Who should pay?

[sparklydiamond999]

My ex and I share a daughter and although we're no longer together, we still do "family" outings every now and again which our daughter loves. My ex text yesterday to ask if we would like to come to a Christmas event next week, along with some of his extended family so that our daughter can meet some of her cousins she hasn't met yet. I said yes and didn't think anything else of it.

Hours later ex texts again and asks if I've managed to book tickets. I replied with 'no, I thought you were booking them'. He then tells me that he doesn't have the money to pay for the tickets at the moment and asks if I can pay. The tickets are very expensive and I don't want to pay. AIBU to think that since he invited us he should pay? I have no issue covering my own ticket but think he should pay for his and daughters ticket.

He should pay.

He should pay. Without a doubt.

Can you afford to go halves on your daughters ticket?

Now you know why you were invited.

He’s asked you so you can pay. I think I’d say she misses out this time,

He's an absolute pisstaker!

How much is it? It’s quite cheeky of him to do this, I would say that he needs to pay half or you won’t be coming. I assume she might wants drinks or snacks when you’re there too? Who’s paying for those? He’s taking the piss.

Is he expecting you to pay for his ticket too?!

I would have expected/offered to pay for my own ticket, been open to the idea of going halves on DD's ticket, and said no fucking way to the idea of paying for his ticket, the CF!

So true.

I expect to pay for my own ticket but obviously he pays for himself and his (your) daughter as it’s a treat with him, initiated by him, with his family.

I think you should go halves on your daughter's ticket and he should pay for himself.

Very cheeky to ask if you want to go somewhere and then ask if you will buy his ticket! There is no reason why he should pay for your ticket just because it was his idea but yes I think he should pay for your (as in both of you) daughter’s and perhaps accept half from you if you had felt inclined to volunteer it.

you Should pay yours and half your child’s. Tell him that’s what you will do. If he can’t pay don’t go

Unless there's an existing agreement, or a negotiation at the time it's first discussed, there's a simple rule: whoever suggests it pays.

Just reply with "I don't have any money either."

No, don't pay for your child's half. It's for his family, not yours. He invited you. He can pay

It's for their child's benefit too and she enjoys when they do things as a family.

How nice that you still have family days. That almost made me cry. You see so many people who can't even be civil after breaking up.

Was he definitely asking if you'd booked HIS ticket too? Perhaps he was assuming you were paying for your ticket and your Daughters?

He should definitley have paid or gone halves on your Daughters ticket.

Sounds like he could've communicated it a bit better.

But it's been instigated by her ex.
He seems to have invited her and DD.
It is for his family and his DD benefit.
He should pay.

I’d expect you to either both pay for one adult and half a child, or for him to pay for one adult and the entire child ticket.

I don't really want to pay halves for my daughter as this outing was arranged by him, with his family, so think he should pay. He never offers to pay halves when I arrange outings!

In that case, sod him. He can pay for himself and her, or his family can, and he can look after her all by himself and you get a day off!

How much are the tickets, @sparklydiamond999

I would reply, ‘I don’t have any money either! Were you expecting me to pay for your ticket?’

He should pay for your dd. Do you pay for him when you invite him to events?