Dd is asking for the most expensive Lego set from Santa

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Because she's saying we won't have to pay for it. What would you do?

Tell her you send things to Santa to be delivered. That's what I was told and tell my kids the same. If you visit a grotto, that gift is from Santa.

Santa toys have always been wooden, paper, sweeties etc. Expensive gifts are from us. Put that in place now please.(speaking as a Mum whose SEN DS only realise I am Mrs Claus last Xmas - he was 19...)

I used to say that whilst the elves built the toys, we had to pay for the materials :)

Santa doesn't bring the big stuff, that's from family/friends. Santa just does stockings. There's always one or two smaller things they've asked for that go in the stockings, but anything big is from us.
And it seems a bit mean to stop the stockings even if she knows the truth. We had stockings until we left home, and now my children have them and we as parents also have them!
It's never anything huge, just stuff we need l/use anyway - smellies, mints, chocolate, pound shop specials!

I would tell her the truth, but tell her not to tell her little sister. My sister found out before me. But my mum said to her, if I found out off her, that santa isn't really, then my sister wouldn't get a present for Christmas.
It must have worked, because I didn't find out till I started secondary school and my friends told me. Cold hard truth.

Just say dream on, there's no way Santa is bringing you that - it's far too expensive.
Have a think of something more reasonable and you have a chance of him bringing it otherwise he'll just choose you something he knows you'll like

I’ve always told my kids that Father Christmas only brings them the small obscure things and they need to bare in mind he has so many children to cater for that it would be impossible and unfair to gift one, for instance, a pony and another a book, it has to be all equal.
Father Christmas cannot and will not buy excessive gifts because he is one man. Maybe she needs to ask for cash and save it with her birthday money towards the Lego set she wants?

We have made sure that they know the wish list isn't just for Santa, but for family as well. They are also aware that he can't get everything they ask for, that isn't fair on all the other children.

Tell her it’s quite an expensive gift to ask of Santa and that if she asks for that she probably won’t get anything else. If she seems happy with that then get her the lego set and scale back on all other gifts you might have been planning on getting her.

I shocked that a Lego set can cost £600!

Explain that Santa doesn't buy the big presents, only the small ones. Kids who get big presents from Santa have them bought by their parents and delivered by the elves. Obviously the elves can make some big presents but things like Nintendo or Lego they can't because of copyright issues...

Nearly 10; she deffo knows and is testing you!

You simply tell her Santa doesn’t bring expensive gifts like that or he would be unable to get gifts for everyone.

Millennium Falcon & an AT-AT both retail at £734.99!!! 😲😲

Glad she understood OP. I always told DD that Santa brought stocking gifts and he just delivered the rest of the presents. The parents had to pay him for the presents and that's why some kids get bigger presents than others. Always worked well.

I suppose she's too young for 'Santa only carries goods under £5 in case he is mugged'?
Sorry, my brain can't come up with anything better.
In our house, Santa just brings small stuff anyway, the 'main' present from mum and dad is the one we discuss regarding price. Maybe you could say even Santa has to budget?

We told my son (when a bit younger) that it was too expensive but he would have to ask for vouchers or money from Santa and all his relations for Xmas and birthdays till he had saved up enough for the Lego Death Star! It took him 1 Christmas and 2 birthdays I think, but it was probably more like £200, I can’t remember, nothing like £600.

Anyway, he was really too young to build it without help so he only ever partially built the thing, a cat knocked the built part off a table after a few years) and it’s still (hopefully all pieces intact) in the box.

But he was proud as punch the day he went in to the toy store with all his money and vouchers he had saved up. He’s still great at saving incidentally 😂

Maybe you need to have The Talk with her. No not thát Talk! I mean the other The Talk 😅

If you suspect that she's testing you, then perhaps get her in the car to go somewhere (not with your younger child) and ask her in a fun way whether she knows anything about father Christmas this year? That's what I did with my 11 year old as I was pretty certain that he no longer believes, and he surprised me by saying that he's 'known the secret about FC' for years! My 9 year old still believes though I'm pretty sure.

On a separate note, since when were the big gifts from Father Christmas? He only brings stockings in our house so perhaps he could do the same for your children this year and that solves the problem :-)

I was worried my eldest would tell our small one as he can be quite mean at times but he really liked being in on an 'adult secret' and has never said a word. We told him that all grown ups know but little children don't and it made him feel grown up. She probably knows already. Is it worth taking risk?

When my daughter was little, it used to be the stocking gifts that were 'from santa' (not anything else) and that worked really well. In fact, she didn't like the idea of a man coming into our house in the night, so we used to leave her stocking by the back door too.

This is why you don't do big gifts from Santa. Santa fills a stocking with small, fun gifts and all big wrapped presents under the tree are from mum & dad etc.

However, as you've dug yourself into this hole, the best way out of it is to tell her that you do have to pay for the Santa gifts, they aren't free.

My partner buys all his Lego second hand!

She’s nearly 10?! Blimey OP, no way she still believes in Santa - they just don’t admit it at that age incase they don’t get any presents!

My 9yo would get ‘put it on your birthday list’, and then she will forget about it 😁

Santa brings small presents that fit in a (medium sized) stocking. He doesn't bring anything too expensive because he has lots of children to buy for and he doesn't bring animals because they might get cold and scared on the sleigh.