I had a situation last year where I dealt with an initial appointment for an elderly widow who had been befriended by an elderly gent .
Only he got obsessed. She tried to gently back away - he wouldn't have it . Began to properly stalk her . Contacted her family , the church , and started really frightening her by saying he could see her lights weren't on and if she didn't respond to him he would have to break in to check she was ok.
She had repeatedly asked him to stop and leaver her alone. He wouldn't .
I spent ages with her , took a good statement, she had some creepy cards he"d posted with bizarre messages in them , she was really scared .
It got passed to a male response cop who tried to deal with it by way of restorative justice !
I'd kept an eye on it - so I asked the Sgt in the da team to respond to the cops suggested disposal.
She waded in and said nope - cannot deal with it that way .
That cop went absolutely out of his bloody way to ignore policy , a sgt in the da team , and he was hell bent on an rj.
In the end the chief super came to me and talked to me about it - he asked me to write my own statement to say how frightened she was , what she'd told me , her demeanour etc . This woman had 50+ messages from this bloke maki g all manner of insidious threats and I'd detailed them verbatim in the statement.
It took for me , a domestic abuse team Sgt and finally a chief super to try and force that pc to deal with it properly and even then he refused - he kept citing his age - yes he was an elderly man but bloody scary and committing the crime of stalking g and harassment! In the end the DA team dealt with it when he turned up outside her address at 2 in the morning.
So I can understand the mistrust . That was just one job I know of because I kept an eye on it and had a vested interest in.
I do sometimes think big beefy blokes dont understand the fear that something like this engenders in an elderly female victim .
I know that officer was reported to psd. The chief super did it . But he wouldn't have known if I had t kept my eye on it .