To stop sending Christmas gifts to BIL's kids

[Brodies]

For context they have a 12yo and an 10yo. We have a 11yo and a 9yo. We live in different countries.

Every year we used to send their kids presents and in return they would send ours something in January.

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Aibu to think it's about time to stop sending them gifts? BIL is generally kind but doesn't stop the wife from being vile to us. Kids get on ok when they see each other

Farce is the perfect word for it! Every year we exchange gifts with one of my relatives and the woman wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire. It's all for show so that she can't ever say she was the one who let the kids down. Last year I didn't buy anything and she arrived Christmas eve with a huge bag of stuff from the pound shop, I hadn't even heard from her since the April. I panicked and ended up giving her some sweets I'd bought for my DC and £20 for her child that I really couldn't afford. I feel like texting her to say let's not do presents for the children this year but I'll be the Grinch then. Large families are a pain in the arse.

It doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship.

So just tell the parents "is it ok if we just send cards from now on and perhaps do something nice together when we see you instead?"

Random presents off random relatives won't be missed.