To get annoyed at my mother called my daughter "her" baby?

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My parents had DD over night for the first time last weekend. She's 11 months. I'm so grateful to my parents for caring for her but when she brought her to a Christmas party we were all meeting at the next day, she was very reluctant to let me hold he or take her. She spent most of the party scooping her up and taking her to people. I missed her so much, I was so sad!

But since she was born my mum has a habit of calling her "my baby" (as in my mums baby). She's a great mum and grand mother and I love her dearly, am I unreasonable to get upset about this? It's not that I don't want her to feel connected to her GD but it almost feels like she's undermining all the hard work I'm putting in to raising her every day. Thought? Am I being possessive?

Genuinely surprised me how many are saying YABU. I disagree. YANBU.
I hate it when mil say "how's our ?" Or refers to baby as "mine". Yes, they are loving grandparents, but they are not their parents. Personally, it gives me the ick and clicks something off in me that I just absolutely hate. So that teamed up with her taking your baby without asking and parading them around would really grate on me. Equally, I get that she's going to be excited and want to show off her granddaughter, but just because she's your mother, doesn't mean she can stomp all over you to do it. As she's your mum, there's probably a weird mix of authority going on there, which now you're a mummy yourself, has to adjust. Otherwise it'll breed resentment.

I say this and I lost my mother. She would never say 'mine' or anything like that personally and I feel the comments on here wishing their loved one was alive to have the scenario you're in is cruel to be honest. Just because you're mum is alive and being a keen grandparent, doesn't override how you want to parent or how you feel...

Correct her everytime. Take baby back when you want. Set boundaries.

Team: you are over reacting!

I call my grandchildren my babies. When I pop round to my daughter's I say "Where are my gorgeous babies?" Or if I see someone I know I show off "my babies".

OP, you're lucky to have a mum who loves her granddaughter so much.

Your mum loves her little grandchild, but... she needs to have you and DH establish reasonable boundaries where YOUR DD is concerned. Maybe let DH lead on this,if you tend to become emotional.

My mum calls ds " my boy". He's 21 and they have a great relationship. He calls her The G meister.

My DS is always my Mum's baby when she visits. I find it adorable, plus I get a few days off while she dotes on my son while she stays. I have my Mum and she absolutely adores my child, how could I be upset at that

Zombie thread.
From December last year...

I'll never forget my now ex mother in law cuddling our 2 day old son and referring to him as hers. Post natal depression was kicking in after a traumatic pregnancy and birth. It may be nothing to some women, but something to others. This was the same ex mil that wanted to announce my pregnancy before 12 weeks when I was bleeding and having regular scans. I learnt so much from her about not to behave when one of my children is pregnant or a new parent.