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Any police about? Need input

178 replies

MolliciousIntent · 19/12/2022 21:30

Need some information about what rights people have vis a vis the police... If they ask to question you in relation to a crime, are you allowed to say no? What can they do if you say no? What happens if you refuse to answer their questions? Can you be arrested for not cooperating?

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fruitbrewhaha · 20/12/2022 09:48

RaggedBlousedPhilanthropist · 19/12/2022 22:08

To those saying “don’t trust the police”, what is the alternative? Take the law into your own hands?

Just as there are some bad apples in every organisation and institution doesn’t mean that the Police as a whole are not to be trusted.

They are damned if they do and damned if they don’t.

People want the police and courts to help them but then don’t want to give statements because they don’t want to be seen as a “grass”.

How do you expect justice if you won’t speak out? How do you expect the police to try and protect you if you won’t tell them what’s happened or happening?

Too many scumbags get away with sex
crimes and domestic violence because people won’t speak out, and then it’s always the police’s fault for letting the perpetrator go.

The Police is just part of the system. Once a case gets to Court it’s in the hands of magistrates (less serious) or a jury (more serious) who are ordinary people who decide if someone is guilty or not. The police don’t get to decide if someone is guilty or not.

There’s a lot of crap going around about the justice system in this country but it’s far better than you would get in most places.

No The alternative is to have a properly funded well run criminal justice system from the police to the courts to the probation service. As it currently stands the system is fucked. Years and years of underfunding means it takes years for anything to go to court and by then witnesses have disappeared, dropped off the radar or got over it.

The police will more likely arrest a women for tweets she didn't even write than investigate a burglary.

AlisonDonut · 20/12/2022 09:49

gogohmm · 20/12/2022 09:39

If you have done nothing wrong why would you be concerned?

I've given witness statements, they were very friendly and helpful, even picked me up and took me home once, entertaining the kids who had to come with me ... but I was innocent and had witnessed a crime (thankfully the person pleaded guilty so I didn't have to give evidence in court).

If you have done something illegal then either own up or speak to a solicitor

When not posting a meme is apparently enough to get arrested and have all your and your family's IT siezed and not returned for months, I think I'd advise caution on ever speaking to the police.

Twiglets1 · 20/12/2022 10:43

FrenchFancie · 20/12/2022 07:12

I have to say I’m quite surprised by the vitriol aimed at the police here!
I’ve two dealings with the police in the last year, both were very cordial. I was the last person to see someone alive and gave details to the police about time, date and apparent state of mind of that person (it’s going to coroners court in the new year). Second was my next door neighbour being burgled where the guy had come up our drive and bunked over our fence - they were asking for the footage from our camera at the back.
both times the police have been polite, I gave a statement in the first incident and they were not good cop / bad cop like some bad TV drama but kind, polite and just went over the facts a few times to make sure my recollection was correct. I then got a follow up call after the person was found dead, to let me know and to ask if I needed any help (I did not).

i obviously don’t live in a rough area because I would always help the police if I knew something! I’m not sure where the fear of the police comes from to be honest!

I have no fear of the police. I’ve never been in trouble with them but I have just found them to be totally unhelpful when I had my car damaged, when my husband witnessed a man physically abusing a woman outside a pub and when a police officer reversed into my car, apologised profusely and then denied liability once the insurance companies got involved. And all the stories I hear from family & friends are equally negative. So I don’t trust them.

itwasntmetho · 20/12/2022 10:51

Too many scumbags get away with sex
crimes and domestic violence because people won’t speak out, and then it’s always the police’s fault for letting the perpetrator go.

Fuck off with your victim blaming narrative, women are not protected from the perpetrators of domestic violence after they have reported it, they are vulnerable, these cunts are like dogs with bones they don't just leave you alone after the police have spoken to them and often they use the police to further abuse you often with great success.
As for reporting sex crimes, go look up Semina Halliwell and tell me that you'd advise your friend or family member to speak to the police after experiencing that.

WatchoRulo · 20/12/2022 10:58

The Police aren't interested in "helping" you prove you are innocent. If they think you did something, they will be looking for any way to confirm that.

I have experience of ill-treatment by Police in my youth. I made an official complaint. The complaint went nowhere because the two coppers involved lied. Of course the majority of Police are decent - but you need to protect your own interests because they won't.

Felix125 · 20/12/2022 11:25

Posted from another thread - but its relevant in this case i think.

"....They can be invited for a vol interview if there is no necessity to arrest, regardless of the amount of evidence available or the severity of the offence - you need a necessity. And its not a case of needing 'evidence for the defence'. You need to give the other party an opportunity to give their account. Once this account has been made, it will need to be investigated before the next gate. The case might be NFA'd at that point, but it may merit being passed to CPS for a charging decision.

Even if they are arrested, then the chances are they are going to be released after interview for the case to be processed in any case.

If they give an account in interview which exonerates them, the case could be NFA'd there and then without it needing to go to court.

If they refuse to give an account in a vol interview or refuse to remain - its similar to a 'no reply' interview - If you want to arrest after they have failed to attend, then you still need a necessity to do so. But they key word here is 'voluntary' - they have been given an opportunity to be interviewed, but refused.
If no defence is raised, the case has one word against nothing. We have a reporting persons statement & witness testimony with nothing to oppose it. So the chances are it will be processed to court for a trial. How else are the court going to make a judgement?

At court, if they then raise a defence - it will be argued that the caution has been given to them ".... it will harm you're defence if do not mention when questioned something which you later reply on in court..." This will obviously become relevant and may go 'badly' for them...."

As I say - its posted from another thread, any questions just ask.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4670039-the-police?page=1

Elleherd · 20/12/2022 12:41

stillvicarinatutu Sorry this is huge!
Read your posts for years and lots of respect for you and other sensible common sense officers out there, and what you face daily. Generally you seem to be common sense and apparently working in a force that understands it place in society and that it has to be different things to different people according to why they're interacting with the police.

You don't get to see what ordinary non criminal members of the public, see when they interact with the police in some areas.

One of Dc's friends who I've known since childhood is a police officer. They're smart, well educated, know what a scroat is, what an idiot who needs to be pushed away from becoming one is, and what a victim is, and that sometimes people can even be more that one category and still need the law upholding.

They've been invaluable to us as we seek to not pay for the fact we're surrounded by crime, often the victims or witnesses, and don't need to be further victimised by ill educated officers who want the instant gratification of solving a crime, but don't care about the repercussions to victims, or making witnesses into additional victims. The worst ones don't care if they get the right perpetrator, as they seem to feel it all levels out somewhere.

They frequently treat victims of crime as standing between them and their goals, potential criminals that they haven't caught yet, and act as if we officially live in a police state, and they are in charge and we must do as they order. It's why they've become a problem.

I'm visibly disabled and a repeat victim of crime. It's 50% of the problem, sadly if others report it, then police attending is often the other 50%. I didn't used to feel this way, it's a reaction to how police behavior towards me and mine as victims of crime, has changed.

The well heeled around here use private security firms who act as police. (even refusing access to public roads for their clients, which the police do nothing about -we get its low on the priority list - and telling the plebs to privately prosecute, knowing we can't) The real police just don't uphold the law, from minor (as above) to middling (seeking to arrest a naked disabled woman for biting the burglar who woke her up) major, (refusing to take statements about serious OTT GBH on a mentally ill woman, but publicly demanding street statements over a murder in front of gang members known to be linked to the likely perpetrators) and we can do little about their decisions.

The dodgy round here, use the enforcers linked to both crime, and illicit money lending, but also bailiffs, rubbish collection, etc. Some who aren't dodgy pay a fee for 'services' (but it amounts to protection) the same as the well heeled. The small group caught in the middle keep our heads down and try not to be noticed by criminals, private security firms, or police.

As a result of the financial fallout from Covid increasingly we are forced into contact with the 'enforcers' because they are part of legitimate businesses now, and often the only people who will step in over the luckless middle group. It's a sticky web, but increasingly hard not to be ensnared by.

Our bit is a 'naice' area sandwiched from all sides by the not nice, with a handful of SH in it. We've become a cut through with casual crime as well as planned. We defend ourselves, and our rich neighbors as best we can, and the way we get treated is in stark contrast to the way they do.

Generally police attitudes here, towards anyone with lower social economic status, SH or council tenants, suffering from MH issues, or viably disabled, is to see us as the problem, and treat us as scroats, or attracting crime by our existence, no matter we don't have criminal records, or what's been done to us. We're 4th class citizens.

The desire to have results means ignoring those brave enough to give statements that don't fit the desired narrative, arbitrary 'law enforcement' by officers unqualified to make those judgements, victims being accused of criminality as they're still there and the offender has hot footed it long ago, witnesses being intimidated into shutting up because the police have made a decision, and really frightening situations where ordinary people find themselves ordered to do things they know will lead to crime. (TBF the last is often the much feared by the real community, 'community officers.')

I'm SO lucky to have an intelligent knowledgeable friend in the force that I can call for advice. but it shouldn't be like this.

You can't tell walking down our 'naice' street that this is what's going on, or that some of us live in equal fear of the police as of the criminals. The well heeled generally take the police advice to buy in security patrols, and the rest of us can't afford the advice to move, now we've become the easier targets.

We aren't protected by front line police response here, though we benefit from what else they do backstage in terms of tackling gangs, drugs etc, but I only know that because of Dc's friend.

IMO the issue isn't generally corruption, (those exist and are just uniformed criminals, but are not the rank and file) it's poor education, and the caliber of more recent recruits in a society that has been poorly governed and resourced, in an institution placed under ridiculous pressure, combined with a somewhat understandable police ethic of 'us against them' and a very low understanding of their real role, and the law, and what laws to use when arresting actual criminals. (Witnessing the perpetrator being arrested under the wrong charge tells the victim they'll be walking out of court fast on a technicality, so definitely don't do anything stupid like giving a statement. They know where you live, and no ones going to respond when they come for you)

I'm sorry these threads must feel like a personal attack on good officers, for many of us they're anything but, we desperately need good officers who will travel up the line, whose awareness is the best chance of changing the internal culture, if we manage to change the society and it's government, that most of the blame lies with.

Elleherd · 20/12/2022 12:57

OP the thread and poll would go very differently if you said if there was a situation where you'd done something you could be charged for, (reasonable or not) or were the victim or witness of someone else who could be charged.

Stressedmum2017 · 20/12/2022 13:07

No comment until you speak to a lawyer.
Don't trust them all.

For what its worth I reported my rape (with evidence). They werent bothered so it went no where, he's still out there.

Felix125 · 20/12/2022 14:08

Stressedmum2017
That's horrendous - did they not even take an account from you?

KitchenDiscos · 20/12/2022 14:13

I don’t trust the police at all. I have had very few dealings with them, but when I reported a crime, they (West Yorkshire Police) couldn’t have cared less if they tried.

I’ll add my voice to those saying seek some legal advice.

Username6194 · 20/12/2022 14:52

Hadtochangeforthisone · 19/12/2022 21:39

You always have the right to say 'no comment'

Always say no comment until you have legal representation

MolliciousIntent · 20/12/2022 15:14

Well this exploded while I was looking after a poorly toddler. Situation is now resolved, thank you all for your advice and insight

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OMG12 · 20/12/2022 20:06

KitchenDiscos · 20/12/2022 14:13

I don’t trust the police at all. I have had very few dealings with them, but when I reported a crime, they (West Yorkshire Police) couldn’t have cared less if they tried.

I’ll add my voice to those saying seek some legal advice.

Why don’t you trust the police?? They are incredibly overstretched, they struggle to get to all the top priority calls
They are massively overstretched. Their job isn’t made any easier by stupid comments of “don’t trust the police”. people heckling and filming whilst they try and do their often very dangerous job.

Do you trust the policeman who got hypothermia trying to smash through ice with his bare hands to reach those little boys who drowned? Is he deserving of your Ill informed derision too?

Maybe you could help by giving up your free time and join the specials
like many police officers who risk their lives for free and have to deal with the most horrendous situations (and people) for no pay.

MrsMorton · 20/12/2022 20:15

OMG12 · 20/12/2022 20:06

Why don’t you trust the police?? They are incredibly overstretched, they struggle to get to all the top priority calls
They are massively overstretched. Their job isn’t made any easier by stupid comments of “don’t trust the police”. people heckling and filming whilst they try and do their often very dangerous job.

Do you trust the policeman who got hypothermia trying to smash through ice with his bare hands to reach those little boys who drowned? Is he deserving of your Ill informed derision too?

Maybe you could help by giving up your free time and join the specials
like many police officers who risk their lives for free and have to deal with the most horrendous situations (and people) for no pay.

Read the room. Read some of the posts. Read the news.

ohioriver · 20/12/2022 20:17

@OMG12 I don't trust the police because they stood in front of me and lied to my face.

Twice.

OMG12 · 20/12/2022 20:49

MrsMorton · 20/12/2022 20:15

Read the room. Read some of the posts. Read the news.

“Read the room” usually means, just agree.

you could say, listen to the news to justify most things. I listen to the news and see the police risking their lives in the face of aggression, helping people in the community, facing attack on every shift and getting in with it. I see a policeman trying to reach a drowning child. Some 20,000 people volunteering to do it for free on top of their jobs. With my own eyes I see two policeman stood on a railway bridge treating a severely mentally ill person with kindness and compassion. I see police en mass searching for a missing child.

Like all professions there’s good and bad.

OMG12 · 20/12/2022 20:51

ohioriver · 20/12/2022 20:17

@OMG12 I don't trust the police because they stood in front of me and lied to my face.

Twice.

well what we’re the details? Why did they lien(if they did)

ohioriver · 20/12/2022 20:52

I've already explained on the thread @OMG12

MrsMorton · 20/12/2022 21:01

OMG12 · 20/12/2022 20:49

“Read the room” usually means, just agree.

you could say, listen to the news to justify most things. I listen to the news and see the police risking their lives in the face of aggression, helping people in the community, facing attack on every shift and getting in with it. I see a policeman trying to reach a drowning child. Some 20,000 people volunteering to do it for free on top of their jobs. With my own eyes I see two policeman stood on a railway bridge treating a severely mentally ill person with kindness and compassion. I see police en mass searching for a missing child.

Like all professions there’s good and bad.

And with my own eyes I see victimisation, neglect, and targeting. Working outside the law, overreach, disrespect and negligence. Guess you've been lucky enough to never be a victim. Check your privilege.

Also, none of your fucking business why pp feels she's been lied to. Why wouldn't you believe her? Or are the police beyond reproach, despite all of these personal testimonies?

RaggedBlousedPhilanthropist · 21/12/2022 08:23

OK… since you have all the answers and are clearly a lovely polite reasonable
person… how should the Police protect people if they don’t have a complaint or a
complainant?

Crystal ball?

Telepathy?

Magic mirror?

Second sight?

The ghost of Christmas future?

MrsMorton · 21/12/2022 19:43

RaggedBlousedPhilanthropist · 21/12/2022 08:23

OK… since you have all the answers and are clearly a lovely polite reasonable
person… how should the Police protect people if they don’t have a complaint or a
complainant?

Crystal ball?

Telepathy?

Magic mirror?

Second sight?

The ghost of Christmas future?

I first made a report to the police in July. Last weekend, after complaining to a different force, I was invited to give a statement for the first time.

I have been stalked and harassed online and in person since June.

Not sure they needed a crystal ball in this case @RaggedBlousedPhilanthropist perhaps I should have tried one of your other, victim blaming methods.

C'mon. What should I have done? Fascinated to hear your answer.

superplumb · 21/12/2022 19:55

So as a non corrupt cop which according to the replies on here is impossible ( talk about ignorance) I do know the law.
If you are a suspected suspect, options are as follows:
Brief questions to determine whether you are a suspect or a witness. Once identified as a suspect this leaves a few options: 1) arrest and interview at the station. You are entitled to free and independent legal advice. 1) arrange a time to come in as a voluntary basis. Again you are allowed free legal advice.
3) conduct a contempt note interview/ ot on their body worn camera st your home address. Again you are allowed free legal advice although legal never go to home addresses so it's usually at a side room at the station.

If you are either a witness or victim, you don't have to answer any questions. We have no good samaritan law in the UK so you are not obliged to help police at all with enquires. Most people do ime because most people are decent.
Hope this helps.

Brefugee · 21/12/2022 19:57

Have a solicitor with you when you speak to them. Make notes. Lots of them. Get names and badge numbers.
But mostly have a solicitor with you

Unfortunatly, and it is entirely due to them and nothing else, i don't trust the police at all. Especially in respect of interactions with women.

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