To expect no-outdoor-shoe households to provide slippers?

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Just that - slides, or foot covers of some kind. Of course, if you know in advance it's different, but when you turn up for the first time at someone's house to be told "please take off outdoor shoes" at the door (which is reasonable, we all get to decide what happens in our own homes), surely something should be provided rather than expect visitors to pad about in bare feet, or socks.

I'm bound to say that I've never actually been to the boot room, though Chivers assures me that there is one. It is the domain, apparently, of the boot boy, whose name is Ernie. I'm delighted to report that he is the great-grandson of the very first Ernie, who came to the household - from Bromley, apparently - in 1904.

YABU.

Would you really put your foot in a pair of slippers you KNOW has had a host of other random feet in? I know I wouldn't.

There's no problem with wearing socks in others house. Maybe take a pair in your bag to playdates/visits.

I would never expect to walk around in someone's house with my shoes on. I always insist on taking them off and I'd hope the same of my friends visiting my house.

Blimming hate this type of person. Would they expect the King to remove his shoes? No, thought not. Went to a funeral once with aged uncle who was most embarrassed as one sock had a hole. I refused to go in the house, thought it was crass and declassé to say the least, at their teenage son's funeral fgs.

Why would the King be at my house.

Would they expect the King to remove his shoes?

I'll invite him over once I'm back on his Christmas card list and see how it goes.

If he asked you to remove your shoes when you go to see him at Buckingham Palace, would you?

I would have thought there was nothing crasser than turning a young person's funeral, and his grieving parents, into an opportunity to sneer about social status. That's classy?

Perhaps you should remove your shoes to keep it more hygienic when your foot goes into your mouth.

Would they expect the King to remove his shoes? No, thought not

I totally would. For many people it is very much cultural and normal thing. Walking into someone's house is in some places faux pa, in others it can actually be downright disrespectful. Many of us carry that with us wherever we move to.

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I will never understand why people wear outside shoes in a home.

How self absorbed do you need to be to make a teenagers funeral about your socks. Unbelievable.

Some might find this interestingly crazy on here😁. I grew up in a place where kids changed ahoes even at nursery, school and college. We had "changing rooms" and you changed to your slippers and left your jacket there as well.

I don’t know why you think bare feet or socks are such an issue.

It’s not like you have been told you need to sit on the sofa or dining room chairs in just your knickers!

My husband and I spent £1000’s carpeting our house. We tell people to take their outdoor shoes off, you know the shoes that have mud, shit etc on the bottom. We don’t ask.

You want to wear someone else's manky slippers? Not for me thanks!!

Perhaps it doesn't occur to you to wash them between guests, but those of us who offer them have thought of it.

Interesting @ThreeblackCats how do you tell them?

I would offer- shall I take my shoes off? I think I’ve been asked once or twice when I forgot. But always asked politely. Never told.

Most of my friends are shoes on. It’s the majority in my friendship group here (Edinburgh)

I suppose it’s just we see shoes as shoes for feet not inside or outside particularly. People and upbringings are different. You don’t really need to understand it, just accept it. It’s not hard really! Not everyone is the same. I suppose we’re more relaxed about germs etc than some seem to be. We’re hard floors downstairs anyway and have a dog so can’t get too worked up about a bit of dirt.

Yes, one of my primary schools insisted on indoor footwear and outdoor footwear too! And in the UK too. We'd change in little cloakrooms when we went to change into / out of our coats. I'd forgotten until the PP said.

What’s wrong with socks

Slightly off point but I think if you are going to ask people to remove thier shoes, you should have a bench or chair by your front door in the hallway. My elderly grandmother definitely couldn't take off her shoes whilst standing in someone's doorway.

Slightly off point but I think if you are going to ask people to remove thier shoes, you should have a bench or chair by your front door in the hallway. My elderly grandmother definitely couldn't take off her shoes whilst standing in someone's doorway.
That assumes we've all got large hallways big enough to have furniture in.

I'd imagine most people wouldn't make an elderly relative wiggle on one leg in the hall and would be more than happy for them to use the sofa.

You should expect to take your shoes off in someone else's house. Bring socks or slippers with you if you are bothered. Even if you think your shoes are clean you will be bringing all sorts of bacteria in.

So Meghan was conforming to British culture in not wearing shoes inside her own home?

It was H's home not hers

If I'm going to someone else's house I wear socks or tights so I don't have to go bare foot. I think it's rude to presume I can walk all over their carpets in outdoor shoes and always ask what their preference is.