To think mil is rude for saying I’m skinny

[Ihavemyeye]

I’m 8 stone and 5’4 which is a healthy weight

So you have never heard, or said the words "skinny bitch" in a derogatory way? Really?!

I have, and its usually said by someone who doesnt like or is jealous of said "skinny bitch" who actually isnt skinny at all but slimmer than the person who said it.

It's not just that comment though. It's countless comment about my body, physical weight, dress size, sex life(yes really?!) all because I'm smaller now. No one would ever have asked me those things when I was heavier. It's like they think there's a free pass now because only fat people can get offended about questions regarding their bodies?!

And I have heard skinny bitch in a negative way many times.

You’ve just proved my point…

You are an absolute idiot.

You have no idea about this topic.

And as a person upthread pointed out, skinny means underweight, unattractive, the exact opposite of attractive.

Sadly I think in these times of more people being overweight/obese than healthy, our view of "skinny" has been somewhat skewed. A healthy size ten is not skinny. Hell, a healthy size 6 is not skinny.....my 18 year old daughter is 5'1" is a size 6 (or age 13 clothes which she is happy with as they are cheaper) and not at all skinny, but yes she is slim.

At the end of the day, size 4/6 is attractive a desirable in society and for most people. Size 18/20 is considered unattractive. There is your difference. I maintain playing the smallest violin for all those skinnies out there…

How? Explain to me please exactly how I have proved your point?

Especially as, the vast majority of the times I have heard it said, was by bigger women to me when I was also very overweight, under the assumption I would also hate said "skinny bitch" based purely on the fact that I was fat.

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Read the room mate.

I suggest you take your own body image issues elsewhere, preferably to a professional.

I suggest you take your own body image issues elsewhere, preferably to a professional.

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Slim people don't like to be called skinny or fat.

I'm a fat person and I hate being called fat but I'd give my eye teeth to be called skinny.

The reason people call you skinny is because you look good.
The reason people don't call me fat is because I look bad.
So they're not meaning to be rude, they're complimenting you.

I have, and its usually said by someone who doesnt like or is jealous of said "skinny bitch" who actually isnt skinny at all but slimmer than the person who said it.

you said the term skinny is used by someone who is jealous of ‘skinny person’. To be jealous they must have something desirable… ie skinniness

Yanbu, skinny is rude (i say this as a size 14).

Call her fat, see how she likes it.

Exactly this

What a bizarre view.

You can stick your tiny violin where the sun don't shine. I spent my whole adult life being obese and I was just as beautiful then as I am now. And not wanting people to comment on my body is completely valid.

I also have anorexia, if you want my skinny you need to take the anorexia as well.....its a BOGOF.

"Can you not call me skinny please, it makes me uncomfortable."

Or if you have kids I would go with what would be an honest statement from me:

"Can you not comment on my weight please, we don't want the kids to pick up on commenting on other people's weight or give them any reason to self conscious about their own."

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I would love to say “You’re just morbidly obese”… but I don’t when I keep hearing about my supposed “Anorexia” from the MIL I haven’t seen or spoken to for over six years. (Other very valid reasons.) I have lost about 65kgs sticking to a strict keto diet and she’s not impressed that I have managed this.

Because you have proved that her obesity is not because she cant but because she cant be arsed.

She has probably spent years convincing herself that her weight is down to her genes, her "thyroid problems" (imagined), lack of time.....when it reality its down to the biscuititis. Then you went and made an effort and lost weight. "Call me out without telling me you are calling me out"

I miss being called skinny 😭

I don't think people stop to think. Comments on weight can be so upsetting. My sister is naturally very slim and she is trying to gain weight via the gym. Someone calling her skinny would devastate her.

Could she mean it in a concerned way? My Dad says that to me meaning he's worried I'm not eating enough. Also when I've put on weight he tells me I'm fat. Can't win. Some people have no tact (or are completely unaware they're being rude). I'd just ignore if you can or else maybe say I'm actually in a healthy weight range thank you and leave it at that.

Open your mind a bit! Some people struggle to put on. My husband was very ill and had emergency operations. The hospital said he could go home when he gained 3 stones. He still hasn’t a decade later! They gave up and sent him home after 1.5 stones. And it’s not as wonderful as us portly folk imagine being underweight. He gets cold easily and will probably struggle more when older.