To think you’ve got to be a bit dense to do this?

[WarmBrownEyes]

Show off your new £400 shoes on social media when you’re setting up an online auction to raise funds for your loss of earnings while your child has therapy? Not to mention there’s also an online fundraiser under way currently sitting at five figures.

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YANBU. Begging for money for everyday living then wasting £400 is very entitled.

I would withdraw the offer and say that she obviously doesn't need the money anymore if she can afford those shoes. That is not a treat that is decadence.

I would comment and ask if they are a prize for the fundraiser.

What does she need money for ?

Is she in the uk ? Isn't her sons care covered by the nhs ?

I had this begging culture , I have never given to anyone , it feels so wrong to me because people always seem to pull shit like this !

£400 shoes when asking for money so just ridiculous. I find Go fund mes for this kind of thing grabby anyway though and wouldn’t donate in the first place. Withdraw your offer and tell her why.

Yes do this!

I'd be concerned tbh , odd behaviour & way of thinking , have you actually spoken to her @WarmBrownEyes or is this her standard behaviour?

Are there concerns that she Is using the fundraising money to fund her extravagant lifestyle? I would report her for this because it’s fraud, ensure that you’ve screen shot the evidence. Make a discreet report to HMRC because if she’s fundraising to cover an income then she should pay tax. She’s stupid to put it on social media.

I would also be thinking ‘fuck that’. I don’t blame you.

All sorts of alarm bells ringing for me. I would not get involved in her fundraising at all and distance myself. Covering "loss of earnings" seems vague to me.

In answer to your question, yes a bit dense.

Oh blimey. We had this a few years ago - woman who was constantly showing off about her car, house, holidays, clothes etc launched a go fund me to pay for the accommodation bill she'd have to pay whilst her child was in hospital on the other side of the country.

She did raise a lot of money - so clearly my opinion was uncommon.

Showing off your new £400 shoes on social media is out of order full stop.

Capitalising on your child’s misfortune is just awful.

Had similar near us last year (ish)

Family fundraising for money to send wife to Mexico for treatment which isn't available on nhs (fair enough)

Did they downsize from big flash 4 bed detached ? No
Did they sell their jag or Range Rover? No
Did they sell their hot tub? No
Did they sell their flash home bar? No
Did they take their kid on flash holidays? Yes
Do they send their kid to football training in £70 football strip? Yes

I'll stop but you get the point. People who struggle to make ends meet were bunging them a few quid and they made absolutely no cut backs.

There's one thing I learned after years of working with sick children. Quite a lot of the 'high profile' go fund me's very often ended up in the family's back pocket and not where it was claimed to be going.
One to the tune of a quarter of a million. They bought the kid a few next clothes and some cuddly toys, but they went from being on UC to walking around in Armani, Kurt Geiger Louboutins, LV bags, fancy phones, tablets, and motorbikes. fillers and beauty treatments.
Nothing is done about it and it's awful, to see people giving their money because they believe they are helping a child and seeing the funds misappropriated this way. Police don't want to know, because it's a bad look to be seen doubting the poor parents of a sick child.
Once the media goes away it all seems to be forgotten about
There is no means to ensure the money you donate goes for the stated purpose. Once it's in that go fund me it is transferred to the person's personal bank account and it's theirs to do what they will with it.

So she's spending money that's been raised for her child. I'm afraid it would piss me off too. She'll be receiving benefits if she's not working that, as a tax payer, I'm already funding.

I made errors like this before OP

Contributed to a fund rause for a girl who needs breast reduction surgery, then I found odiouses odious.
Contributed for a woman who was a drug addict who'd lost her kids. She was clean at the time but within a few days she was thrown out of the accomodation and back on drugs.
Ex-colleague went to Ukraine to bring refuges across border to Poland with a couple of his mates. I asked about how it went, he said that he didn't go to Ukraine border.

Never again....

A single paid??? Or multiple pairs??? No chance they’re a second hand/TK Max bargain?

I can’t imagine a £400 pair of shoes. Fashion shoes? I’ve spent £300, but on a pair of walking boots that will carry me hundreds of miles.

I very rarely donate to Go Fund Me requests. The only one I have donated to was when a local mother's two children were killed in a house fire started by their father. The poor mother used the funds to campaign against child abuse.

She was awarded an MBE for her work and is an ambassador for Womens Aid and IDAS Champion.

Oh behave 🙄

If they are brand new shoes since all this happened and people are raising money for them to live etc, then yes, one cheeky fucker. I'd withdraw my offer, and when asked why I'd tell her.

Completely agree its wrong. The obsession with showing off on social media has taken over from common sense. If she really wanted a treat (and she is obviously going through a very difficult time) why didnt she just buy herself a nice pair of shoes (£400 is beyond excessive) but keep it private. Wear them out and show them off when you are not asking people to donate to your family. Im sure you wont be the only one looking at her social media thinking its wrong.

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Put your hard hat on @RampantIvy - Keyansier is the Class Contrarian, but he doesn't like it when PP point that out.

Despite loving to criticise OP's no matter how absurd the opposing stance, he can be a sensitive soul.

I apologise for getting Keyansier's sex wrong. One shouldn't ass/u/me.

I don't quite get fundraisers anyway. I have had very awful things happen to family members, it never occurred to me to ask for money! I do have generous friends who will make food, give lifts, but asking for money is really crass.