So I kind of know I'm NBU however am I overreacting?
Me and my DP have been together for just over a year, within the first few weeks of meeting we both deleted any mobile dating sites. We both felt like we didn't need them.
However, yesterday I was replying to a message for them (they asked me to do this). After doing this I closed the app, and saw that they had redownloaded tinder. I asked why they had it and they got embarrassed and laughed. I stormed off and left them to their own devices.
We managed to sit down and every question was met with defensive deflection.
I asked why they were on it, they were looking for a particular person, fine. I won't pretend to understand why they thought that was a good idea but fine.
I asked if they had swiped right on anyone, they said yes but only cause they were already on it and 'might as well'. If they had matched with anyone, not sure. Spoke to anyone? No!
My question is AIBU for being more upset about it today now that I've had time to process? Last night I said we had to work on things and get better at communicating, all but forgiving them. Today I've wrote a long message about how replaceable and disrespected I feel and how I'm not sure when or if I'll be able to trust them again. Should I have just left it or was I right to bring this up now I've had time to think?