Dd is asking for the most expensive Lego set from Santa

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Because she's saying we won't have to pay for it. What would you do?

@OverTheHillAndDownTotherSide
Really??
Dramatic much!! Do you continue 'the lie' for any dc you have??

How can a child of 10 believe there’s one man that travels the world and goes to every person’s house in one night? You’d have to have absolutely zero logical thinking skills. No way an averagely developing child would believe this

Yes!

Well then, tell her the truth, she’ll spoil it for her sister and you’ll have a second really good reason not to buy her the Lego set. Plus your youngest will know the truth and you’ll be free of the big-presents-from-Father-Christmas fiasco. Win win.

Tell her parents have to pay Santa for the toys he delivers, so if they are very expensive, it might not be possible, or they might have to have only one or two presents.

Growing up we understood that Santa doesn't bring everything you ask for. Simple.

We told ours that santa bills us for the Christmas presents.
Exactly, this also covers them accidentally finding/glimpsing something in the lead up to Christmas. When one DC saw a receipt from a specific company I explained there were certain things FC couldn't source from the North Pole so I would get it to him.
And yes, DC humour me now. Why stop the fun?

I feel your pain. My oldest put down 1 thing on his list and it's £700 lego! He knows we pay but still wants it!

Yes, this.

Santa has always brought all the presents and there has never been talk of us paying for them. Any outlandish requests were always met with a "No, you won't be getting that."

I think there can be a risk of making it over complicated, we don't go all out with any of the other stuff either (elves, Christmas eve boxes, video messages, cameras, reindeer dust, multiple visits to FC etc ) and certainly no twee poems to make them believe for another year.

Santa doesn’t bring gifts in our house. The only thing he’s responsible for is spreading happiness and Christmas spirit.

I like this method for breaking the news to older kids, I’ll be using it when my eldest gets sceptical!

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Santa gets a choice in this house, you write a long list and he picks. Also he doesn't have unlimited cash to make toys, so it has to be within X budget otherwise every child would ask for the biggest present I ntbe shops every year.

This is why main gifts were always from actual relatives. Santa just does small bits with one thing, £20 ish, from wish list. I guess they do eventually question why friend gets a bike from Santa and they get a board game and a selection pack. I really don’t get parents paying and Santa as glorified mail delivery driver. DH’s family donut that way.

I have 4 dds and we used to tell them that Santa only brings one present. Otherwise they would not have understood why Santa only gave them one present when other children got lots more.

Wow, a PP mentioning video messages, reindeer dust, Christmas Eve boxes, elves etc makes me REALLY glad that I have teenagers. Some of these might have been a thing when they were little, but I think it's all getting ever more OTT. I will also never wear a Christmas jumper, and resent being told to wear one to work. I ignore and wear something vaguely spangly instead. Yes, bah humbug. I love Christmas but there seem to be way too many made-up modern 'traditions' nowadays.

People with younger children are not forced to do any of them you know.

We had very few traditions, but my dad used to do a Letter from Santa to be read by everyone. It backfired spectacularly after the family dog died. Santa's letter that year said that the dog had been to visit Santa and that Mrs Santa liked him so much she said he could stay forever. Everyone who read it immediately burst into tears.

My dc still enjoy the stocking gifts from "Santa" - they're 13 and 19

People with younger children are not forced to do any of them you know.

Of course they are not, but the bigger and more elaborate someone makes Father Christmas, the more complicated it becomes.

So you'd magic up hundreds of pounds from no where and then something equivalent for younger DD regardless of how you had to get the money?

The Santa thing is a lie. Why are you perpetuating it? Tell her it's a STORY ... children understand the world of stories, and are perfectly able to suspend their disbelief in order to participate win the Santa myth, while at the same time understanding it for what it is. Age taken into consideration, of course. e never told our children about Santa. They picked it up as a story from tv etc. They were always (and still are some 40years later) happy to"play along" but they always knew the truth.Why would you lie to your children?

Well since parents send money and old toys to Santa to buy the big gifts or regift used stuff he delivers of course you have to pay for it or have it second hand.

Some of the answers here are dreadful!!

I remember asking for a new bed with a canopy and tv from Santa! My mum and dad laughed, said you can ask but I don’t think Santa will bring something that expensive. So put some other options on your list. I didn’t get the bed and tv - I dot. Remember being disappointed.

lists are just options for Santa - surely she doesn’t usually get every single thing she asks for?

My eldest is just turned 7. His mind is constantly buzzing with all sorts of questions - from DNA, embryos, spleens to earthquakes and tsunamis. When we don’t know answers we look it up. But I see no conceivable way in which our 7 yo will believe a magic man brings presents through his chimneys which don’t exist. But more importantly I just can’t see him demanding such expensive presents when he’s so aware of the cost of living, the heating bills and all else.

what I can’t grasp is now a (nearly) TEN year old still really genuinely believes in magic man and is also apparently so blissfully unaware of expenses. How?

Come on do you really believe that your child thinks Santa is real? My oldest is 9 and has known for at least 2 years. Youngest 6 questions it.

Tell her Santa isn't real and £600 on lego is an obscene amount of money.

Time she gets into reality I think