Dd is asking for the most expensive Lego set from Santa

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Because she's saying we won't have to pay for it. What would you do?

What were you expecting? An announcement that Santa doesn't need to come any more?
We still do Santa and the 'kids' are at Uni

I would buy it for her.

Your parents wanted to keep the magic going for your little sister and you resented this so much that it still affects you as an adult? Goodness.

I might get Santa to write a letter to my eldest saying how happy and proud he is to see her grow over the years and that this will be the last present from him as his list keeps growing. However he hopes to pass the baton to her parents (us)

Always told mine that parents had to pay Santa, and then Santa delivered the presents.

My older two thought it was great craic to be in on the secret when each in turn realised, and hammed it up all the more for younger one/s.

Always told mine that parents had to pay Santa, and then Santa delivered the presents.

We always did this too, and my parents did this with us. But I agree with PP she's found out and testing you

Pre scho teacher told.kids that mummy/daddy sent money to santa to explain the difference in presents

Is that how FC has worked in your house? Is she of an age where you can explain that FC can't bring expensive gifts? Or that you have to send money to FC to cover the cost?

In our house FC always just brought one present - not the most expensive, not the biggest, etc. Was just one special gift, from her list. unwrapped and set up ready to use.

Tell DD that children who are mean to their little sister don't get any presents at all. She's too old for Santa, and you need to be addressing her nasty and manipulative tendencies, not rewarding them with lavish presents.

this is why the stockings come from Santa and the big presents from mama nd dad, after all we work all year to pay for them so I wanted some credit. Stops this asking for stuff thats unaffordable as well

I also said they should put a few things in their list and Santa would choose from it rather than then expecting to get everything that was on the list.

This is exactly why my kids' stockings had small (boring) things!

My brother told his kids that Father Christmas sent a bill to parents at the beginning of January. Seemed to work and calm the excesses

Tell her you send the money to Santa, that’s what I used to tell my kids. It’s awful when kids think they can have whatever they want from Santa as it is all free.

Sounds like the conversation went well. Phew!

In this house, Father Christmas only ever brought stockings with (e.g.) socks, toothbrush, silly pens, sweets, playing cards, small toys and bits of tat. In our village, people kept on telling me, "you HAVE to keep it going until they're 11!" and it does seem to be the local unwritten rule!!! Sod that. My DD asked me about it when she was around 7, so I told her. I explained that she could now help to be FC to her little sister, and to not tell any of her friends yet, in case they weren't ready to know. She kept the secret, but my friends were horrified that I'd told her the truth!😫My younger daughter played along until she was about 9 but later told us she'd figured it out sooner.

To be fair 20y dd has never officially said she doesn't believe and Father Christmas still brings her a special present on the big day, and the Christmas Fairy still brings her a Christmas Eve PJs and treat too. I did put my foot down with leaving carrots out in recent years, though still appreciate FC being left a Baileys and mince pie!

We all like to pretend - its just a bit of fun! I don't seriously think she still believes, she hasn't for years. But the whole FC bit is now just part of our Christmas traditions.

She doesn’t sound very nice - if she’s set on Santa Being real tell her she’s not be good.

I think you’re crazy for wanting an 11 year to still be believing in Santa too. Over about 7 I’d assume they were hard of thinking

Is the Millennium Falcon by any chance? When my son was younger we'd go into the shop to look at the display one. It was behind glass.
I think at that age she may be testing you. Tell her Father Christmas has a budget.

Show her the wonderful Canadian 90s cartoon “The Boy Who Dreamed Christmas” and she’ll be content with a few small special things from Santa.

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Be very careful. I was your daughter. At 6 I was made to continue what I saw as a lie fort younger sister. I HATED it. Still hate anything to do with Xmas and it seriously damaged my relationship with my parents.

That seems an unusual reaction at being asked to play along for a younger sibling tbh, unless there were other family dynamics and issues at play.

My sister is 9 years younger than me and 7 years younger than my brother. We loved being in on the secret and making Christmas magic for her. It made us feel grown up and also let us keep pretending for a lot longer than we would naturally have done so. We were all very close though, and remain so now as adults and there was nothing disturbing, forced or unsettling with it from our parents.

Meh Santa only gives gifts to kids who are good.

Kids who ask for £600 lego sets are kids who are being naughty and trying to push their luck with Santa.

Santa aint fucking stupid and doesn't like greedy chancer kids who don't appreciate he has millions of kids to get gifts for.

Can someone change their username to something like TheRealSanta and leave helpful messages on here to the effect that if children asked for £600 presents, some children would have to go without?

OTOH I had to keep the secret my younger sisters and cousins for years until they stopped believing when I was about 23. And I love Christmas and felt really grown up as an older child being part of that magic.

I would get Santa to write a letter saying that children who are greedy and mean to their younger siblings don't get £600 spent on them and must be grateful for what they do get.

My ten year old most definitely believes!

😂love that idea