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To think MN has a race problem and it’s getting worse

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MovingOutofZone2 · 03/12/2022 04:16

Posters say incredibly offensive, often outright racist things and MN lets them stand as it’s a ‘difference of opinion’ and that’s fine. Other posters complain about this and MN deletes said complaints as they are ‘personal attacks’ and that isn’t fine.

Then we have mods wandering in and going ‘let’s have peace and love’, as though ‘both sides’ need to calm down. No, we need to stop placating racists.

I’m not going to give examples as this will get taken down as a TAAT, but I cannot be the only person to be fed up with all this. MN needs to do something about the racism, race baiting and general cultural ignorance. Unless the site is ONLY meant to cater to white people and, even then, I firmly believe that most posters of any race don’t want to see all that ugliness.

It’s getting to the stage where, as a Black person, I’m steeling myself before I log on. And knowing that half the time I report a comment, I won’t even get a token acknowledgement. This isn’t right. It wasn’t always like this.

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monsteramunch · 06/12/2022 00:38

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:33

So, it’s fine for celebrities, fine for Royals

Celebrities and Royals, fine.

Random people make me uncomfortable, shocking, isn't it?

You cut off that posters list of people you're fine with changing their name so it didn't include "and fine for people who want to ‘fit in’ and become more British."

Is there a reason you confirmed re celebrities and royals but didn't address or include the third 'category' mentioned?

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:38

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:31

As you’d know if you knew anything about U.K. charities.

I'm not an expert in the charity sector, no.

But any organisation can be subject to an investigation after accounts have been filed. So the OP arguing that 'it must be fine because an organisation has filed accounts' is not correct. Think of Enron (again, I'm talking in general and not in relation to this charity in particular or the veracity of the Reddit claims)

I’m just going to repeat the rest of that comment, as you ignored it. Your capacity for selective reading is rather remarkable.

Charity accounts are scrutinised BY THE CHARITY COMMISSION before they are published BY THE CHARITY COMMISSION. Every year. As you’d know if you knew anything about U.K. charities.

So, the Charity Commission thinks Sistah Space’s accounts are fine. And there is no indication that they aren’t. No breath of scandal apart from one lunatic Reddit thread. If you don’t think their accounts are fine, please tell us why and back it up with some evidence. As all the information is publicly available, this should be fairly straightforward.

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:39

When it's due to their name, which has no effect on you, it is pretty strange.

Of course it may have an effect on me, as the name change could be so that I perceive the person differently.

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:41

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:33

So, it’s fine for celebrities, fine for Royals

Celebrities and Royals, fine.

Random people make me uncomfortable, shocking, isn't it?

Random people who change their names make you uncomfortable unless they want to ‘fit in’ and be more British. Yes, that is genuinely shocking.

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:42

monsteramunch · 06/12/2022 00:34

A charity worker is not a celebrity and would not be expected to behave like one

You said:

Generally speaking, it makes the person in question seem less trustworthy in my opinion. So, yes, it tends to make me uncomfortable.

You said 'generally speaking', not 'when it comes to charity workers'.

I respect other people's right to different opinions to mine, obviously.

I respect people with opinions different to my own much more if they at least stand by their words even when they may be viewed as unpalatable by others.

You moved the goalposts to 'charity workers' when you previously said 'generally speaking' and were challenged on that.

She’s not going to respond to this. She’ll pick a random sentence and respond to that, but ignore the rest of it. #skills

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:42

Is there a reason you confirmed re celebrities and royals but didn't address or include the third 'category' mentioned?

For Celebrities and Royals, their image is an integral part of their job.

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:43

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:36

Have you?

No, I haven't. That's why I couldn't possibly make any claims, like the OP

What claims?

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:43

Random people who change their names make you uncomfortable unless they want to ‘fit in’ and be more British

Why do you keep twisting my words? You are coming across as quite aggressive here

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:44

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:43

Random people who change their names make you uncomfortable unless they want to ‘fit in’ and be more British

Why do you keep twisting my words? You are coming across as quite aggressive here

How do you think you’re coming across?

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:44

What claims?

It's late. Read the full thread, I'll leave you to it

monsteramunch · 06/12/2022 00:47

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:36

Have you?

No, I haven't. That's why I couldn't possibly make any claims, like the OP

But you say you doubt the veracity of her claim that the conversation took place as she described it.

What further 'evidence' in addition to witnesses and an investigation, followed by a decisive response from the palace, do you need that her account is true? What evidence would be enough?

And when the claim is regarding one conversation and there were witnesses, why do you think the investigation should have taken longer than it did, in order for you to believe it happened? As you suggested it can't have been a 'thorough' investigation due to the response being so swift.

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/12/2022 00:48

@unsureatthispoint, if witness statements and an immediate and detailed investigation by the RF isn't enough for you to believe a black woman experienced racism at the hands of a white woman, what would it take?Hmm

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:48

unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 00:44

What claims?

It's late. Read the full thread, I'll leave you to it

Thought as much. Assuming no further information on the length of all these other investigations you’ve queried will be forthcoming, either?

You say a lot of things and make a lot of claims and then are unable to back them up with anything at all. Lots of moving goalposts, ignored questions and waffle. But, somehow Ngozi is the one that isn’t trustworthy. Funny, that.

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 00:53

@unsureatthispoint is a new account that appears to only post on threads about racism.

PandoraRocks · 06/12/2022 00:55

@MovingOutofZone2 'absurd claims' ? Nice attempt at deflection there and completely ignoring the point raised in my post. 10 March 2021 on Twitter Sistah Space, Ngozi accused Charles and Camilla of domestic violence but she has the gall to accept the invitation from the Palace.
Anyway, no point in wasting time debating with someone who substitutes insults in place of rational discussion.

monsteramunch · 06/12/2022 00:59

PandoraRocks · 06/12/2022 00:55

@MovingOutofZone2 'absurd claims' ? Nice attempt at deflection there and completely ignoring the point raised in my post. 10 March 2021 on Twitter Sistah Space, Ngozi accused Charles and Camilla of domestic violence but she has the gall to accept the invitation from the Palace.
Anyway, no point in wasting time debating with someone who substitutes insults in place of rational discussion.

Do you have a link to the tweet? I would be (genuinely) interested to see it.

MovingOutofZone2 · 06/12/2022 01:01

PandoraRocks · 06/12/2022 00:55

@MovingOutofZone2 'absurd claims' ? Nice attempt at deflection there and completely ignoring the point raised in my post. 10 March 2021 on Twitter Sistah Space, Ngozi accused Charles and Camilla of domestic violence but she has the gall to accept the invitation from the Palace.
Anyway, no point in wasting time debating with someone who substitutes insults in place of rational discussion.

Using the exact same phrasing as you is ‘deflection’ and ‘substituting insults in place of rational discussion’?

Indeed, please don’t waste your time debating with me. Those tinfoil hats won’t make themselves.

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unsureatthispoint · 06/12/2022 01:01

is a new account that appears to only post on threads about racism.

I'm not new. I name change, like most posters. And I contribute to most topics, not 'only on threads about racism' as you wrongly claim

HotChoxs · 06/12/2022 01:38

@PandoraRocks

10 March 2021 on Twitter Sistah Space, Ngozi accused Charles and Camilla of domestic violence

I found the tweet and seriously wtf. That's totally blindsided me.

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/12/2022 01:41

PandoraRocks · 06/12/2022 00:55

@MovingOutofZone2 'absurd claims' ? Nice attempt at deflection there and completely ignoring the point raised in my post. 10 March 2021 on Twitter Sistah Space, Ngozi accused Charles and Camilla of domestic violence but she has the gall to accept the invitation from the Palace.
Anyway, no point in wasting time debating with someone who substitutes insults in place of rational discussion.

Fuck!!! Do you think that's why Lady SH was racist to her?ShockShockShock

Hillcrest2022 · 06/12/2022 01:46

"she has the gall to accept the invitation from the Palace."

She was invited so she attended. It's not appropriate that you call her having the "gall'. What a horrible statement. She was entitled to be there and she was equally entitled to speak of her experience which, I'm sure we all must agree was utterly disgusting.

Catmatdat · 06/12/2022 02:06

LoisLane66 · 03/12/2022 06:02

As a white English woman I am sick to the back teeth of the constant divide between black and white individuals. There is nothing, NOTHING in the world that comes close to the deep rifts between those two races. We don't hear much of Polish v white, Asian v white, Danish or Austrian v white or even Mexican or Brazilian v white.
If we want equality, we must see the person not the colour, however, it's like a disease with no cure. There appears to be no answer and it's been a tit for tat war. We have a right to expect people living in Britain to keep to our rules and laws but able to keep their own customs within certain boundaries as we expect to comply with the laws of any country we Brits visit.
Either we try harder to get along, there are good and bad in all communities, or this race hate will taint many more generations to come, probably for as long as the planet exists. 🕊️

What divide?

HotChoxs · 06/12/2022 02:22

That tweet is indefensible.

Here is someone that's been on the receiving end of about the highest profile racism you can get and eloquently expressed her view about it giving a voice to many. I had such high hopes for how this would play out.

People are going to read that tweet and undermine the message that could have been sent here.

I'm absolutely livid.

RishisProudMum · 06/12/2022 02:27

HotChoxs · 06/12/2022 02:22

That tweet is indefensible.

Here is someone that's been on the receiving end of about the highest profile racism you can get and eloquently expressed her view about it giving a voice to many. I had such high hopes for how this would play out.

People are going to read that tweet and undermine the message that could have been sent here.

I'm absolutely livid.

Emotional abuse, controlling behaviour and racism are all DV. Meghan has reported that she was suicidal due to their treatment of her. All of that, under U.K. legislation, would qualify her for DV support. As Ngozi, and anyone else in the VAWG space is fully aware.

Here is someone that's been on the receiving end of about the highest profile racism you can get and eloquently expressed her view about it giving a voice to many. I had such high hopes for how this would play out.

Someone’s certainly changed their tune. You haven’t said a single word in support of Ngozi until this very moment, but now you’re had ‘high hopes’ and are ‘absolutely livid’. Please.

BastardtheCat · 06/12/2022 05:09

Mummyoflittledragon · 03/12/2022 05:49

I’m so sorry you’re being affected by vile comments. I don’t challenge people because I don’t have the strength to do so due to being very unwell. But I see it.

I tend to see you on many of the threads I follow @Mummyoflittledragon .

I hope you're ok Flowers

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