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Pushchair fight on bus

720 replies

Partygal · 19/12/2022 22:25

After picking my child up from her child minder today, I arrived the bus stop to find two women with buggies waiting.

Knowing that the driver wouldn’t let three of us on, I walked round the corner to the previous stop and got on there.

When it arrived at the next stop, sure enough only mum was allowed on - the other was told to wait 30 minutes for the next bus. I was screamed at and called a cunt and a queue jumper by one mum who tried to shove me off the bus.

I don’t think I did anything wrong, nor did the police when they turned up after being called by the driver.

What the fuck is wrong with people?

OP posts:
Craver · 20/12/2022 01:44

It's like a scene from Motherland.
Lol

VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN · 20/12/2022 01:46

PutinSmellsPassItOn · 19/12/2022 23:21

Yanbu.

But I also think only collapsible umbrella type pushchairs should be allowed on buses which is how it used to be .......People have taken advantage of accessible buses which disability campaigners fought for for years, the current situation leaves both groups at a disadvantage. Hardly anyone with a pushchair can use the buses because they're unable to use common sense and wheelchair users are hardly able to use them.because of selfish twats with prams the size of a small car taking up the spaces

What about mums with newborn babies in their bassinet prams, rural areas, can’t drive so have to rely on buses? How the hell would they get on if only umbrella prams were permitted on buses?

For fuck sake.

Tonty · 20/12/2022 02:02

OP used her brain, something the other two were lacking. They preferred to use brawn and all the self-righteous posters on here would've done the same without a backward glance. Good for you @Partygal.

Potato28 · 20/12/2022 02:03

The people falling for this bull crap on this thread are the silly ones here 😂

WreckedUmbrella · 20/12/2022 02:03

Yes, indeed.

It is my opinion that anyone who says, and I quote a previous poster:

"But I also think only collapsible umbrella type pushchairs should be allowed on buses..."

I believe that this is the opinion of a git.

I happen to believe that banning parents - female or male - with prams from public transport - is there such a thing as - parentphobia!!!!

Bepis · 20/12/2022 02:04

@VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN You can get umbrella style prams for newborns. I had one for mine as I used the buses a lot and needed something that wasn't bulky.

FlossMeg · 20/12/2022 02:53

How did the other woman know you were on the bus and had taken ‘her’ space?

TheQueenInTheNorth · 20/12/2022 02:53

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This has been deleted by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

Someone's clearly been hurt in past by a "chav single mum". How about don't stereotype people and assume the worst, middles class mums can also behave badly.

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/12/2022 03:15

Technically you didn't break any rules, but you were selfish and sneaky in your actions.

This. They acted ridiculously afterwards but you were a bit of a twat. Why not get on at the earlier stop and fold?

DdraigGoch · 20/12/2022 03:16

Anotherbloomingchristmas · 19/12/2022 23:06

50 years ago all the mums had enormous pushchairs and must have travelled on buses.
I think there’s too many ridiculous regulations now.

Didn't the prams get hung on the back of some buses?

VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN · 20/12/2022 03:18

Bepis · 20/12/2022 02:04

@VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN You can get umbrella style prams for newborns. I had one for mine as I used the buses a lot and needed something that wasn't bulky.

I wish someone would’ve bloody shown me this 3 years ago 🤦‍♀️ DD’s pram was like a spaceship cos I had no car and had to use it to store shopping on top of all the standard newborn luggage! was elated to see the back of it

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/12/2022 03:48

Smart thinking, nothing 'technical' about it, assuming there is no drip feed that the other mums were incapacitated and prevented from walking to the other stop? After all, if the OP had time to do this and catch the bus, then so did the other people there.

Also the OP could have got to the other bus stop and found a couple of folk with wheelchairs or prams already there, it was a gamble for her, it paid off this time but that was not guaranteed.

WiddlinDiddlin · 20/12/2022 03:57

I also agree if you want to use public transport, buy the right equipment to do so.

Disabled people have to do this too... those who use big outdoor electric scooters can't get on the bus with them, some trains, I can't get my manual or my powerchairs on (older coaches with narrower aisle dividers).

Why should parents be granted the freedom to take huge, stupidly hard to fold prams/strollers designed to be put into massive boots in cars, onto public transport, when much smaller, easier to fold options are available and are on the whole, cheaper?

MrsTumblebee · 20/12/2022 03:59

Op, you thought smartly. It’s not your fault neither of the other mums didn’t. Next time they might though. 👍

MrsTumblebee · 20/12/2022 04:00

FlossMeg · 20/12/2022 02:53

How did the other woman know you were on the bus and had taken ‘her’ space?

They would have seen her at the original bus stop.

Bepis · 20/12/2022 04:01

@VacancyAtNumber10AGAIN A spaceship 😁. It's quite a while ago for me now (my daughter is now 16) but I had a McLaren foldable one which was suitable from birth. Laid all the way back.

Bepis · 20/12/2022 04:03

Yep they still do them, suitable from birth.

Pushchair fight on bus
DuchessDandelion · 20/12/2022 04:41

You didn't queue jump. You did nothing wrong. Not selfish.

Fadeout83 · 20/12/2022 04:41

😂😂😂

The comments on here 😂

You did nothing wrong OP. I would have done the same thing. Bugger sitting in the cold to maintain your moral high ground 🙄

BabyOnBoard90 · 20/12/2022 04:50

YANBU

Snooze you lose

Oblomov22 · 20/12/2022 05:32

You were sneaky, a queue jumper. Would've pissed me right off.

SpicyFoodRocks · 20/12/2022 05:38

I don’t know. I think it was strategic rather than sneaky. And you took a ‘risk’ by walking to the other bus stop. You could have started walking and the bus could have arrived at the original stop and you would have missed it. You got lucky and ‘won’. They could have done the same.

You should have folded the buggy up though.

Is it somewhere you go often? I would be nervous about seeing these woman again. That’s why these confrontations are best avoided.

HollyDollyChristmas · 20/12/2022 05:52

So instead of speaking to the two other people at the bus stop (who you will potentially see there again), helping each other out where one of the three of you fold your buggy and you can all get where you’re going you outsmarted them resulting in the whole bus full of passengers being delayed. You know it was sneaky. Would you have done the same if it had been a wheelchair user?

SalP75 · 20/12/2022 06:00

I was on this bus! It really happened. Wasn't it great when the pigs flew by the window?

🙄

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 20/12/2022 06:22

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 19/12/2022 22:31

Was your pushchair foldable?

You acted knowing that you would be taking the place of someone who had been waiting longer than you.

Technically you didn't break any rules, but you were selfish and sneaky in your actions. If your pushchair was foldable then you could have folded it, put it in the bag bit and held your child.

This!

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