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Matt Hancock - the OW

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PopGoesTheProsecco · 01/12/2022 22:26

Anyone else a bit 🤮 about Matt Hancock reuniting with the mistress, after I’m a a Celeb when his wife is back at home looking after his kids that he left when he cheated on her?

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5128gap · 02/12/2022 10:11

Not really. The world and its mother knows MH is in a new relationship and its fairly obvious his new partner would be the one to meet and greet him. His poor family can hardly have missed their previous PDAs, and no doubt chose not to watch.
I found their initial conversation more interesting, where GC told him how hard it had been for her (as well it might have been given the animosity she faced, without the opportunity he had to 'win people over') he responded that things would be better now, to which she said something about 'We don't know what the future holds'.
Interesting that MH was prepared to let her face the wolves as part of his PR excercise and interesting that she seems less sure of its success than he.
He's a selfish man prepared to let women do the heavy lifting to support him and to bare the brunt of the censor of his actions. I feel sorry for his wife but at least she is free of him. GC has all of this to come.

x2boys · 02/12/2022 10:14

5128gap · 02/12/2022 10:11

Not really. The world and its mother knows MH is in a new relationship and its fairly obvious his new partner would be the one to meet and greet him. His poor family can hardly have missed their previous PDAs, and no doubt chose not to watch.
I found their initial conversation more interesting, where GC told him how hard it had been for her (as well it might have been given the animosity she faced, without the opportunity he had to 'win people over') he responded that things would be better now, to which she said something about 'We don't know what the future holds'.
Interesting that MH was prepared to let her face the wolves as part of his PR excercise and interesting that she seems less sure of its success than he.
He's a selfish man prepared to let women do the heavy lifting to support him and to bare the brunt of the censor of his actions. I feel sorry for his wife but at least she is free of him. GC has all of this to come.

Where you part of the conversation🤔

ImAvingOops · 02/12/2022 10:15

I wonder if she regrets leaving her husband - being publicly caught out must have been excruciating and maybe she felt backed into a corner (or her husband made the decision for her).
Id be miserable if I was stuck with MH - if she leaves him now than it makes all the damage caused, completely pointless

5128gap · 02/12/2022 10:19

x2boys · 02/12/2022 10:14

Where you part of the conversation🤔

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Yes. I was the third eucalyptus tree on the left just as they crossed the bridge.
(They also showed them having the conversation with subtitles on the coming out show last night for those of you who arent show insiders like myself.)

girlmom21 · 02/12/2022 10:21

Yes. I was the third eucalyptus tree on the left
😂😂😂

Cancelledtwiceover · 02/12/2022 10:35

What I mean is it’s, IMO far better to accept your fate as someone who doesn’t wanna be in a marriage, than to do a pathetic apology about ‘mistakes’ and spend the rest of your career pretending you have a happy marriage.

That's more likely to be down to the integrity of each of their respective partners, than mh and his mistress.
If they are not prepared to accept cheats back into their life, then there won't be any smiles for the camera and we have the best marriage ever photo opportunities.

lemmein · 02/12/2022 10:50

Id be miserable if I was stuck with MH

@ImAvingOops 😂

MarshaMelrose · 02/12/2022 10:54

Interesting how some pps here are so anxious to downplay the implosion of a family caused by infidelity. One might almost conclude that it's somehow convenient for them to do so.

Obviously I don't agree with cheating on a spouse but life moves on. There are threads on MN about parents (of both sex) holding grudges against their ex for 20, 30 years. Forcing children to make choices at their weddings. No one wants or likes being cheated on but it happens. It's been known for 18mths that he's been living with his new girlfriend. Why wouldn't she be there to meet him?

ImAvingOops · 02/12/2022 11:13

I think other contestants had family members meet them instead of spouses, presumably to avoid the publicity for their partner. It wasn't necessary to have GC meet MH and was a deliberate choice to flaunt their relationship and to front it out. Their pov is presumably that it's a legitimate relationship and they have a right to be public about it, which is their prerogative but imo tactless and selfish.

oldwhyno · 02/12/2022 11:18

She featured quite a lot in last night's behind the scenes "coming out" show. So don't go and watch that.....

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 02/12/2022 11:18

Sadly it’s not uncommon. Charles and camilla cheated on diana. Camilla is now the queen and publicly accepted.

Diana was hardly a saint - her extramarital affairs wandered close to double figures! And with married men too! I think people forgot this. “There were 3 of us in this marriage” - yeah Diana, and the rest!

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 02/12/2022 11:18

x2boys · 02/12/2022 07:50

Well.exactly all these.posters faux horrified on behalf of wife and kids nobody.knows what the state of the marriage was before the affair or how his ex feels about.It now it's nobody elses business but theirs.

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Exactly.

His wife might have been relieved he left. That can and does happen!

ImAvingOops · 02/12/2022 11:20

I think it's fair to say that most people aren't relieved to discover their spouse is having an affair and buggering off. Especially when it's so public

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 02/12/2022 11:20

WildOats5678 · 02/12/2022 08:03

Why are people so obsessed about a strangers love life 🧐 people get too obsessed about things that do not concern them.

And speaking like they know what actually went on. It’s weird

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 02/12/2022 11:23

@lemmein that video 🤣🤣🤣 “I. Have. A willy” 😂

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 02/12/2022 11:26

ImAvingOops · 02/12/2022 11:13

I think other contestants had family members meet them instead of spouses, presumably to avoid the publicity for their partner. It wasn't necessary to have GC meet MH and was a deliberate choice to flaunt their relationship and to front it out. Their pov is presumably that it's a legitimate relationship and they have a right to be public about it, which is their prerogative but imo tactless and selfish.

  • Mike Tindall
  • Jill Scott
  • Seann Walsh
  • Babatunde
  • Chris Moyles
All had their partner meet them.
user374698 · 02/12/2022 11:38

Do you know them OP as you seem to know what his family are doing, obviously if they are friends of yours it must be hard for you

Mybumlooksbig · 02/12/2022 11:46

Can't stand the bloke but how many people have affairs? At least they are "owning it" as my teen would say.....

ChilomenaPunk · 02/12/2022 12:05

AutumnColours9 · 02/12/2022 01:42

I remember reading that before the story broke, he woke his small children up in the night to announce he was leaving. Very selfish to Swan off putting yourself before the kids. All relationships become somewhat moribund and cannot compete with affair lust. Poor kids.

Such a twat. Mind you, with the way he made other announcements affecting millions of people's lives and family relationships I'm surprised he didn't announce it to his kids on Twitter at 9pm before leaving the following day.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/12/2022 12:09

Overgrowngrasslady · 02/12/2022 07:39

Sadly it’s not uncommon. Charles and camilla cheated on diana. Camilla is now the queen and publicly accepted.

i don’t know what folks expect, no one to meet him, for them to act ashamed for a set number of years, yes it was an affair, yes their marriages ended, but I am really not sure this attitude of they have to wear a scarlet letter to atone for an extended period and can’t be seen being affectionate is realistic. Their exes know full well they live together, as do the children involved. None of us know the state of the marriages they were in, neither ex has spoken, but few people leave a good marriage.

This. I cannot imagine there would be so much public vitriol were there not so much anger around at covid.

Testing for care homes became mandatory from 15th April 2020, about 3 weeks after the start of lockdown, which started on 26th March. MH contracted covid on. 27th March and will have been away from work for 2 weeks by law. Of course testing on release from hospital should have happened earlier. But the man wasn’t at work and he rectified the situation on his return.

So why the hell is he constantly public enemy No 1? And why are we not blaming someone else? What about Boris Johnson for starters? He must loooove the narrative that it wasn’t his fault.

ImAvingOops · 02/12/2022 12:21

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet Charlene and Babatunde were both met by their sisters, despite being married. It wasn't impossible for MH and GC to avoid the public spectacle

Aphidsandhoneybees · 02/12/2022 12:43

Those on this thread saying we should all get over it, they’re partners now, have very likely not been the scorned partner. To find out your husband / wife has been having an affair, for years in this case, is absolutely awful. They all will now have been separated for less than 2 years. That is not a long time. And they are possibly not all divorced yet. Who has been looking after MH’s children all this time? Certainly not him. In my eyes he is despicable and thoughtless. Integrity? To have had a years long affair? To admit he’s been in love with Gina all along, and now throws it in his wife and children's’ faces? I’m with you OP.

Americano75 · 02/12/2022 12:53

Having been on the same treatment as MH's wife, I can assure you it's not something you 'get over' or 'move on' from in a hurry, especially when it's played out for all the world to see.

My own experience was much longer ago than hers but my heart breaks for her, and her children.

TheFormidableMrsC · 02/12/2022 13:37

Americano75 · 02/12/2022 12:53

Having been on the same treatment as MH's wife, I can assure you it's not something you 'get over' or 'move on' from in a hurry, especially when it's played out for all the world to see.

My own experience was much longer ago than hers but my heart breaks for her, and her children.

That's how I feel. I don't think you ever truly get over it. I feel so desperately sorry for her and her children and indeed the other party involved. I hope they both find the happiness that they deserve going forward.

Americano75 · 02/12/2022 13:38

TheFormidableMrsC · 02/12/2022 13:37

That's how I feel. I don't think you ever truly get over it. I feel so desperately sorry for her and her children and indeed the other party involved. I hope they both find the happiness that they deserve going forward.

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No, you don't. That kind of pain and humiliation leaves it's own mark.