsiderate idiot.

Mine came to a head last year I was fed up with things over the years getting to the point that on a number of occasions I had zilch, not even a card. So asked him (just before his december birthday) shall we forget presents from each othet from now on, as best we have no expectation at all.
1 year later a couple of gifts under the tree!
Though still had to send links for ideas!

This is so depressing to read. So many men who just act like they are utterly clueless and who don’t value the person they love.

This thread is a year old!

I'm pretty sure this Xmas there will still be women who have not got a Xmas gift from their kids even because lazy selfish partners have not bothered to take them to choose or even bothered to get the women they claim to love a little thoughtful gift. It's very sad.

I’m certain there will be similar threads in coming days! Though I hope @Albanyriver hasn’t had to prompt this year.

It’s incredibly hard to understand these useless, selfish men. I’m over 60 and can remember my father (who had a full time job, and did his share at home,) taking me and my siblings out shopping for gifts for my mother - every birthday, Mother’s Day and Christmas. And his own presents to her were the highlight of any celebration.

I recall that the year an ex-partner gave me money to buy my own present, rather than choosing and wrapping something for me as he had done forever, presaged the long drawn out end of our relationship.

And all the men I know ensure their children have gifts to offer their mothers.

Truly, until MN I had no idea that other fathers / husbands / partners didn’t do the same.

And this is something good? That's crap and I feel sorry for you. Why do you accept it?

Well, yeah pretty bad from him not getting you anything, but you also have a weird take on gift giving. Why do you say you bought yourself a piece of jewellery FROM your little boy? That's an odd thing to say. You just bought yourself a piece of jewellery, period. Little boys can't buy presents, not should you expect presents from kids with no jobs...just weird all round.