To be upset at being left out

[Raeofsunshine1]

I have 2 young children- youngest baby is 8 weeks old now.

Just found out that several members of my family have booked to go for a lovely afternoon tea in the lead up to Christmas in a famous hotel in London, that I have never been to. I would have absolutely loved this but I have not been invited- AIBU to be really upset? I can't stop thinking about it and its made me feel really sad that I have been excluded. I have not been out with friends or family for close to 2 years and have a really tough time during pregnancy- where I came close to actually dying as a result of complications. I just feel it would have been nice to have been thought of and just so lovely to have had some time to do something special and have a break :(

If you haven't been out with them for 2 years then that's your answer.

Presuming you've missed lots of things in that time and they're used to you saying no - they're not mind readers, how would you know you want to go to this and that your DH would have the baby.

Don't wallow, just message them "heard you guys are going to x, haven't been out with you for ages and would absolutely love to come if there's space (DH can have the baby)."

Depends why you haven't been out with them for two years. Family I don't see for any length of time don't get invited again. Could also be the young baby.

Talk to them.

Haven’t been out with friends or family in two years is your likely answer. How were they to know a fancy London hotel was the one thing to successfully tempt you back into the world?

If you’ve not seen anyone in two years but they’ve continued seeing each other, then they’ve probably moved on a bit. You’ll possibly need to call them to tell them you’re actively looking to socialise again.

Maybe they asked you and you haven't bothered replying like this thread

So it’s just several family members, not the whole family. Why do you think everyone should be invited to everything? If it was a whole family thing, leaving just you out, I’d understand your upset at being left out, but as it is I think you’re wrong.

We don't know anything about the context OP and you are not saying much.

It might be that your mum said to your sister
"I have just bought Sunshine a £1000 pram -is there anything that you would like?"
Sister: "how about we go out for afternoon tea together somewhere posh" ...and boom.

So what do you think of all the advice you’ve been given @Raeofsunshine1?

It’s another one of these threads where we never find out…

OP is a 'plopper'

OP is likely exhausted and low on mood with a tiny baby and other children and after a difficult pregnancy. The (lack of) empathy on this thread is astounding.

Maybe they wanted to do something that wasn't going to be all about you and your baby.

Is there any need to be so vile? What a sad life you must lead.

OP posted in AIBU not Relationships or Chat etc. That assumes she wants people to tell her straight what their views are. Nearly 100 people took the time to reply but OP can't even say it's too much or thanks and I'm off.