Dd is asking for the most expensive Lego set from Santa

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Because she's saying we won't have to pay for it. What would you do?

I'd buy a few kgs of Lego second hand off eBay or similar and buy a nice storage box for it then gift that instead

And Santa here brings a stocking of plastic crap/snacks to tide them over until main present opening time. I learned from my parents not to give Santa credit for the big ticket items

What lego costs that much anyway? Genuinely curious

Is your Google broken?

Either say it's for age 18+ so Santa can't bring it for Health and Safety reasons or say that she's now at the age where she needs to know the truth...parents have to contribute 75% of all fees for the toys and you simply can't afford to contribute that much.

I told my older children (now 14 and 16) we had to send money to Santa when they started questioning why some children didn’t get presents (toy appeal on the radio)

My 5 year old has asked for a Minecraft plush toy that doesn’t exist - “but Father Christmas can make anything!” 😩😩😩

?? Why is it up to you to defend Santa's deliveries? Santa has a LOT of presents to deliver, he can't give everyone the biggest and best and most, he gives what he can fit on the sleigh. And if a kid doesn't get the one they were looking for, well, maybe Santa thought they didn't deserve it. Or maybe he thought the kid was going to get it from someone else. I think OP should buy what he/she thinks is appropriate and if there is a problem, tell the kid to write a letter of complaint to the North Pole.

Tell her santa has none left, he's wrapped them all up for rich children.

Cos I'm not a miserable grinch with a stick up my arse.

Yes, really. Spent thousands of £s on therapy over the years.(There were other dynamics at play but this really really drove a wedge. I remember my mother hissing that I better not dare spoil it for my (golden child) sister and that was that. I didn’t like lying and I didn’t trust her/them anymore for lying to me.)

We have just the one child and no. Presents arrive but we’ve never said where they came from. Left it up to her to decide what she believes (as with all religions). Weirdly DH felt he had been lied to when he found out as a child and he probably felt stronger than me that we shouldn’t do it with DD.

I don’t think she ever really believed in it despite peer pressure etc. She worked out age 7 that Santa would have to travel faster than the speed of light to do it and that determined it definitely wasn’t real from then.

She’s never “spoiled the magic” (whatever the fuck that means) for others either.

We were lucky in choosing to do the Santa only brings stocking presents.
I'd take no prisoners I reckon. Tell her that it's a bit greedy to ask for something so expensive, so that request will not be passed. Choose again my darling child.
How much do you usually spend?

This is what we always did. So that DD knew we had limits.

7 year olds still have imaginations.

My 8 year old is smart and into all sorts of science stuff. Yet he still believes in santa.

Given that grown adults believe in religion, despite all the science stuff what's the difference?

This isnt about santa.

Its about your disfunctional family and your fixated it on santa.

You massively project your issues on others.

As an older child, I loved santa even when I found out and still got a stocking from santa to the day I moved out for the final time. I was 27.

Once I moved out, santa still delivered every year to our house before DS was born.

Cos santa rocks and I still believe in his magic.

I'm 44.

I’ve always told my children that Santa brings the presents but the parent(s) has/have to pay for them. They’ve never questioned this and have never asked for anything expensive.

Oh, and there’s no need to spoil the fun about Santa. Children grow up quickly and realisation comes of its own accord. I always think the people who spoil it for others are mean-souled little people. If you have younger DC then ask her to keep the magic going and promise an extra treat. Although hopefully she’ll do it out of kindness anyway.

Yes. Early childhood trauma is horrendous and this is one of my earliest memories. I feel like an outcast every December because I can’t enjoy the things others seem to demand I do (because they are like you and have no respect for difference).

Your approach is very alien to me and surely pretty far off the other end of the scale?!

'Nasty and manipulative tendencies' hmm pot, kettle, black...

Maybe. But the difference is I'm not telling everyone to do it my way either.

What I'm doing is I'm pointing out that santa isn't your issue, so it's not about 'lying about santa' at all.

That's about dysfunctionality.

There isn't a problem with encouraging imagination in kids through the concept of santa. There is a problem with abusive relationships though which I do get.

Totally different.

Santa isn't to blame for your issues. Your parents are. Separate the two and let others enjoy the innocence you didn't have.

Because she's saying we won't have to pay for it

Well presumably that's because you have led her to believe that Santa brings all her presents.

It's time to tell the truth isn't it?

Perhaps you could tell her that you can give her some Christmas money and then she can use some other Christmas money or save up pocket money to get it herself afterwards. Or organise to get it in advance as a joint present with another person but put a label on it saying who it is from. But still explain to her that Santa is a story for small children that society thinks is a nice thing to do but that as she's so grown up now it's time for her to know that presents come from parents, family and friends and it costs money and that everyone has a budget.

I had bought some Santa presents which I didn’t realise my son had seen one year. After opening his stocking he said “but I saw these. Did you buy them?” Since then, I’ve always told him I buy the presents that Santa can’t get in Lapland and pay for them. As others have said, say you pay for them, and there’s a budget. I definitely wouldn’t buy her the expensive set.

Take a look on aliexpress. They sell copys of lego models . Check reviews and youtube videos before you buy incase the set isnt any good

For example lego bowser is around £230

The copy is £71+ tax

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As someone, who felt stupid and betrayed when the golden child told me Santa didn’t exist, I agree with this comment. Children in secure attachment relationships with their families seem to not react like this.

I think an almost 10 year old know there is no Santa. My nephew knew from he was 8 as did I. He has a younger sibling who still believes and goes along with it all. Your daughter knows there is no Santa, she's chancing her arm!