Friend ....splashing the cash aren't you?aibu?

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Just got back from a week abroad and had a great time.(first time abroad in 12 years )
Friend rang and asked if we had a good time-I said yes and we had got the bug and booked for Greece next august.
We were talking about plans and I said this weekend me and partner are going to Edinburgh and she kind of said "must be nice "

Then my partner tagged me in fb a post about concert tickets he had bought for us for next year.
Within a minute friend rang and said "you both are splaying the cash a bit aren't you -must be nice and tutted"
Then said "won the lottery "
I said no I wish and laughed it off

The holiday this year was bit monthly D/D £200 each and the same next years.
The concert tickets were probably put on his credit card.
The trip to Edinburgh hotel is paid for because I've been selling bits I don't want on vinted and made £300

My friend has just spent £5000 on a new car (from inheritance) so it's not that she's struggling with money or anything.

Me and partner have no children yet -we don't really drink or smoke and I don't have a car to pay insurance /petrol for as my job is within walking distance so we save a bit.

Aibu to talk about things I have a planned?
I just get excited
I was a carer for my mum for 10 years and had no life ..she passed two years ago and I just have this whole new life where I can go out and do stuff and it's really nice
I can actually smile and not have the weight of the world on my shoulders

Please don't let someone else's jealousy ruin your new found life. Enjoy it.

Enjoy yourself......if she can't be happy for you she's not really a friend so sod her!

Why do you feel the need to apologise for having a good time and explaining how you paid for it? As long as you are not hurting anyone it's no-one else's business. If this friend of yours continues to make such comments then politely change the subject.

Yanbu. Enjoy yourself. If she keeps being negative I'd comment on it and tell her to bore off.

It's nothing to do with her what you do with your money. Ignore her.

Being a carer is very hard emotionally and physically and financially.
Now you have the chance to have a good time and do what you haven't been able to do in the past.
You go for it. You enjoy yourself and have a good time with your husband.
Ignore you're so called friend she's probably jealous.
Do what makes you happy..

all the detail about being a carer and a hard life is irrelevant OP

Wouldn’t matter what your situation. Your money. Your choice

She called you to comment on your spending?!

That's not normal at all. Is she usually like that? I'd find that too intense. I'd be asking if she's ok as she seems a bit full on at the moment and you were wondering if she's coping ATM.

What a weird thing to say to a friend, especially if she was aware of your previous caring duties.

For twelve years you’ve gone without and now it’s your turn to have a life,
You don’t have to justify your spending or holiday plans. Say something like this if it ever comes up again.
“ Yeah, we’re looking forward to our holiday/concert/weekend away so much, can’t wait.
Are you enjoying your new car, I expect it’s lovely to drive”.

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